It’s All About Trust

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

It’s All About Trust

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Everyone agrees that mutually beneficial, and enjoyable relationships are key to a practice’s long term success. But what does “relationship” mean in this context?

To some, a good relationship represents two people who get along and perhaps enjoy being in each other’s company. But is that enough to build a successful health-centered practice?

I would argue not.

Getting along and even enjoying the presence of other people alone doesn’t go deep enough. It only addresses good rapport, and good rapport is only the starting point of a truly helping relationship.

So we need more.

We need shared values. We need shared understanding. We need shared goals. And to a large degree, we also need a shared vision of a preferred future so that all the goals are oriented in a specific mutually agreed upon direction.

And that vision must largely originate from the patient, because it is their water to carry, not just ours (Yes, we can facilitate the development of the patient’s vision, but we can not give it to them).

Consequently, I will call the achievement of this type of relationship, “patient-centered” or “client-centered”. And it is only possible through mutual trust – and a lot if it at that, because we must have enough trust present within the relationship to allow for open and transparent communication to occur. This type of communication is much deeper, and it includes discussions around fears, personal challenges, barriers, short-term agendas, as well as longer-term goals.

When a patient trusts us, they are essentially allowing themselves to be vulnerable to our actions, which could, if they go wrong, harm them physically, emotionally, and/or financially.

Some patients will extend their trust to us quickly without a lot of justification simply because we have big letters after our name on the wall, but with the advent of the internet and an increasing amount of predatory activity in marketplace, this de facto trust is becoming more and more rare. And in its place we have cynicism and DIS-trust; we must now commonly EARN our patient’s trust through our action, attitudes, philosophy, and behavior.

So, exposure of and meaningful discussions around trust-related issues represent the key distinction between a health-centered practice and an attractive and pleasant place where dental services are provided in exchange for money. Hence, a health-centered practice therefore must be centered around trust, both the earning of it and the maintaining of it.

This represents both a challenge, and an opportunity. Marketplace trends today, particularly with regard to the expansion of corporate practice models, are making trust a more rare -and therefore valuable – interpersonal commodity. And this means that if you become exceptionally good as a team at building and maintaining trust, your have discovered an important strategic advantage as the market continues to devolve toward reductionism.

Our ability to establish and maintain trust-based relationships with our patients must therefore be a central focus, because without trust, dentistry quickly degenerates into a price-driven, commodity-type transaction ripe with miscommunication, disappointment, or even worse.

Trust therefore represents a key metric in the quality of your future in dentistry. Trust also becomes a key metric in the quality of your patient’s experiences with dentistry. And both are directly linked to happiness and fulfillment.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Though Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

What is your Brand?

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[et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text”]Strong, well-differentiated, and well-positioned practice “brands” sustain high profit margins, and have pricing power while seeing fewer patients each day. They also secure more patient loyalty and appreciation, grow faster, and ride through economic downturns with less trauma. In contrast, practices with undifferentiated brand images tend to have much lower profit margins, depend on practice promotions and come-on gimmicks, are insurance dependent, and require high patient volume to survive because many people leave “out the back door.”

We only have two choices: Position or be positioned, and this is because even if we have made no effort to position our practice within our community, we have still created a “brand” for our practice by default. Branding in this scenario comes through others making assumptions about you which are likely to be similar to experiences they have had with other dentists. If their previous dentist spent minimal time building truly helping relationships, they will likely assume that you will do the same. If their previous dentist was a family practitioner with little understanding of esthetic or restorative dentistry, they will likely assume the same of you as well.

In the general public’s eyes, all dentists are pretty much the same, unless you have made the effort to help them learn otherwise – and of course YOU ARE substantially, and meaningfully different.

Positioning your practice through strategic branding allows you to promote your strengths and unique selling points (USP’s). This in turn causes others to approach you who are interested in your best and finest services.

How do you know if your practice “brand” is moving you in the right direction? The answer is found in more than just your monthly production numbers and collection statistics.

You can begin by asking yourself these 5 questions:

Do many of my new patients reluctantly accept or not appreciate the value (to them) of a comprehensive exam?

Are you frustrated that you must aggressively “sell” restorative dentistry, in order to cause your patients to choose appropriate and predictable treatment?

Do your patients frequently break appointments and delay treatment plans because proper dentistry is simply not a priority in their life?

