On the Power of the Subconscious Mind

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

On the Power of the Subconscious Mind

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By William Lockhard Jr., DDS

It is a well-known fact that one comes, finally, to believe whatever one repeats to one’s self, whether the statement be true or false. If a man repeats a lie over and over, he will eventually accept the lie as truth. Moreover, he will believe it to be the truth. Any thought, idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought. Every man is what he is because of the dominating thoughts which he permits to occupy his mind. These thoughts constitute the motivating forces which direct and control his every movement, act, and deed. This is why you are asked to write out a statement of your major purpose-driven vision for a meaningful life of service; commit it to memory, and repeat it day after day until these words have reached your subconscious mind.

When one can vividly imagine his dominate desire to the extent that he can see, sense and feel that he possesses his desire as in a virtual reality or hologram, and is pleased with what he will have become and attained, the subconscious mind will guide him to make the necessary decisions and activities to achieve his desire without conscious effort. Only after one chooses to become the person in one’s dreams are the capabilities of the subconscious brought fully into play. Making the right choices and focusing on the results that are really important is the process to achieve a meaningful purpose. It may be, as suggested, that the Holy Spirit is the small, quiet voice in our subconscious mind guiding our thoughts and actions. The subconscious mind will bring to pass any picture in your mind through faith.

According to Napoleon Hill, “There is plenty of evidence to support the belief that the subconscious mind is the connecting link between the finite mind of man and Infinite Intelligence (God). It is the intermediary through which one may draw upon the forces of Infinite Intelligence at will. It, alone, contains the secret process by which mental impulses are modified and changed into their spiritual equivalent. It, alone, is the medium through which prayer may be transmitted to the source capable of answering prayer. It is true that the subconscious mind responds more quickly to, and is influenced more readily by thought impulses which are well mixed with emotion.”

“As you think, you travel: and as you love, you attract. You are today where your thoughts take you. You cannot escape the results of your thoughts but you can endure and learn: can accept and be glad. You will realize the vision (not the idle wish) of your heart, be it base or beautiful, or a mixture of both, for you will always gravitate towards that which you most secretly love. Into your hands will be placed the exact results of your thoughts: you will receive that which you earn – no more, no less. Whatever your present environment may be, you will fall, remain, or rise with your thoughts, your vision, your ideals. You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominate aspiration. -As a Man Thinketh, James Allen

M. William Lockard, Jr.

A Pheasant Hunt in Kansas

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By William Lockard, Jr., DDS

In 1995 I bought a black Labrador retriever puppy and named him “Hunter.” After 2 years training, hunting and competing in field trials Hunter achieved the “Hunter Retriever” title.
Since then, Hunter and I hunted everything from doves, ducks, geese, pheasant and the wily squirrel in Kansas, Oklahoma, Texas and Colorado. He has been featured on the “Oklahoma Wildlife Channel” and an “International TV Feature on Outstanding Breeds.” While hunting pheasant in Kansas a friend shot a bird that fell into thick grass. Hunter did not see the bird fall approximately 50 yards away.
I sent him in the direction of the bird on a blind retrieve; when I thought he was close I whistle stopped him; he sat facing me waiting for a signal; I held my arm high above my head and made large circles in the air; he instantly started to make expanding circles until he picked up the bird.
My friend was amazed and asked, “How did you train him to do that”? I said, “I have never done that before.” I always called him “Hunter the Wonder Dog” and he really was.
In 2006 John Amico (Hunter’s trainer) selected a male puppy, Max, from Hunter’s last liter. John trained Max as he had done with Hunter. Now, fast forward to 2008, three friends and I were going to hunt Pheasant at our favorite place, Flying W Pheasant Ranch, in Kansas. Hunter is now 13 and Max is 2 years old. This would be the first time Max will hunt pheasant.
When we arrived at the old house that we have stayed in for the past 10 years, Hunter immediately acted like he is a young dog again. He knew where he was and what was going to happen in the morning. Max just thought it is a new adventure with the guys.
The next morning in the field, Max had no idea what was going on so he followed Hunter as he moved among the rows of cut maize. When Hunter would flush a bird someone shot it; Max was so fast that Hunter or the other man’s dog never had a chance to retrieve it.
My friend decided to put his dog back in the truck. After about one hour I put Max in the truck so Hunter could retrieve some birds. After Hunter retrieved 10 birds he was looking very tired so I brought Max back.
The last bird shot finally fell at about 70 yards; Hunter and Max started off together, but running over the uneven ground was hard and Hunter sat down about halfway and watched Max race on to retrieve the bird. They returned side-by-side. With tears in my eyes I witnessed the passing of the torch. They both sat in front of me; Max presented the bird to my hand as he had been taught. He learned from the best, his father.
At the end of the day, 4 shooters shot 50 birds. Max on his first hunt retrieved 35 birds, Hunter picked up 10, and my friend’s dog retrieved 5 birds. Max now 7 years old has matured to become a carbon copy of his father, Hunter, in looks and ability. This was ‘the best of hunts’ to see Max and Hunter working so well together. And the ‘worst of hunts’ knowing this would be my last hunting trip with Hunter. He could hardly move for 2 days and died the next year.

