Six Key Behavioral Compentencies

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

Six Key Behavioral Compentencies

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There are six behavioral competencies critical to successful leadership in patient-centered dentistry. Today, let’s take a look at them:

1. EMOTIONAL MATURITY: High performing leaders in patient-centered dentistry are grounded, centered, and in control of themselves emotionally. They are therefore perceived by others as having stable, reliable, positive and predictable moods. Consequently, Care Team members feel safe to express themselves, stretch themselves, and appropriately challenge each other when an individual’s actions are perceived to be violating the practice purpose – even if it is the leader who is dropping the ball.

2. SELF-AWARE: Successful leaders in patient-centered dentistry have the ability to accurately self-assess. They are realistic and they know their weaknesses and strengths. They make the appropriate adjustments to compensate for their blind spots and weaknesses in a timely fashion.

3. BALANCED: Successful leaders in patient-centered dentistry have the ability to balance work life and personal life, as one inevitably influences the other.

4. DECISIVE: Successful leaders in patient-centered dentistry are clear- headed and decisive at critical moments. This decisiveness emerges from a clear sense of purpose and mission. They take into account the views of others, but in the end, take ownership of problems in their purview and act in a timely fashion.

5. PARTICIPATORY STYLE: Successful leaders in patient-centered dentistry utilize an effective participative management style. They focus on leading – which involves getting others to “buy-in” to ideas, strategies, and plans ( great leaders create “disciples”). This is typically done in a facilitative fashion as the care team has already been carefully selected to share common values and a deep belief in the practice purpose (most discussions are therefore centered around how to execute “doing the right thing” instead of around “What is the right thing?”).

6. RESILIENT: Successful leaders in patient-centered dentistry are tough-minded. They show resiliency in the face of obstacles. They know and understand that the “people side” of dentistry can be unpredictable and sometimes disappointing. They overcome challenges and handle pressure well. Consequently, they project a sense of confidence in the face of adversity which causes others to follow their lead.

Successful leadership is the ever-evolving and creative act of managing yourself and others to create chosen positive outcomes. How well are you doing in these six areas?

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Moving Beyond Confirmation Bias

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“You say my teeth are severely worn down, but I think they have always looked like that.”

“You say that I have cavities because of my diet, but my family just has soft teeth.”

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‘Confirmation bias’ refers to our tendency to search for -and favor- information which confirms our beliefs, while we simultaneously ignore or devalue information that contradicts our beliefs.

As dentists working with patients, we are at risk of allowing these mental short-cuts to override good decision-making and therefore undercut our patient’s health if we fail to counterbalance this bias.

We see this happen all the time. We examine a patient, describe and/or show the issue to them, maybe even get them to agree to do something about it, and then they fail to follow through.

Why?

Often this happens when confirmation bias kicks in…they eat lunch later in the day and nothing hurts…their spouse tells them at dinner that they can’t see anything wrong…they know a friend who recently had a bad dental experience over a similar issue.

We are all a bit mentally lazy, and consequently it is almost unnatural for us to formulate a hypothesis and then test various ways to prove it false. Instead, it is far more likely that we will form a lazy hypothesis based on previous experiences, opinions of influential others, cultural influences, or unsupportable fears and seek out information which supports it.

Bob Barkley brilliantly developed a system which effectively allowed him to finesse his way around  confirmation bias. He called it Co-discovery, and it was based on the truth that what an individual learns for them-self is always much more powerful and influential than anything they are told.

Yes, it took more time for Bob to do it that way, but it led to an agreement to proceed with proper care much more often than not, and it is “yes” that moves people toward greater levels of health.

Bob Barkley spoke to this issue brilliantly when he said, “No greater risk of failure can be run than that of attempting to use traditional patient management procedures in a health oriented restorative practice. Examining and treating a patient’s mouth without prior attitudinal development is an error of omission for which the dentist pays handsomely with time, energy, stress, and money.”

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, @2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Your Future – Your Choice

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After 32 years in dentistry, I’ve consulted with a lot dentists, many of whom were nearing a point of retirement, and some even leaving the profession entirely.