Do your practice collections lag behind because many of your patients begrudgingly pay their dental bills?

Do you spend too little time performing the kind of dentistry you really enjoy and feel is the most predictable and valuable to your patients?

If you honestly answered “Yes” to several of these questions, it’s likely that your brand may need either a “makeover” or significant refinement. And you may very well need to get about the business of repositioning your practice to be more attractive to the kinds of patients who value and are interested in your best and finest services.

In future articles, I will cover how to do just that.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

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Anger is Often the Offspring of Fear

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We have all had it happen, that moment when Mrs. Smith, in the middle of a normal conversation regarding an appointment, financial, or treatment commitment, flips into an angry rant – seemingly out of the blue.

According to several studies, we now know that anxiety often presents itself as anger, as the two emotions are frequently co-mingled in the limbic brain.

And where can we find a whole lot of anxious people?  – The dental office.

According to the University of Pennsylvania Department of Psychiatry, people who are severely anxious regarding social situations are much more prone to outbursts of anger. When a situation is ambiguous, such as a large unexpected expense to a person on a tight budget, or a procedure requiring passive cooperation when a person’s memory is full of fearful experiences – the individual tends to assume the worst case scenario.

The new expense is going to wipe them out! The trip with the kids will have to be canceled! The car payments will not be met! The procedure will cause excruciating pain while being trapped,  and they have no way to stop it!

Dr. Gregory Jantz, author of “Overcoming Anxiety, Worry, and Fear,” tells us that anger often emerges as a dysfunctional coping response to a emotionally charged situations, and this is because both anxiety and anger run on adrenaline – the “fight or flight” hormone.

High anxiety over a new and seemingly unmanageable expense, or a procedure where the person fears physical harm (real or imagined), leaves the person feeling out of control and totally vulnerable. Anger is subconsciously triggered from the limbic brain to make the person feel more powerful, and more capable of confronting the perceived threat to their well being.

So there you have it. This is how the normally composed Mrs. Smith, who serves on the committee for the homeless, and who is well known to be kind and generous flips into an unexpected rant.

How can we avoid this, as it is unproductive to everyone involved? By consciously taking the time to develop truly helping relationships with each and every patient. By listening, particularly for issues which are anxiety-provoking in a person, and gently exploring the issues with them. By avoiding conversations which are centered around telling people only what is wrong with them, instead of what is right about them, and the positive possibilities which exist for them if they are approach in a thoughtful, strategic fashion.

Pretty much everyone who walks our door wants us to help them. By talking the time to know them better – particularly on the emotional level, helps us to do that much more effectively.

And isn’t that what we all want for our patients?

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

 

 

Consider saying nothing.

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Sigmund Freud emphasized that we are communicating when we are silent. So, often times silence is a powerful tool when used judiciously to break through to what a patient is really feeling or thinking.

This of course is relevant only if your intention is to establish a long-term helping relationship with a person. And in that case, the goal is to work toward open, honest, communication. So, sometimes we listen, and sometimes we judiciously speak. Sometimes we share how we are feeling, and sometimes we do not – at least not yet.

We need to tell the patient the truth, but the question is: When? When will be the most positively influential time for me to share what I know and how I feel about it?

These are questions that Bob Barkley explored with Nate Kohn, PhD and which successfully evolved into what is known today as “Codiscovery”. And Codiscovery is “learning with”, but also generous listening and judicious speaking. It involves sharing the truth, which is not the same as telling the patient what we think is the truth – because the truth is much more personal than just the facts.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

True Grit

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Idabelle came from a small farm just outside of Norman, OK, and was the oldest of five children. At age 14 her father died in a wood stove fire and circumstances demanded that she assume the leadership position in the family. She ran the farm, bailed the hay…you name it, she could do it.
Idabelle loved her father, but had a rather contentious relationship with her mother, and at age 17 decided it was time to leave. She boarded a train in 1912 and headed to Chicago with her 8th grade education and Oklahoma farm wisdom.

Upon arrival, Idabelle decided that she wanted to become a lawyer, so she applied and was accepted to Law School. For reasons which are currently unclear, she did not complete her studies and next moved to Detroit, another Midwestern boom town. There, Idabelle worked as a clerk for a prominent lawyer. Because of her training, and the fact that he was a drunk, she tried most of his cases in court, winning many.

