Eight Attributes of Top Performing Team Members

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

Eight Attributes of Top Performing Team Members

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Most of us have heard the behavioral truism, “You can’t take others to a place you have never been to before.” And this truth applies doubly to the functioning of patient-centered / relationship-based practices.

A central theme within this practice model is personal growth. And by this I mean progressively greater understanding and application of new knowledge in the lives of the dental team and patients as well. The former is critical because it influences the later…team members influence patients toward greater understanding and better choice-making.

Consequently, there are certain essential attributes which must be present in team members for this practice model to function optimally. Today, I will share with you eight behavioral attributes which should influence every hiring decision as well as establish behavioral benchmarks toward which everyone should be moving:

1. Optimistic -In spite of the craziness of today’s world, they maintain a hopeful and positive attitude toward adversity and people.

2. Involved – They actively pursue problem identification and resolution. Additionally, they are caring, and committed.

3. High Self-Regard – not to be confused with high self-esteem (which can include a distorted self-concept), they feel competent, capable, and worthy of success. They believe that their lives make a positive difference in this world and demonstrate it every day. And because they sincerely “feel good in their own skin” they are free to be other-centered, instead of defensively self-centered.

4. Missional -They have a transcendent commitment to living personal values which are very clear to them. This commitment goes far beyond immediacy, and beyond themselves. They see their life as an integral part of a greater whole and which is congruent with the mission of the practice.

5. Energetic – They are stimulated by their curiosity of people, things, and challenges. Consequently, their positive energy is contagious, and problem-solving ability high.

6. Resilient – They are flexible and adapt in a healthy, functional way to stress. Consequently, they do not avoid conflict, rather they approach it maturely with an intent to positively resolve it and move on.

7. Self Control – They know who they are. They know where they are. They know where they want to go. They know what they are doing – or are in the process of finding out. In other words, they are effective self-leaders.

8. Relationship-oriented – They prosper in long term intimate (open and honest without hidden agendas) relationships, and consequently they are able to seek out and effectively propagate opportunities for commitment in others through those relationships.

If you currently have a Care Team full of people with these attributes, it is indeed time to celebrate! And if not, this list of attributes represents a clear behavioral road map which will lead you in that direction.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, © 2017

Read more at: www.codiscovery.com

Insurance & Co-dependency

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One of the biggest concerns relative to dental “insurance”, has less to do with reimbursement levels than it does with the negative influence it can have on the nature of the Doctor-Patient relationships.

We can counter low insurance reimbursement levels via innovative cost-cutting and increased efficiencies, but we can not easily counter the demand for less interpersonal time with patients that these greater “efficiencies” naturally create as a side-affect.

Greater efficiency is thus easily traded for less interpersonal effectiveness in the name of “progress”. And less interpersonal effectiveness leads to more dependent and co-dependent relationships, where interpersonal boundaries are both poorly defined and poorly developed.

Dependent and Co-dependent relationships cause us to non-verbally agree to maintain a relationship where one person assumes a role of taking care of the other, while “the other” agrees to let themselves be taken care of.

The design of this type of relationship is fixed, and it’s rigidly defined roles impair growth. Consequently, it perpetuates the status quo rather than facilitating the moving-on to a higher level of health and functioning. And worse, co-dependent relationships are full of unspoken assumptions about responsibility and accountability which -when violated- erupt into conflict.

Co-discovery is the pathway to transitioning patients from co-dependency to inter-dependency, as it moves decision-making and goal-setting from being individually executed / imposed toward becoming a shared responsibility.

Hence, Co-discovery is all about collaboration. Collaboration begets synergy, and synergy creates a level of positive change and growth unachievable by functioning alone.

And as Three Dog Night sang, “One is the loneliest number”.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Purpose & Passion

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Passion is the spark that ignites self-motivation in dentistry.

And we can’t fake it.

Passion is commonly rooted in purpose, and those who discover how to link Purpose, Passion, and dentistry have a bright future ahead.