And of that group, many expressed regret, and would tell me something like, “I wish I had possessed the courage to run my practice the way I felt it should have been run, instead of chasing the constant down-cycle of the insurance industry.”

Why is this such a common regret in a profession which offers so much opportunity for independence, deeply rewarding interpersonal helping, and creativity?

Most dentists have their personal life under control and pointed in a preferred direction. They live where they like, they send their children to optimal schools, they involve themselves in Church and sports.

They coach.

They work out.

They vacation in fine places.

They drive nice cars.

And this is all because they know they have the power to choose, and they “choose to choose”, as Avrom King used to say.

But why is practice life so different for most? Why are dentists in so many dependency relationships with insurance companies and therefore patients when they have the choice not to do so?

“Money”, you say?

“It just can’t be done any other way in my town!”

Really?

Are you sure about that?

In reality, most of us exited the dental school treadmill of producing “procedures” and “If I can just get through this last semester”, into a practice situation which was almost identical to it, rendering out a similar emotional response…

“I hate this, but I have no choice right now.”

We focus down on the present so intensely that we can’t see over the hill. In fact, we don’t even acknowledge that there is a hill and something preferable on the other side.

We become automatons…we check-in, we check-out. We check for emotional scars at then end of the day, and we say to ourselves, “Made it through another one…When is that trip to St.Thomas?”

And here is the result:

If we never draw a line in the sand and clarify what is really important to us and what we want our professional life to become, we just keep looking down. We just keep punching the clock. And we keep looking for the next enjoyable distraction.

Big game on tonight!

Did you see that new BMW six-series?

The gray areas of life loom larger when we fail to clarify what we believe, when we fail to live life buttressed by a philosophy which influences our decisions and choices and therefore guides us toward what brings more joy and satisfaction.

Without a personal practice philosophy, we are forced to adopt one from our environment – we are forced to adopt the philosophy of the insurance company or the corporation. And we are forced to accept what THEIR philosophy does to our soul. Consequently, we become a slave to an unchosen future due to our own lack of personal and professional leadership.

When Bob Barkley was asked for the one thing that he would like to grant all dentists…the one wish he had for them, his answer was immediate, “I wish every dentist would create a clear and written practice philosophy”.

And all of the above reasons are why he felt that way.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at: www.codiscovery.com

A Practice Philosophy is Key

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Dental practices which fail to clearly communicate their Philosophy of Care force their patients into making decisions based primarily on the empirical evidence available to them at the moment.

This is because without the big picture that a clearly and simply communicated philosophy can paint, the patient will be unable to put what they are learning into the proper context. Evidence without a related philosophy lacks significant meaning, and may be acquired from you, the internet, or the guy on the street. And this is why decisions for patients under these circumstances are so difficult and often confusing for them. The evidence available to the patient (from their perspective) appears to be full of fog because it often contains cognitive distortions, misinformation, and distractions.

A practice Philosophy is the WHY, and the WHY is the compelling narrative which brings meaning to the HOW. And when only empirical evidence is available to drive a decision, the patient is forced to focus on HOW MUCH (time, energy, inconvenience, discomfort) and WHO IS GOING TO PAY FOR THIS? …All left brain thinking….all non-creative problem solving…all here-and-now oriented rather than future-focused. And all therefore – limiting and likely to lead toward a non-optimal decision.

Clearly communicating Philosophy is the key to turning this corner. It is what Aristotle referred to as “Ethical Proof”, which must be present along with emotional and logical proofs – particularly when a complex and expensive decision must be made.

But here is the catch: A practice philosophy is a useless piece of paper if it is not owned and lived by every member of the Care Team. It must be LIVED. The Team must BE IT, and not just SAY IT. Most patients are smart enough to sense incongruity between the message and the messenger, and when they do, they decline…they pause… the defer. BEING IT is only possible through lot of team Building and clarity, and BEING IT is the only pathway to success.

Einstein famously said: “If you can’t explain something simply, than you don’t understand it enough.” And sometimes explaining it at the right moment just takes a nod, a smile, or a hug, because the helping relationship – the vehicle through which the philosophy was already communicated – had already been built.