Later, she met Ralph and they married. Ralph was a gregarious insurance salesman who had climbed the ladder to middle management. Together they studied the insurance agency business and eventually started one of their own in Flint, Michigan.
There seemed to be nothing that Idabelle could not do. Give her a scrap of fabric and her sewing machine and a beautiful outfit would appear…. She even took up bowling at the age of 65 after Ralph died, just to get herself out of the house. After joining a bowling league, she soon had a room filled with trophies, commonly bowling over 200. A few years later, her arthritis was so severe she could no longer bowl with her right hand. Her solution? Start bowling with her left hand! And she soon started to dominate the league once again.

Idabelle was short, barely five feet tall, soft spoken and humble. When she laughed it was from the belly, and never at you, just with you. She had this look…this twinkle in her eye that said…”I believe in you”. She was my grandmother, and in my young world, she walked on water and could make it too. She shared her strengths with my mother who could have easily run GM with one hand tied behind her back. But instead, she (in spite of a Masters Degree in Early Childhood Education) chose to raise her three children instead. Two of us became dentists and my sister, became the CFO of the Indianapolis Zoo.
To me that was a truly liberated woman looked like… powerful, confident, in control, but never needing to show it. From them I learned that I was loved, but also that I was nothing special. And that the only way I was going to get ahead in life was to try twice as hard and to never give up.

Avrom King liked to call this aspect of character “grit. And grit is made not born. It is often born out of failure and the confidence which arises through overcoming it time and time again. It is also emerges from a strongly clarified self-concept facilitated by exceptional parenting. And it makes life easier, as it eliminates a lot of bad choices right out of the gate. “No, that simply does not work for me”…those kinds of choices.

Not that long ago, grit was everywhere, but I did not realize it until I started to tell others about my amazing grandmother.And when I did, people would say…”Wow! That’s pretty amazing! Now, let me tell you what mine did!”

Our culture has gotten off-track to a very significant degree…And by choice. But with just a little bit more grit, the corner can still be turned and the sun will shine again. And in spite of it being unfashionable to take chances, work hard, and assume responsibility for our decisions and actions, it is still the surest way to the top.
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What are your Core Values?

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We have all heard about the essential nature of “clarified values” with regard to the creation of a written a philosophy statement.

But what are “values”?

Let’s explore.

val·ue
noun
plural noun: values

Values will be defined here as, “a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.”

Synonyms: principles, ethics, moral code, morals, standards, code of behavior

From this definition, you can easily see why values are the building blocks of our Philosophy- the way we choose to live our life. By clarifying our values, we are simply bringing them to our conscious attention and then analyzing them.

But we need to go deeper than superficial analysis, we need to discern which values are are most valuable- which ones are “core” to our belief system, and therefore our very Being.

To do this, let’s review the different kinds of values which we all hold, and from there – then “clarify” which ones are “Core”.

CORE VALUES

Values which are above all others. Typically, they are represented by only a handful, and of those handful, there is one which is PRIMARY. Some examples are God, Family, Love, and Personal Growth, and Sharing.

INTROJECTED VALUES

Values which we pick up from our experiences within our family, our church, or the general culture around us. Introjected values tend to be values around which we are continuously immersed, and which are consistent with the behavior of our peer group. The key distinction here, is that Introjected Values tend to be accepted at face value, and therefore left unexamined. Consequently, they are a mixed bag of Core Values and other values.

UNIVERSAL VALUES

Values which experience broad cross-cultural acceptance, such as the value of peace, the value of human life, the value of human dignity, the value of beauty, of acceptance, of happiness, freedom, knowledge, etc. Again, some Universal Values may also be “Core” to how you want to live your life.

PREREQUISITE VALUES

Values one needs to secure and “own” before other “higher” values can be achieved or even pursued. Abe Maslow famously differentiated these values in his Triangle. Some examples are security, freedom from hunger, shelter, Justice, basic education, and financial strength. Some of these values may be “Core” as well, particularly as you ascend Maslow’s hierarchy.

OPERATIVE VALUES

Values we repeatedly leverage to achieve our goals, aims, and intentions. These are values which function as guiding principles and therefore help us discern between right and wrong, appropriate and inappropriate, helpful and unhelpful. They represent our current level of cultural wisdom in action, and are the central elements of a Mission Statement or Statement of Purpose. A Mission Statement should therefore be a reflection of our Core Values.

