Insurance & Co-dependency

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Insurance & Co-dependency

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One of the biggest concerns relative to dental “insurance”, has less to do with reimbursement levels than it does with the negative influence it can have on the nature of the Doctor-Patient relationships.

We can counter low insurance reimbursement levels via innovative cost-cutting and increased efficiencies, but we can not easily counter the demand for less interpersonal time with patients that these greater “efficiencies” naturally create as a side-affect.

Greater efficiency is thus easily traded for less interpersonal effectiveness in the name of “progress”. And less interpersonal effectiveness leads to more dependent and co-dependent relationships, where interpersonal boundaries are both poorly defined and poorly developed.

Dependent and Co-dependent relationships cause us to non-verbally agree to maintain a relationship where one person assumes a role of taking care of the other, while “the other” agrees to let themselves be taken care of.

The design of this type of relationship is fixed, and it’s rigidly defined roles impair growth. Consequently, it perpetuates the status quo rather than facilitating the moving-on to a higher level of health and functioning. And worse, co-dependent relationships are full of unspoken assumptions about responsibility and accountability which -when violated- erupt into conflict.

Co-discovery is the pathway to transitioning patients from co-dependency to inter-dependency, as it moves decision-making and goal-setting from being individually executed / imposed toward becoming a shared responsibility.

Hence, Co-discovery is all about collaboration. Collaboration begets synergy, and synergy creates a level of positive change and growth unachievable by functioning alone.

And as Three Dog Night sang, “One is the loneliest number”.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Purpose & Passion

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Passion is the spark that ignites self-motivation in dentistry.

And we can’t fake it.

Passion is commonly rooted in purpose, and those who discover how to link Purpose, Passion, and dentistry have a bright future ahead.

Rest assured, there will always be obstacles, but a passion for dentistry shapes one’s attitudes toward those barriers and facilitates faster, more creative, and more aligned solutions.

Finally, researchers on the topic of motivation all agree on one thing – strength of motivation is directly tied to the expected probability of success. In other words, dentists who truly believe they can accomplish their mission are highly motivated to do just that. Belief in mission yields motivation which yields the preferred outcome.

And what creates a belief in a mission?

Purpose.

How does dentistry fit into your life’s purpose and how passionate are you about it?

Paul A Henny DDS

 

Live it (don’t just think it)

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There is an important distinction between “having” a philosophy and “living” a philosophy.

“Having” a philosophy implies that we can envision a better way of practicing and living, but it doesn’t necessarily mean those thoughts are being acted upon -that progress is being made in the direction of that vision. “Having” a philosophy therefore can functionally be little more than a dream.

“Living” a philosophy, or living with a clear sense of purpose, is about engaging life based on clarified values, on an accurate understanding of ourself, on a realistic view of the world around us, on a clear understanding of what we are trying to accomplish, and therefore focused on principle-centered goals.

Drs. Pankey and Barkley talked extensively about the need for us to clarify our practice philosophy and to apply it daily, but most of us dentists rarely think of ourselves as philosophers, consequently we struggle to see the true value behind deeply engaging in this type of internal work.

Their point was that living a life of greater purpose is an opportunity which lies right in front of each of us, and that a life full of greater emotional, spiritual, and financial reward lies there as well.

Our daily decisions are what drive us toward the future. And it is what we believe about ourself and the world around us -our philosophy toward living- which influences that direction more than anything else…the direction toward a greater or lesser purpose.

Today might be a perfect time to examine your personal philosophy and subsequent practice and life purpose.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Apologies are a Key Part of Personal Growth

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We are all human, and as a consequence -we make mistakes. As dentists and dental team members, some mistakes happen in the office while we are attempting to serve others. And to make matters worse, many of our mistakes go unnoticed- even by ourselves.

Psychologist Robert Gordon PhD tells us that seventy percent of our brain’s functioning occurs outside of our awareness, and consequently, most of our mistakes – as perceived by others- occur outside the realm of our awareness as well.

In short, the very design of our neurobiology is skewed in the direction of our being unable to perceive how we impact others – even those whom we deeply care about.

To overcome this inherent behavioral shortcoming, particularly in the middle of a busy work day full of distractions, takes conscious commitment and work. But even then, we will still fall short on occasion. Even then, we will occasionally disappoint, inadvertently cause others to feel diminished or unheard, or even make a technical mistake which creates an undesired outcome.