On the Difference between “Treatment” and “Care”

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THE CLEAR DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ” TREATMENT” & “CARE” (AND HOW UNDERTANDING THIS DISTINCTION IS ESSENTIAL TO YOUR PRACTICE FUTURE)
by paul | Previously published May 21, 2013 | Comprehensive Care |

By Dr. James Otten:

One of the great joys of being in a health care practice is that we get to spend time getting to know and more importantly, understanding what’s going on in the lives of our patients. This week I had the opportunity to spend time with one of the newer members of our patient family whose spouse is undergoing some very difficult chemotherapy. Many years ago early in my practice, when I bought into the all too pervasive notion that “success” was hinged to how many patients I could see in a day, this kind of conversation would have never happened. Now I know that in fact if we are truly about health care this conversation is vital to our collective health. Let me tell you why.
Part of our conversation was about her experience with a specialty center for her husband’s care and how comforting it was to them that all professionals there exuded an attitude of caring coupled with a confidence or what we call “unconscious competence”. This, we discovered through our conversation, is no small distinction. What often gets talked about as “health care”, especially to our patients, is really just a menu of treatment options. In dentistry we often see this same reference to comprehensive care. In fact, we wonder why we have a health system that spends enormous amounts of money and often has relatively poor outcomes? I would submit it’s because we’re only discussing treatment and as long as that’s what gets rewarded in the system, that’s what you’ll get more of, but as we know, treatment alone does not produce the best outcomes.
If however, you look at all the great health centers like Mayo, Cleveland, and Cooper Clinics, (and hopefully our practices) they don’t just provide great treatment but they care for people and to do so all have some fundamental characteristics: they work collaboratively, they focus on the whole person, they are constantly improving and they are a culture of compassionate people. Most of these can be learned with the exception of compassion. You can’t really teach compassion, but you sure can model it and build a culture of compassionate people.
I hope when our patients visit us they feel like this particular patient did and that these same qualities are a part of their everyday experience with us. We believe that lives are enriched by healthy smiles and that this can only be achieved through real health care. Care is a personalized experience that takes the time to know and understand our patients and how we can help them. This is not just semantics– care and compassion are more than just words. They have to be demonstrated by people who are always willing to do whatever it takes to help another, who go the extra mile and who constantly strive for excellence.
That conversation I had this week? Well I can only hope my patient was somehow comforted by being able to talk about the difficult time that she had been through. This is what healing is really about. I know that it also helps me to heal when the people we care for demonstrate the courage to face all the fears and anxieties that come with health challenges –whether it’s cancer or dental health. Last time I checked there was no code or procedural description for intentional listening or non-judgemental acceptance but these are as important as any part of a patient’s evaluation and plan. This is what comprehensive care is about.
I felt I was a “good” dentist back in the early days and looking back I think I was good but not great. Running from chair to chair I missed the most important part of the process—the patients story. Without it we are only guessing about what is appropriate and, when we guess, treatment is fragmented and outcomes are not what they could be. We are privileged to be a part of the lives of our patients that entrust us with their care not just procedures. We should be vigilant about thanking them for sharing their stories with us. They inspire us, they honor us with their trust and appreciation and they make us better practitioners and people.