Rest assured, there will always be obstacles, but a passion for dentistry shapes one’s attitudes toward those barriers and facilitates faster, more creative, and more aligned solutions.

Finally, researchers on the topic of motivation all agree on one thing – strength of motivation is directly tied to the expected probability of success. In other words, dentists who truly believe they can accomplish their mission are highly motivated to do just that. Belief in mission yields motivation which yields the preferred outcome.

And what creates a belief in a mission?

Purpose.

How does dentistry fit into your life’s purpose and how passionate are you about it?

Paul A Henny DDS

 

Live it (don’t just think it)

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There is an important distinction between “having” a philosophy and “living” a philosophy.

“Having” a philosophy implies that we can envision a better way of practicing and living, but it doesn’t necessarily mean those thoughts are being acted upon -that progress is being made in the direction of that vision. “Having” a philosophy therefore can functionally be little more than a dream.

“Living” a philosophy, or living with a clear sense of purpose, is about engaging life based on clarified values, on an accurate understanding of ourself, on a realistic view of the world around us, on a clear understanding of what we are trying to accomplish, and therefore focused on principle-centered goals.

Drs. Pankey and Barkley talked extensively about the need for us to clarify our practice philosophy and to apply it daily, but most of us dentists rarely think of ourselves as philosophers, consequently we struggle to see the true value behind deeply engaging in this type of internal work.

Their point was that living a life of greater purpose is an opportunity which lies right in front of each of us, and that a life full of greater emotional, spiritual, and financial reward lies there as well.

Our daily decisions are what drive us toward the future. And it is what we believe about ourself and the world around us -our philosophy toward living- which influences that direction more than anything else…the direction toward a greater or lesser purpose.

Today might be a perfect time to examine your personal philosophy and subsequent practice and life purpose.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Your Future – Your Responsibility

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After 32 years in dentistry, I’ve consulted with a lot dentists, many of whom were nearing a point of retirement, and some even leaving the profession entirely.

And of that group, many expressed regret, and would tell me something like, “I wish I had possessed the courage to run my practice the way I felt it should have been run, instead of chasing the constant down-cycle of the insurance industry.”

I Why is this such a common regret in a profession which offers so much opportunity for independence, deeply rewarding interpersonal helping, and creativity?

Most dentists have their personal life under control and pointed in a preferred direction. They live where they like, they send their children to optimal schools, they involve themselves in Church and sports.

They coach.

They work out.

They vacation in fine places.

They drive nice cars.

And this is all because they know they have the power to choose, and they “choose to choose”, as Avrom King used to say.

But why is practice life so different for most? Why are dentists in so many dependency relationships with insurance companies and therefore patients when they have the choice not to do so?

“Money”, you say?

“It just can’t be done any other way in my town!”

Really?

Are you sure about that?

In reality, most of us exited the dental school treadmill of producing “procedures” and “If I can just get through this last semester”, into a practice situation which was almost identical to it, rendering out a similar emotional response…

“I hate this, but I have no choice right now.”

We focus down on the present so intensely that we can’t see over the hill. In fact, we don’t even acknowledge that there is a hill and something preferable on the other side.

We become automatons…we check-in, we check-out. We check for emotional scars at then end of the day. We say to ourselves, “Made it through another one…When is that trip to St.Thomas?”

And here is the result:

If we never draw a line in the sand and clarify what is really important to us and what we want our professional life to become. We just keep looking down. We just keep punching the clock. And we keep looking for the next enjoyable distraction.

Big game on tonight!

Did you see that new BMW six-series?

The gray areas of life loom larger when we fail to clarify what we believe, when we fail to live life buttressed by a philosophy which influences our decisions and choices and therefore guides us toward what brings more joy and satisfaction.

Without a personal practice philosophy, we are forced to adopt one from our environment – we are forced to adopt the philosophy of the insurance company or the corporation. And we are forced to accept what THEIR philosophy does to our soul. Consequently, we become a slave to an unchosen future due to our own lack of personal and professional leadership.