Such is life. So what are we to do, as the seemingly admirable pursuit of perfection in relationships and actions is more of a pathway to neurosis than personal health?

Answer: Pursue excellence – not perfection, and learn how to apologize meaningfully, and from the heart.

Repairing a damaged or broken relationship takes work, commitment, desire, and growth. The Jewish faith calls this process ‘teshuvah,’ or “repair”, “repentance”, or “atonement” and it represents a key moral theme from which we all can learn and grow as heath care professionals.

Today, let’s look at the four parts of a healthy apology:

1. Acknowledgement: Being able to sincerely see how our actions negatively impacted another person is key – and is only possible through a sensitive heart. Consequently, acknowledgement must start with “I” – “I am sorry I am behind schedule”, “I am sorry for having been in such a hurry that I made you feel like I wasn’t interested in hearing what you were trying to tell me.”

2. Remorse: Remorse is authentically feeling bad for what you have done – it’s a physical and emotional response only possible through empathy. Empathy represents a sincere attempt to see and feel things the way the other person perceives them to be…”Beth, I am so sorry that this has happened, I know that you have had a lot of emotional trauma associated with going to other dentists in the past, and I feel terrible about this – we were really attempting everything we could think of to keep you comfortable, and I had promised you that this would not happen.”

3. Restitution: This means taking action to make up for the transgression, “Beth, I am going to discount / waive your fee today because of what happened. Will that be acceptable to you as an apology?”

4. Act differently the next time a similar situation arises. Demonstrate through your actions that you have learned something from the experience, and that your apology was therefore sincere.

Attempting to repair the outcome of a mistake or apologizing for insensitive behavior is always an option, no matter the situation. The responsibility lies in our hands; the work of repair requires effort but is not impossible and has a value in and of itself, because it helps to demonstrate how much we really care.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Your Future – Your Responsibility

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After 32 years in dentistry, I’ve consulted with a lot dentists, many of whom were nearing a point of retirement, and some even leaving the profession entirely.

And of that group, many expressed regret, and would tell me something like, “I wish I had possessed the courage to run my practice the way I felt it should have been run, instead of chasing the constant down-cycle of the insurance industry.”

I Why is this such a common regret in a profession which offers so much opportunity for independence, deeply rewarding interpersonal helping, and creativity?

Most dentists have their personal life under control and pointed in a preferred direction. They live where they like, they send their children to optimal schools, they involve themselves in Church and sports.

They coach.

They work out.

They vacation in fine places.

They drive nice cars.

And this is all because they know they have the power to choose, and they “choose to choose”, as Avrom King used to say.

But why is practice life so different for most? Why are dentists in so many dependency relationships with insurance companies and therefore patients when they have the choice not to do so?

“Money”, you say?

“It just can’t be done any other way in my town!”

Really?

Are you sure about that?

In reality, most of us exited the dental school treadmill of producing “procedures” and “If I can just get through this last semester”, into a practice situation which was almost identical to it, rendering out a similar emotional response…

“I hate this, but I have no choice right now.”

We focus down on the present so intensely that we can’t see over the hill. In fact, we don’t even acknowledge that there is a hill and something preferable on the other side.

We become automatons…we check-in, we check-out. We check for emotional scars at then end of the day. We say to ourselves, “Made it through another one…When is that trip to St.Thomas?”

And here is the result:

If we never draw a line in the sand and clarify what is really important to us and what we want our professional life to become. We just keep looking down. We just keep punching the clock. And we keep looking for the next enjoyable distraction.

Big game on tonight!

Did you see that new BMW six-series?

The gray areas of life loom larger when we fail to clarify what we believe, when we fail to live life buttressed by a philosophy which influences our decisions and choices and therefore guides us toward what brings more joy and satisfaction.

Without a personal practice philosophy, we are forced to adopt one from our environment – we are forced to adopt the philosophy of the insurance company or the corporation. And we are forced to accept what THEIR philosophy does to our soul. Consequently, we become a slave to an unchosen future due to our own lack of personal and professional leadership.

When Bob Barkley was asked for the one thing that he would like to grant all dentists…the one wish he had for them, his answer was immediate, “I wish every dentist would create a clear and written practice philosophy”.

And all of the above reasons are why he felt that way.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at: www.codiscovery.com

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