Pankey & Barkley – Behavioral Pioneers

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Richard Feynman is widely regarded as one of the top ten physicists of all time. He assisted in the Manhattan Project, has been credited with pioneering the field of quantum computing, and helped introduce the concept of nanotechnology to the world.

At one point, Feynman started working on a new theory of beta decay because his experiments were rendering out different results than what many others claimed to be true.

Feynman went back and investigated the original study on which all of the “experts” based their conclusions, and discovered that the original study was flawed; he discovered that the so-called “truth” was actually nothing more than a bunch of “experts” quoting each other, and then using their mutual opinions to justify their pet theory.

Such is the nature of physics, biology, science, and psychology – where “truth” is a moving object based on current knowledge challenged by skepticism and then influenced by more knowledge over time.

A similar situation occurred in dentistry with regard to psychology, a favorite topic of both L.D. Pankey, and Bob Barkley. To a large degree, Pankey and Barkley were the Robert Feynmans’ of their day. They observed behavior patterns in patients and noticed that the accepted psychological dogma failed to line up with the way that many people actually behaved.

Why don’t people choose to restore their mouths after being presented with irrefutable logic that they should? (and based on a “case presentation”)

You see, dentistry has historically been influenced by behavioristic psychology – the concept that man was a reactive organism or a robot simply influenced by facts.

But anyone who has practiced dentistry for a day knows this is inaccurate. We see people make seemingly irrational decisions all the time. We see behavior that does not follow logic. We see free will in action.

Pankey and Barkley consequently explored the possibility that people were predictably unpredictable – and why. They explored the true motivators behind decision-making, the areas of learning, self-interest, emotion, and readiness.

And as a result, both Pankey and Barkley became masters at helping others make better decisions, and became legends along the way. They rejected established thinking that the simple exposure to logical information leads to learning. They instead focused on HOW people learn and HOW to facilitate that process more and more effectively.

And with that knowledge, they were able to create philosophy-centered practices and help people in ways that others could not.

How has the work of Drs. Pankey and Barkley helped your practice?

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

A Co-Discovery Method to Consider

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COMMUNICATING QUALITY TO OUR PATIENTS

Robert L. Cunningham, D.D.S.

Helping our patients/clients to value fine dentistry has everything to do with how we are with the patient during their initial (and continuing care) visits to our office. A close, ongoing examination of how we structure and pace the New Patient/Co-diagnosis Experience is vital to our success in forming a trust bond with our patients. What we do after the initial visits will wither enhance or detract from that image.

Patients enter our practice in basically three ways: 1. With a dental emergency or “urgency”; 2. Through a visit with the hygienist; and 3. When requesting an examination.

It is our stated objective that the vast majority (about 80-90%) of our patients enter the practice through the Co-diagnosis process.

THE “EMERGENCY” NEW PATIENT

Use the regular health history. Have the patient sign the consent for treatment and the toothache questionnaire.

Treatment Coordinator or chairside assistant conducts patient into the consultation room and reviews the health history and toothache form with the patient, taking time to listen to their fears and concerns.

The interviewer excuses them and gives the doctor a synopsis of their emergency and the patient’s personality style.

The doctor and the assistant decide if it is necessary for the doctor to interview the patient or have the assistant go ahead with the necessary x-rays.
The patient is seated in a treatment room. If the doctor has not yet met the patient, he is introduced by the assistant and takes a few minutes to establish rapport, review the history and diagnostic information.

A diagnosis is made and the patient’s options are quickly and precisely explained to the patient. The doctor or assistant discusses appropriate fees.
Palliative relief is provided to the patient. The patient’s comfort is foremost. Appropriate anesthetic and/or analgesic are administered slowly and painlessly.

Future needs are quickly discussed in general terms. The assistant helps the patient make and appointment with the appropriate doctor or specialist. The patient is strongly encouraged to appoint for a comprehensive exam.