So, you can see that we need to spend time becoming more aware of our highest values, then rank them as best as possible – understanding that this ranking can change over time – AND THEN writing a Philosophy Statement. Mission Statements are developed FROM Philosophy Statements, and are in affect our Core Values put into action.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, © 2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Getting to “NO”

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When a person consistently behaves in a fashion which is in alignment with their core values, and we also agree with those core values, we label it ‘personal integrity’.

But notice what I have done here, I have added “and we also agree”, in other words, we come into every situation and every new relationship, with a bias – our own.

But what if we are unfamiliar with OUR bias? Then we tend to see the world and others through a distorted lens – we fail to make the mental corrections critically necessary for discovering the truth.

If we listen to another person with our ears and from our perspective, we get OUR reality- and not theirs. We get what we think they think. We get what we think they feel. We guess. We project. We conflate. And we then start to function off of assumptions and not facts. And that can easily lead to confusion and conflicts.

Living with integrity is also commonly called, “living authentically”, which perhaps is good for us, but may or may not be good for others.

Why?

Because what if the person does not share our values? What if the person does not share our priorities? What if they function from a mental paradigm which is so different from our own, that we can hardly agree on what the most basic observations mean?

All of this is why L. D. Pankey repeated over and over, “Know yourself”, Know your patient”, because knowing ourself allows us to take the blinders off, and better see who the patient is -and what they are truly seeking.

And if we do not know ourselves, we cannot easily discern if what the patient is seeking is what we can (or are willing) to help them with. Because if we are living with integrity, we must also have red lines we will not cross, and therefore we will have patients we cannot help because doing so will violate who we are. And repeatedly violating who we are inside isn’t good for us or anyone around us.

Consequently, living with integrity requires us to lovingly say “no” – the most liberating word in all of our vocabulary. And “getting to “no” clears the way for us to be able to say “yes” more often with the right people.

Paul A. Henny,DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Why Good Rapport is not Good Enough

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The concept of NOT providing major rehabilitative or esthetic treatment on people who are functional strangers to us, is one that I have believed-in for over thirty years, and is rooted in my exposure to the work of L.D. Pankey (Know your Patient).

On an intuitive level, this makes perfect sense, how can we possibly manage a person’s expectations if we are not first in a relationship which allows for us to have conversations centered around them?

And there is an important strategic side to to this issue as well. Studies at the University of Virginia show that patients tend to not sue dentists they like, and whose character and motives they understand. Simply put, when something off-plan occurs, or an undesirable outcome evolves, the patient typically views the dentist as someone who is trying their best to help them – and not as an adversary to attack in retribution. They continue to work with the dentist until a more desirable outcome occurs as long as they feel the dentist is working in good faith to resolve the issue.

You see, healthy fully-functional relations are two-way streets, and they involve the rather concrete expectations of BOTH individuals.

In the middle of our busy days, it is often easy for us to forget this truth; it is too easy for us to confuse ‘good rapport’ with ‘good relationships’. ‘Good rapport is when we think, “I like this person, and this person seems to like me”, it is an important first step in relationship-building, but it is shallow. It does not involve a deep sharing of mutual expectations.

Only a truly helping relationship has the capacity to create an environment where mutual expectations can be shared, and where fears and confusion are addressed and appropriately managed over time.

Bob Barkley helped to pioneer the development of truly helping relationships in dentistry, and he learned about this concept from Dr. Pankey as well. Bob went on to master the method with the help of Nate Kohn, Jr. PhD —an educational psychologist and follower of Carl Roger’s work.

What Bob and Nate evolved became known as “Codiscovery” and Codiagnosis”, and it changed the world of dentistry forever, because it changed how patents felt about themselves, their dentist, and therefore the role of dentistry in their lives.

How well do you know your patients? Have you fully harnessed the power of Codiscovery to create more and more truly helping relationships?

Paul A, Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Knowledge & Learning Are Two Different Things

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We all have goals in our lives, and so do our patients. These goals may include learning a new technique, losing weight, saving money, or attaining a healthy attractive smile. And it is easy to assume that the gap between where we are now, and where we want to be in the future, is caused by a lack of knowledge. It is also easy to assume that the same issue exists with our patients…that they just need to be informed more…that they “need to be educated” more.