When Bob Barkley was asked for the one thing that he would like to grant all dentists…the one wish he had for them, his answer was immediate, “I wish every dentist would create a clear and written practice philosophy”.

And all of the above reasons are why he felt that way.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at: www.codiscovery.com

“What we have here is a failure to communicate.”

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When we fail to establish successful health-centered, and collaborative working relationships with our patients, the default relationship is always self-serving, in the sense that we are both working off of assumptions rather than a calibrated and shared view of a situation.

And functioning off of assumptions means that instead of understanding the other person’s perspective, values, feelings, priorities, and current circumstances, we insert our own perspective, values, feelings, and priorities.

In other words, we insert our biases to support our intentions and agendas, while the patient commonly does the same thing.

To quote the Captain in the legendary film Cool Hand Luke, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.”

And when the quality of communication is low, and the subsequent thinking is fogged by -often distorted- personal agendas, decisions typically revolve around the lowest commonly understood denominators.

Like money.

Like insurance coverage.

Like discounts.

And not about quality.

And not about health.

And not about negative trends clearly impacting health.

So that is how we get to the discussion place of, “Does my insurance cover this?”; instead of, “I understand- can you help me find a way that I can afford to do this? It’s important to me.”

And that is how many decisions are made which are not in a patient’s long-term best interest.

“Yes ma’am, you have fender coverage for your car – would you like us to fix it for you?”

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Learn more at www.codiscovery.com

Philosophy Matters.

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In dentistry, philosophy matters. In fact, it matters in every single practice whether we are consciously aware of it -or not. Bob Barkley knew this, and after first hearing this paradigm-shifting truth from L. D Pankey, he sought assistance.

Nate Kohn, Jr., PhD, was an educational psychologist (who also held a degree in Theology). Nate had been working with dentists for years at the time Bob met him. And Nate, an avid believer in the recently published work of Carl Rodgers PhD on person-centered therapy, helped Bob clarify his person-centered practice philosophy as well as successfully implement it.

From there, Bob shared what he had learned with the world.

Unfortunately, Nate unexpectedly died in 1970, and this forced Bob to continue on his philosophical journey without him. (Bob connected with Avrom King, a Social Psychologist, at about that time, and Avrom worked with Bob via letter and phone calls for an average of five hours a week on Philosophy and application up until Bob’s passing). Bob stated, “I cannot overstate the value of Nate’s psychological guidance during this most critical phase of my life…Nate’s death made it necessary for me to read extensively in order to find references for some of our concepts.”

In other words, the crisis forced by Nate’s death caused Bob to dig down still deeper and grow even more in his understanding of the need for a clarified practice philosophy.

In his book, Successful Preventive Dental Practice, Bob sites the following quote regarding a major problem which still exists within dentistry today, that “outside-in” solutions are commonly employed to resolve “inside-out” issues…issues directly associated with philosophy.

“Life is such that we frequently can ‘get on’, or even ‘get ahead’ , without much reflection, sliding along in paths already well worn by others. This is not to say, that in doing so we may not learn many things along the way. We can continually add new patterns of belief and increase our ability to deal with future situations without understanding the import of what we added.

This process, tends to smother our sensitivity to incongruence; hence, when life occasionally forces us out of well-worn paths, we are overwhelmed by confusion and frustration. We suddenly discover that what we possess is a conglomeration of patterns, not an integral structure. What appears to be knowledge, turns out to be mere information. What seemed to be basic organizing beliefs – a philosophy of life – turns out to be a ‘modus operandi’, a way of working, learned largely through thoughtless imitation, informal conditioning, or by simple trial and error.”*

What is your practice philosophy, and how do you apply it?

* Excerpted from Reflective Thinking: The Method of Education. Hullfish, Gordon, & Smith, 1961

Paul A Henny DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Co-discovery & Co-diagnosis – What’s the Difference?