THE HYGIENE NEW PATIENT

Patients are encouraged not to enter the practice in this manner. It puts the focus on the old adage that, “I only want my teeth cleaned and checked.” It does not allow our practice to be represented as favorably and comprehensively as we would like. The job of the person taking the incoming call is to tactfully and assertively communicate this to the patient. If the patient still insists, they are appointed to see the hygienist only.

The process is as follows:

Welcome package is sent. If time does not permit the package to reach the patient prior to the appointment, they are asked to come in at least ten minutes prior to the scheduled appointment.
The hygienist interviews the patient in the consultation room and takes about five minutes to review the health history and establish rapport.
The doctor is introduced to the patient in the consultation room after being de-briefed by the hygienist. Using the notes made on the health history and Personal Patient Profile form, he focuses mainly on the medical portion of the form and explains briefly what the IPT (Initial Periodontal Therapy) appointment entails.

The doctor conducts the patient into the hygiene room, where blood pressure, bacterial slide and complete periodontal charting is performed by the hygienist. The slide is viewed by the patient and the results are discussed by the hygienist. AAP periodontal typing is done with an emphasis on the number and depth of pockets, bleeding points, and recession. If a prophylaxis can be completed at that appointment, the treatment is completed. If the patient needs periodontal therapy, the doctor is brought in at that point to make the diagnosis. (See materials on Periodontal Team Management from JP Consultants.)

After the doctor leaves the room, fees are discussed, financial arrangements are negotiated, and appointments are made in the computer in the hygiene room.

The patient is encouraged by the hygienist and assistant to reappoint for Co-diagnosis with the doctor.

Care, comfort, concern and professionalism are the main concepts to be communicated.

THE NEW PATIENT EXPERIENCE/CO-DIAGNOSIS

(85% OF New Patients)

Appointment #1

Telephone information is taken and recorded on the “Personal Patient Profile. A convenient appointment is contracted with the patient. Welcome package is sent. Get patient’s permission to send a health history. (If they are hesitant to fill it our at home, we will interview them and fill out the form for the patient.)

When the patient arrives on the day of the appointment, they are acknowledged by name and told that the treatment coordinator will be right with them. Be sure to notice where they sit and notify the T.C. Offer hospitality – coffee, tea, water and/or a magazine.

2. Treatment Coordinator/Assistant Role.
A. Introduced by the front desk. T.C. explains her role.

B. Patient is asked if they would like to see the office. TOUR OF OFFICE. Stress our emphasis on their care and comfort, especially sterilization and infection control.

C. Interview in a private, preferably non-clinical place. After a few minutes of social chit-chat, start the interview by reviewing the health history, dental history and the questions on the Personal Patient Profile. It is not necessary to ask all of the questions on the Profile, just enough to get an understanding of the patient’s issues and establish rapport. Record a healthy history synopsis on the front of the “Examination Record”. Highlight or underline any particularly important information.

D. Key Questions :
Be sure to ask the “expectations” question at the bottom of the Profile. Record the answer word-for-word.

Ask them, “Would it be helpful if I share with you a little about us and what we are trying to achieve in our practice?” This is a good opportunity to share the written “Practice Philosophy” and give them a copy.
In a spirit of self-disclosure and deep personal sharing, let them know that we are in the health business, not the tooth business, Share your own feelings abut your experiences in health care and how our practice might be similar or different. Write down their response.

If the patient has any cosmetic concerns, give them a copy of our “Personal Smile Analysis” and ask them to complete it and bring it with them on their next visit.

Review with the patient the value of full mouth x-rays, study models, and photographs by using a set of generic records. Let them know that the patient and the doctor will determine which records are appropriate for them.

Review the medical and dental histories and make notes on the form for the doctor. Excuse yourself and debrief the doctor about the patient’s history and personality style. Emphasis is placed on the patient’s pace and priority. The doctor is taken into the consultation room and introduced to the patient. The T.C. stays with the doctor and patient only as long it takes for the doctor and patient to establish an initial rapport, then she excuses herself.

Doctor’s role:
A. Social graces – i.e. a conversation based on starting to establish a trust bond relationship between the doctor and the patient. Focus on who referred then, who you may know in common, family, sense of humor. Listen intently!