But the reality is that knowledge alone rarely influences or drives behavior. In fact, new information may actually undercut progress toward change.

How so?

It all comes down to our personal and cultural bias toward ‘cognitivism’ – the belief that left brain objective facts and truths cause people to learn and therefore change.

But it simply does not work that way.
Learning something new and being exposed to new information are two VERY different things. Carl Rogers brilliantly explored this topic in his landmark book, ‘Freedom to Learn’, a book about the importance of experiential learning.

In many cases, the constant exposure to new information can be a clever way for us to avoid taking action. We studiously watch the news every night, but do nothing with the knowledge. We take course after course, but on Monday mornings, the routines and rituals resume. We even see patients bounce from one “second opinion” to another, seemingly stalemated.

In situations like these, we and our patients often claim that we are preparing or researching for the best answer, but such thinking is often just a rationalization to ourselves that we are moving forward when in actuality we are going nowhere, coddled in our bubble of the latest and greatest information steaming from the world’s greatest thinkers.

Acquiring knowledge and failing to apply it has become a multimillion dollar info-tainment industry in dentistry. And the fun locations, great socializing and food can all be expensed!

But what happens at the end of the day? A record number of CE credits to brag about? Another notch on the belt for studying under the latest guru?

Carl Rogers taught us that the highest levels of significant learning must include personal involvement at both the affective and cognitive levels, be self-initiated and so pervasive that it changes attitudes, behavior, and in some cases, even the personality of the learner.

New behavior emerges out of new beliefs, which are anchored in our values, and which create new meanings which then shape our habits.

It is our habits – not our knowledge which shape our lives. And it is habits -not knowledge- which shape the lives of our patients as well.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, © 2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

It’s a choice.

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“The less a service is perceived to be a ‘need’ the more profitable it can be provided to those who ‘want’ it.”

Avrom E. King

The insurance industry’s philosophy toward dental care is that it represents the servicing of ‘needs’, and that each ‘need’ can then be reduced down into various identifiable procedure codes.

This process represents the use of a concept known as “reductionism”, and insurance companies must use reductionism to bring dentistry into the marketplace AS IF it were a commodity, and NOT the professional services it truly is…professional services which are highly dependent upon the care, skill, and judgment of the treating doctor (and completely UNIQUE to each and every doctor).

Once dental services are brought into the marketplace AS IF they are a commodity, the competitive market forces can be leveraged to drive down the COST of services to patients.

Notice here, that it is not the dentists who are bringing their services into the marketplace, it is a third party, functioning as a MARKETER of their services who then takes a slice of the action for themselves for playing the role of “middle man” in a doctor-patient relationship.

None of this would be possible if we dentists failed to agree to allow others to market our care, skill, and judgement AS IF it is only a commodity. So, this begs the questions, “Are we just the personification of a commodity? and “Do we really want to be doing this to ourselves?”

How can we set a fee which is truly commensurate with our care,skill, and judgement if we can’t set the majority of our fees in the first place? And if our fees do not properly support the level of our care, skill, and judgement we routinely provide, do we even have a viable business model?

Obviously, we can’t sustain our practice at a high level if our fees cannot support it. In that case, we must eventually reduce the quality of our service to be more commensurate with the level of reimbursement we are receiving.

That is why I said “no” to “participation” twenty years ago, because HEALTH IS NOT A NEED (it is a want and a self-directed process), AND DENTAL CARE IS AN EXPERIENCE AND NOT A COMMODITY.

On this topic, Bob Barkley famously said, “Dental health is peculiar. The rich can not buy it, and the poor cannot have it given to them. I can make people more comfortable, more functional, and more attractive. But I cannot make them more healthy. I can teach them how to become more healthy, but whether they remain that way will be up to them.”

If we continue to accept that we are just “providers” of a commodity, and allow insurance companies to mediate our transactions, then we have no choice but to accept the situation for what it is – a codependency relationship that we have chosen to participate in. And hence, we must stop the whining, and work on how to fine-tune our servitude to the various insurance companies.

But they if we view our work as being something entirely different- as being facilitators of health, then we can break free of all of this dysfunction, and start to move back toward professionalism, and move back toward creating the freedom to practice in ways we know are best, which in turn bring about much more joy and prosperity in our lives.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more on www.Codiscovery.com

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