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Bob Barkley is largely credited for bringing two terms into our profession’s lexicon: “Co-discovery” and “Co-diagnosis”.

And as a consequence, both terms are commonly seen in articles, books, and presentations focused on patient-centered care as well as during programs which teach comprehensive treatment planning and case acceptance.

Rarely however, do we see distinctions made between Co-discovery and Co-diagnosis, when in-fact these terms represent two distinctly different phases of a new patient process which have different objectives.

Today, let’s clarify the distinctions.

“Co-discovery” can simply and accurately be described as “learning with”. And Bob Barkley was extremely intentional about HOW he structured his new patient experience so that optimal “learning with” occurred each time.

Learning with what?

Bob intentionally created a new and unique experience for BOTH the new patient and himself, in which they -in real time – learned about not only what was wrong in a patient’s mouth, but also what was right…about what was healthy and what was pathological…about what was subjectively attractive and what was not…about what was functional and dysfunctional… and about what was trending toward becoming a problem.

But of equal importance, Bob and the patient were simultaneously learning about HOW THE PATIENT FELT ABOUT WHAT THEY WERE LEARNING AND WHAT IT MEANT TO THEM.

That’s Co-discovery… objective, subjective, AND emotional learning which happens in a safe, non-threatening, caring, constructive, and infinitely useful fashion.

Co-diagnosis on the other hand, is what happens AFTER co-discovery. It is the informed conversation focused around what the findings mean and what the implications are on the physical, functional, and emotional levels as well as what the patient wants to do about it -and when.

Bob Barkley was so committed to this process that he stated in his new patient brochure, “While it is important that a dentist diagnose your mouth, it is far more important that YOU diagnose it. The extent to which you understand your mouth determines your ability to plan for your future.”

Notice here that Bob is intentionally NOT taking ownership of the patient’s condition, or choices. In fact, he states his deeply held belief that patients can make better choices for themselves if WE give them a chance.*

So in the end, Co-discovery and Co-diagnosis are actually about fostering ownership, self-responsibility, and therefore facilitating the creation of healthy and effective emotional boundaries with our patients.

And Co-discovery and Co-diagnosis were the critical steps #1 and #2 in predictably making that happen.

Pretty impressive for 1972, wouldn’t you say?

Paul A Henny, DDS

* Bob Barkley also stated in his book Successful Preventive Dental Practices, “No greater risk of failure can be run than that of attempting to use traditional patient management procedures in a health oriented restorative practice. Examining and treating a patient’s mouth without prior attitudinal development is an error of omission for which the dentist pays handsomely with time, energy, stress, and money.”

On Word-of-Mouth Referals

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You did an amazing job revitalizing her smile, so why didn’t she refer her friends to you for similar care?

It is likely that this happened because you never asked for the referral, or if you did, it was at the wrong time or in the wrong way.

We all dislike asking for referrals, as we feel that the quality of our work should speak for itself. And asking feels too much like the behavior of a pandering politician; we feel professionals simply should not behave like that.

We also know that asking for referrals can put the patient in a difficult and uncomfortable position. After all, what if the person simply wants to keep their personal health care choices private?

Referrals are the life blood of all health-centered / relationship-based practices. This is because referrals are the best way to replicate the kind and quality of clients we want to work with, which in turn allows us to do our best work on people who appreciate it and are willing to pay an appropriate fee to receive it.

And this is because “birds of a-feather, flock together” ; we culturally and interpersonally tend to socialize and spend time with those who share similar values, and health-centeredness is a strong value theme for many today.

So, what is the best way to generate the right kind of referrals for your practice?

The answer lies within the work of Robert Cialdini, PhD, whose research on human behavior is quite revealing. And what we know now is that simply asking for a referral is often not enough.