B. Summarize – Health histories and interview forms (Personal Patient Profile and Personal Smile analysis). Use eye contact, feedback, acceptance, and anchoring. Remember the axiom, “God gave you two eyes, two ears, and one mouth. Learn to use them in that proportion.” C. Contract – Decide with the patient’s approval which diagnostic data will be used to do a complete diagnosis and establish a treatment plan. For comprehensive restorative cases full mouth periapical x-rays, mounted study models, and photographs will be necessary before appointment #2. It may be appropriate to make a separate “Records Appointment” to get the necessary data.

D. Screening exam – The purpose of the screening exam is to determine which diagnostic records are necessary and to get a get a general impression of the state of the patient’s mouth. Be sure to emphasize to the patient that this is not a comprehensive exam. Let them know that during their next visit you will have all of the diagnostic data and complete the exam and do a consultation if that is appropriate. If possible it is beneficial for the patient to have an initial visit with the hygiene department (I.P.T.) prior to the diagnostic appointment, so that pocket charting, bleeding points and AAP periodontal typing will be available at the Co-Diagnosis 2 appointment.

Appointment #2

1. Treatment Coordinator/Assistant role.
A. The patient is met in the reception room, greeted, and conducted into

exam room.

B. Re-establish rapport with the patient. Ask them if any other questions or considerations came up for them since their last visit. Answer the questions you feel confident in and defer the others to the doctor.

C. If the patient has completed a “Personal Smile Analysis”, review their answers and mark areas of concern for the doctor. The doctor is notified that the patient is ready and the doctor is privately debriefed on the attitude, issues and concerns of the patient.

2. Doctor’s role.
A. Doctor takes a few minutes to “reconnect” with the patient, first socially then picking up from the last visit as the Treatment Coordinator relays a summary of her conversation with the patient.

B. The doctor focuses on any questions or concerns of the patient and is careful to write down anything that needs to be addressed after the examination. It is helpful to revisit their answers on the “Personal Patient Profile” and “Personal Smile Analysis.”

C. Helpful questions and discussions that may be used at this time:
How do you feel so far?
Is there anything that you need to know about us or our philosophy that we haven’t discussed.
You may share with them – this is what I would want if I were a patient: 1). Gentleness, and 2). A dentist who will help me need him less.
The differences between emergency, urgency, short term, medium, and long term treatment planning. Quality and timing.
Do you want to keep your teeth for a lifetime?

D. Exam sequencing.
1. The T.C./assistant charts missing teeth and existing restorations from the models and x-rays.

2. On the back of the Examination Record two lists have to be made: 1). Diagnostic Issues. This is a 1, 2, 3, etc. list of major issues to be dealt with in their treatment plan. Examples of commonly used issues are missing teeth, malocclusion and shifting, periodontal condition, caries present, failing restorations, bruxism, oral hygiene, pathology, etc.

2). Diagnostic Options. These are treatment plan options in general terms with no fees attached. These options are usually broken down to mandibular and maxillary segments.

3. Comprehensive oral exam. Including tooth diagnosis, occlusal analysis, oral pathology exam, periodontal exam (If not previously done by the hygienist.) and completion of the entire checklist on the front of the Examination Record.
4. At this point the doctor conducts the patient and T.C. into the Consultation Room, where all of the diagnostic data is assembled on the counter to be discussed by the doctor and the patient. The T.C. usually stays in the room in the background as the doctor summarizes his findings and co-creates the treatment plan with the patient. The conversation may be specific with a patient who thoroughly understands their options and is able to make a decision then. This is particularly true of simple to moderately complex treatment plans.

At this point a very important decision needs to be made. Depending upon the patient’s receptivity, pace (fast or slow) and priority (relationships or things), the doctor must sense whether to continue the process or to reappoint for a separate consultation appointment. Sometimes hygiene appointments, particularly a series of periodontal root planings should be scheduled as a first phase of treatment before major restorative fees are discussed. This is because results of the root planing may alter treatment plan, and having the patient in for a series of appointments with the nurturing atmosphere of our team will made them feel more comfortable with who we are.