Understand that, and you are well in your way to experiencing a fun and fulfilling health-centered practice.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

What is your Marketing Messsage?

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Perhaps one of the most challenging aspects of dentistry, and life in general, is that things are often not what they appear to be – particularly in the beginning.

And this truth naturally includes our perception of others and their intentions and agendas. Studies tell us that we form opinions about others within the first eight seconds of first meeting them, from there, we seek to confirm our initial perception.

In other words, we use confirmation bias to color in the details around our initial psychological sketch to then draw a conclusion which is likely to be in alignment with way we want to see things.

And that is an elaborate way of saying that we use rationalizations to explain the world around us to ourselves more often than we use our self-discipline and resourcefulness to uncover the real truth – particularly with regard to how OTHERS perceive it.

New patients who come to us full of memories, assumptions, and biases as well. So, the formation of a new relationship with a person is much like a dance with a stranger and somewhat forced together by circumstance. And that dance may be harmonious because what they are expecting is what is happening, or it may be an uncomfortable and even threatening herky-jerky experience…an experience that they can not wait to end.

The goal for us then, is to facilitate the former and avoid the later, as the later is counter-productive with regard to successful collaboration.

In other words, if the very nature of our relationship with another person is uncomfortable, what is the likelihood of them making good decisions for themselves? And what therefore is the likelihood of that person making a decision which leads toward a higher level of health and a lower level of putting their health at risk?

How do we do that?

One word – marketing.

Marketing? The manipulative vehicle which is the very scourge of our capitalistic society?

Yep – that marketing.

You see, marketing has nothing to do with ethics, although it may or may not be ethical. It may lead a person toward a good choice or a bad choice. And that is because marketing is about image and expectation management.

In the world of dentistry, we have thousands of opportunities to create images and shape expectations. We also have thousands of opportunities to ignore those opportunities or even to undercut them.

So yes, dentistry’s perception problem is of our own making, and therefore only ours to solve.

And because we – collectively speaking – have failed so miserably at conveying a health-centered message about dentistry (instead we convey that it is about things – implants, teeth cleaning, saving money, veneers, etc.) that most people fail to perceive dentistry as having much of anything to do with their total health.

As Pogo infamously said, “I have met the enemy and the enemy is us.”

We can change the direction of our profession as it careens toward corporate consolidation and depersonalization only by changing the public’s perception of it.

And that is what co-discovery can do. Bob Barkley had that figured out fifty years ago.

Why didn’t we listen?

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Commitment is Key

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There are two distinctly different ways patients will say “yes” to treatment. Some say “yes” because the dentist has positional authority, which they subsequently honor. In this case, the patient COMPLIES without significantly understanding what is going to happen or why the treatment has been proposed.

On the other hand, others make much more deeply informed choices through facilitated choice-making. These decisions are based upon their values, goals, and vision for themselves going forward. These decisions represent COMMITMENT.

Achieving commitment is an essential step when providing complex restorative, esthetic, and/or expensive treatment. (Commitment is less critical when proposing less expensive primary or emergency treatment).

Problems arise when patients COMPLY but do not fully COMMIT, particularly when some aspect of the treatment process goes off-course. Perhaps the treatment process was much more uncomfortable or inconvenient than anticipated, or the outcome was not what they expected …the implant failed…the crown was never comfortable to chew on…the new fillings were always sensitive…the root canal always odd…the front teeth never looked completely natural.

This potentially creates resentment, or a level of disappointment which may or may not be expressed. In some cases, the patient leaves the practice as a result. And in the worst case scenario, the patient pursues legal advice.

Co-discovery, pioneered by Bob Barkley, helps patients to more consistently and predictably move toward commitment. Complying is not necessarily collaborating, and often does not involve the patient taking ownership of their problems – a critical boundary issue.

Commitment is different – it is collaborative. It places ownership in the right place ( a shared – interdependent relationship ). Commitment is the goal, and being patient and waiting for it to emerge via facilitation is key.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

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