First, referrals are driven by feelings not just objective observations. Does the patient feel the same way about the outcome that you do? How about the process? They had to sit for the long appointments, injections, time off from work, provisionals, etc.. Do you really know how they feel about the WHOLE experience? Only those who feel that the outcome was worth substantially more to them than the time, energy, discomfort, and money invested are going to give you a glowing review.

The rest will just move on.

Also, the appropriate time to ask for a referral is key. It should only happen after the topic of how happy the patient is about the outcome has been brought up. In other words, it is a natural extension of an authentic empathetic conversation. To do otherwise – to force a conversation in the direction of your agenda – is manipulative, and the patient will immediately sense it and shut down.

Finally, Cialdini tell us that the old adage “give before you receive” holds true. The patient may feel that the transaction was completed, along with their obligations to you after the fee was paid. The best way around this issue is to give the patient a “Thank You Gift” AFTER payment and treatment is completed. This could be a gift certificate for a nice restaurant appropriate to the person’s taste. Then after giving the gift, and their expression of appreciation for the unexpected surprise, do you ask for the referral like this:

“We have really enjoyed working with you on the creation of your new smile. If you know of anyone who might appreciate our services, we would love to meet them!

Our initial visits are free and we would love to meet with them and help them in any way possible. We consider you as part of our practice family, and any friends of yours will be welcomed with open arms!”

Finally, print out before and after pictures to give to your patients regarding their smile. These should be portrait style pictures of high quality displaying their new and old smile.

79.9% of businesses say they have no formal process for generating referrals. If you are in that category, you need to do something about it right now.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Copyright © 2016. Thought Experiments, LLC.

Perception is Reality to Many

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Perhaps one of the most challenging aspects of dentistry, and life in general, is that things are often not what they appear to be – particularly in the beginning.

And this truth naturally includes our perception of others and their intentions and agendas. Studies tell us that we form opinions about others within the first eight seconds of first meeting them, from there, we seek to confirm our initial perception.

In other words, we use confirmation bias to color in the details around our initial psychological sketch to then draw a conclusion which is likely to be in alignment with way we want to see things.

And that is an elaborate way of saying that we use rationalizations to explain the world around us to ourselves more often than we use our self-discipline and resourcefulness to uncover the real truth – particularly with regard to how OTHERS perceive it.

New patients who come to us full of memories, assumptions, and biases as well. So, the formation of a new relationship with a person is much like a dance with a stranger and somewhat forced together by circumstance. And that dance may be harmonious because what they are expecting is what is happening, or it may be an uncomfortable and even threatening herky-jerky experience…an experience that they can not wait to end.

The goal for us then, is to facilitate the former and avoid the later, as the later is counter-productive with regard to successful collaboration.

In other words, if the very nature of our relationship with another person is uncomfortable, what is the likelihood of them making good decisions for themselves? And what therefore is the likelihood of that person making a decision which leads toward a higher level of health and a lower level of putting their health at risk?

How do we do that?

One word – marketing.

Marketing? The manipulative vehicle which is the very scourge of our capitalistic society?

Yep – that marketing.

You see, marketing has nothing to do with ethics, although it may or may not be ethical. It may lead a person toward a good choice or a bad choice. And that is because marketing is about image and expectation management.

In the world of dentistry, we have thousands of opportunities to create images and shape expectations. We also have thousands of opportunities to ignore those opportunities or even to undercut them.

So yes, dentistry’s perception problem is of our own making, and therefore only ours to solve.

And because we – collectively speaking – have failed so miserably at conveying a health-centered message about dentistry ( instead we convey that it is about things – implants, teeth cleaning, saving money, veneers, etc.) that most people fail to perceive dentistry as having much of anything to do with their total health.

As Pogo infamously said, “I have met the enemy and the enemy is us.”

We can change the direction of our profession as it careens toward corporate consolidation and depersonalizations only by changing the public’s perception of it.

And that is what co-discovery can do. Bob Barkley had that figured out fifty years ago. Why didn’t we listen?

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2016

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