Appointment #3

1. The Doctor’s Role. (In a non-clinical setting.)
Ask the following questions and record the answers:

How have you enjoyed your experience with us?
Have you decided how you want to see your teeth in 10 years?
How may we help you with your plan?
The doctor listens, responds, gets agreement on the patient’s plan of action, finalizes the treatment plan and quotes the fee, if appropriate at that time. The doctor asks the T.C. to discuss financial arrangements and make appropriate appointments. Doctor exits.

2. Treatment Coordinator/Assistant’s Role.
Asks patient if there is anything that needs clarification at this time. Answers concerns.

Whatever treatment has been agreed upon, the T.C. discusses financial arrangements, completes and has the patient sign a “Treatment Estimate”, makes the next appointment and collects the down payment. The T.C. is responsible that all financial arrangements made by her be signed and dated by the patient.

When the patient leaves, before going on to another task, the T.C. puts the patient’s case in the computer for tracking. If the treatment is to be phased, multiple cases are used. The doctor is presented with an updated tracking report every Monday morning. The status of pending treatment is discussed and follow-up measures are assigned.

It is important that all patients be kept in the periodontal recare system so that pending treatment may also be tracked and the video used in hygiene to revisit their need for restorative.

THE ENTIRE OFFICE IS COMMITTED MAINTAINING AN ONGOING, PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH THE PATIENT.

A Crabby Old Man? Look Closer.

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Look at Me – See Me

When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in North Platte, Nebraska it was believed that he had nothing left of any value. Later when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. It has appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Association for Mental Health.

Crabby Old Man

What do you see nurses?………..what do you see?

What are you thinking…………..when you’re looking at me?

A crabby old man………………….not very wise.

Uncertain of habit…………………..with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles his food…………………and makes no reply.

When you say in a loud voice………“I do wish you’d try”

Who seems not to notice……………..the things that you do.

And forever is losing……………………a sock or shoe?

Who, resisting or not………………….lets you do as you will,

With bathing and feeding……………the long day to fill?

Is that what you’re thinking?……….is that what you see?

Then open you eyes, nurse………..you’re not looking at me.

I’ll tell you who I am……………..as I sit here so still.

As I do at your bidding…………as I eat at your will.

I’m a small child of Ten………..with a father and mother.

Brothers and sisters…………….who love one another.

A young boy of Sixteen……………..with wings on his feet,

Dreaming that soon now…………….a lover he’ll meet.

A groom soon at Twenty…………….my heart gives a leap.

Remembering, the vows…………….that I promised to keep.

At Twenty-Five, now…………….I have young of my own.

Who need me to guide…………and a secure happy home.

A man of Thirty……………………my young now grown fast.

Bound to each other…………….with ties that should last.

At Forty, my young sons……………….have grown and are gone.

But my woman’s beside me…………..to see I don’t mourn.

At Fifty, once more babies …………play ‘round my knee.

Again, we know children……………….my loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me………………my wife is now dead.

I look at the future………………………shudder with dread.

For my young are all rearing………..young of their own.

And I think of the years……………….and the love that I’ve known.

I’m now an old man……………..and nature is cruel.

Tis jest to make old age……….look like a fool.

The body, it crumbles…………..grace and vigor, depart.

There is now a stone……………where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass………..a young guy still dwells.

And now and again………………….my battered heart swells.

I remember the joys…………………I remember the pain.

And I’m loving and living…………..life over again.

I think of the years, all too few…………gone too fast.

And accept the stark fact………………..that nothing can last.

So open your eyes, people……………..open and see.

  1. Not a crabby old man……………………..LOOK CLOSER…SEE ME !!

 

Generously shared by Bill Lockhard Jr. DDS

Thoughts for Living

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Thoughts for Living

Go Places amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, strive to be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too, have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of God. Find peace through accepting that His plan is unfolding as it should. Yours is not to know why, as only He knows the greater context and reason for everything.

Therefore through acceptance, be at peace with Him, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisey confusion of life keep this peace and be assured, Strive to share His love and Peace with others.

Adapted from Desiderata by Max Ehrmann (1872-1945)

A Funny Story – Gary Solomon, DDS, MAGD

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Here is a funny story.

I was making a denture for a very nice lady recently. We took great impressions with spot on border molding. I made salt and pepper base plates and wax rims.  I was able to get the maxillary rim right where she and I liked how it made her face look. Now to work on the lower rim.  Well, I spent more than double the usual time getting more and more frustrated as each time I came back into the room to test what I had, it never looked good and back to the lab I went over and over again. I did not realize, when I was in the lab, my patient asked my dental assistant for a hot cup of coffee and sipped it while she had the upper wax rim in her mouth! When she heard me come back into the treatment room, she put it down. Over and over, back and forth to the lab I went getting more frustrated until I came in and saw her sipping the coffee! She was melting the upper wax rim in an uneven manor and I was trying to record a vertical and bite!

We had a good laugh but she was embarrassed. At her next visit, I gave her a Starbuck’s Gift Card!

It all turned out just fine!

Gary Solomon, DDS, MAGD

Gifts – Robert W. Spreen, DDS

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Many of us have received extraordinary gifts.  We have benefited from the opportunity to learn specialized skills to offer to those who seek our care.  We have been given insights by revered mentors as well as inspirational encounters with everyday people. It has been said “For those to whom much is given, much is required.”

As I go through my day, I try to do what is required as a result of the abundance of gifts I have received, using those skills and insights that have been unselfishly offered to me.  Perhaps the greatest professional gift I have received, however, came from my wife Jeanne.  As an oncology nurse for over 20 years she brought skills and compassion to individuals who faced more than a loss of a measure of health – they faced fear.  Her words were simple, offered with the touch of a warm hand and soft eyes. Her gift was the words, “We’ll get you through this.”

Her words offered no promise of cure, no sugar-coated view of the process.  People know.  Hers is a deeply personal promise of caring, commitment and compassion. It is the promise of not being alone.  It is a rare gift that can be more powerful than our commonly applied skills, procedures or technology.  I’d like to think her words live somewhere in every conversation I have with those who seek my care.

It is among my most treasured gifts from her.  I am happily required to pass it along to you.

 

Robert W. Spreen DDS

Contributing Writer

Eight Attributes of Top Performing Team Members

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Most of us have heard the behavioral truism, “You can’t take others to a place you have never been to before.” And this truth applies doubly to the functioning of patient-centered / relationship-based practices.

A central theme within this practice model is personal growth. And by this I mean progressively greater understanding and application of new knowledge in the lives of the dental team and patients as well. The former is critical because it influences the later…team members influence patients toward greater understanding and better choice-making.

Consequently, there are certain essential attributes which must be present in team members for this practice model to function optimally. Today, I will share with you eight behavioral attributes which should influence every hiring decision as well as establish behavioral benchmarks toward which everyone should be moving:

1. Optimistic -In spite of the craziness of today’s world, they maintain a hopeful and positive attitude toward adversity and people.

2. Involved – They actively pursue problem identification and resolution. Additionally, they are caring, and committed.

3. High Self-Regard – not to be confused with high self-esteem (which can include a distorted self-concept), they feel competent, capable, and worthy of success. They believe that their lives make a positive difference in this world and demonstrate it every day. And because they sincerely “feel good in their own skin” they are free to be other-centered, instead of defensively self-centered.

4. Missional -They have a transcendent commitment to living personal values which are very clear to them. This commitment goes far beyond immediacy, and beyond themselves. They see their life as an integral part of a greater whole and which is congruent with the mission of the practice.

5. Energetic – They are stimulated by their curiosity of people, things, and challenges. Consequently, their positive energy is contagious, and problem-solving ability high.

6. Resilient – They are flexible and adapt in a healthy, functional way to stress. Consequently, they do not avoid conflict, rather they approach it maturely with an intent to positively resolve it and move on.

7. Self Control – They know who they are. They know where they are. They know where they want to go. They know what they are doing – or are in the process of finding out. In other words, they are effective self-leaders.

8. Relationship-oriented – They prosper in long term intimate (open and honest without hidden agendas) relationships, and consequently they are able to seek out and effectively propagate opportunities for commitment in others through those relationships.

If you currently have a Care Team full of people with these attributes, it is indeed time to celebrate! And if not, this list of attributes represents a clear behavioral road map which will lead you in that direction.

Paul A Henny, DDS

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