Why Future-focusing is Key

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

Why Future-focusing is Key

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Unless patients have a specific and preferred plan for their dental health future, they will tend to stick with the “known” and remain victims of fate and luck. And along that path, they will tend to dissipate their resources in a disorganized fashion by reacting emotionally rather than strategically to their various dental problems and situations.

This is because nothing seems to make any sense to these patients on a deeper level, and consequently they make what they perceive to be minimal risk decisions…they do as little as possible to satisfy their immediate need – and they only do what their insurance will cover.

But with the facilitated establishment of a preferred future through Co-discovery, these very same people will become much more involved, innovative, and purposeful. Consequently, a more health-centered, goal-oriented behavior emerges.

Codiscovery was designed to be a bridge between unawareness (and therefore a reactionary mindset) and a purposeful mindset built out of much greater awareness.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

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Some Beliefs Need to Go Away Quietly

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[et_pb_section][et_pb_row][et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text]It is useful at times to keep this simple paradox in mind: The reason we are alive is that we are dying all of the time…the cells of our body come and go, yet we remain. And if those cells don’t die off in a normal fashion, they become what we identify as “cancer.” A similar paradox exists on a psychological level as well. We only grow and prosper by letting outdated beliefs and understandings die, and then replace them with something new – hopefully something much more useful or even perhaps much more meaningful. Our patients face the same situation – and often on both levels. Part of their physical self is failing or even dying, and that might be the reason they have passed though our door. But of equal importance is the status of their beliefs about their situation. What is it that they believe about WHY they are in their current condition? If their beliefs are significantly out of sync with the reality of their situation, then they bring with their problem a lot a stress as well… their current beliefs are not serving them well – and they don’t know what to do about it. The great constructivist psychologist Jean Piaget, PhD, called this situation a moment of “disequilibria,” as represented when a person’s beliefs and behaviors are no longer producing their intended or desired outcome. And it is at that moment that the person either learns, grows, and thus reorganizes their beliefs, or they double-down…they deny what is happening, or they deny the realities associated with why this has happened to them. How we choose to work with our patients at this type of moment is key, because often times if we jump in and rescue them too soon, then the opportunity for them to learn and grow from the situation will be lost…the “learning moment” will have come and gone. Granted, there are many situations in dentistry where learning on the part of the patient is not crucial to their long-term health…an old filling breaks…they fall and chip a tooth. But many things in dentistry require their involvement if long-term health is to be achieved and maintained. And that is where Co-discovery fits in. Co-discovery helps patients see their situation in a different light. It allows them to attach new meanings to what they are learning and the long-term implications of their decisions. In many cases, failing to learn and grow leads to neuroticism and dependency. And both yield out frustration and anger over time. We have all experienced it. Paul A. Henny DDS Read more at www.codiscovery.com[/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]

On Beliefs

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Our beliefs involve a continuum of thought structures which range from reflective analysis to assumed truths picked up from the culture, misinformed others, or even distorted memories. So whether or not a belief is something seriously considered or not, it was still caused by something…an experience, an observation, an assumption. In other words, they did not appear out of the blue. So, the way beliefs are formed is an important thing for dentists to understand.

The process of reconsidering our beliefs often leads to their modification, or what is sometimes called reconstruction or clarification, and it can happen before or after we have acted on a particular belief.

Often times we act impulsively, or make quick decisions which commit us to later actions, and then, and only with the act or decision behind us -and the outcome of that decision experienced- do we either rationalize the decision, or learn from it.

And that is the moment at which we tend to meet most of our patients. Many of them have been going along with a rather leaderless and vision-less version of dental care, which has then led them to a point of crisis. This point of crisis, either clinical or subclinical, represents a “learning moment” or the opportunity for just another rationalization and maintenance of the status quo.

Co-discovery facilitates patients breaking out of the cycle of rationalizing their declining and failing dental health and condition. It allows them to recalibrate their beliefs, or thought structures, about dentistry, dental health, and what they believe their future can look like.

We all have the tendency to be lazy thinkers. We all want to assume that if we can chew today or if we have no pain today, tomorrow will likely be the same. But as we all know, dental trends can be negative and have a largely subclinical presentation to the untrained eye. And consequently, our patients can easily get to a point of crisis without any awareness.

If we truly have a health-centered practice mission, breaking through this lack of awareness is key – and doing so sooner is always more effective than later.

Honing our Codiscovery skills is therefore essential to the health-centered direction of a practice. And on that topic, Barkley & Kohn most certainly helped lead the way.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

On ‘Becoming’

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We are all flawed and incomplete, full of unrealized potential, while often stuck or confused about what to do next or even who or what to believe.

The same holds true for our patients. They are incomplete as well. They are often confused, and they often do not know who or what to believe about their situation.

So, how do we work around this basic truth and move toward greater understanding, completeness, and therefore better decisions?

That was a question Bob Barkley and Nate Kohn Jr. labored over for years. And they found the answers in the area of educational psychology, which at the time was being transformed by the work of Carl Rogers PhD.

The central idea that Rogers persistently advanced was that everyone has growth potential, and everyone has deep inside -albeit often suppressed or blocked – the desire to grow and become more, the desire to become more functional and effective, the desire to feel good about themselves, and the desire to be a fully creative and joyful human being. Rogers often referred to this positive process of growth and development as “becoming,” and it was centered around his deep faith in his client’s ability to figure things out and make better choices over time via facilitation.

As dentists, we are generally not taught to think about our role as being facilitative, rather we are taught to be interventionists. We are taught to use our knowledge and skills to tell others what to do, or to rescue. Yet, telling and rescuing tend to block growth if they become the central theme of a relationship – a relationship otherwise known as codependent.

Co-discovery was created by Barkley and Kohn as the genius work-around. It avoided telling, and minimized rescuing. It encouraged reflection, reassessment, values clarification, goal-setting, and problem ownership.

And it works. But only if you believe in the potential of others, and are willing to be a facilitator of ‘becoming.’

Paul A. Henny DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

What is the true value of “high self-esteem”?

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One of the most favored buzzwords in parenting and education circles over the past 40 years has been the word “self-esteem.” In spite of this however, few people seem to understand that having “high self-esteem” is actually not a predictor of success, and in fact may be a significant barrier to growth and development.

Let’s explore this issue for a few minutes.

Self-esteem is largely an “outside-in” process related to how we think others feel about us. And if we think that others hold us up in a high social position, we then respond by thinking more highly of ourselves. Conversely, when we think that others disregard us, or hold us in a low social status position, we then think of ourselves as being less-than.

Hence, having “high self-esteem” has nothing to do with competence, capabilities, morality, or any other important social value. It is simply about our feelings about ourselves which are highly influenced by how we think others feel about us.

And therein lies the problem.

Our ability to accurately know how others feel about us and why is an area of vast cognitive distortion. Thus drawing conclusions about distorted assumptions is the fast track down a rabbit hole of confusion and disorientation. Self-esteem is therefore fragile, and just as capable of being destroyed by others as it is built up. In other words, self-esteem is unstable and mercurial.

On the other hand, self-regard is an “inside-out” process. It is about how we feel about ourselves based on our personal experiences living in the world, hence it is related to our memories associated with our sense of competence. High success in life activities equals high self-regard. And high self-regard functions as a bulwark against life’s most difficult challenges that could easily bring a person with “high self-esteem” low.

It is almost impossible for a person with high self-regard to have low self-esteem. But it is easy for a person who has high-self esteem to be hiding their low self-regard and lack of resilience.

It is also easy for a dentist to develop low self-esteem if he or she is an ineffective communicator with their patients, regardless of their intent and dedication to being a top level professional. This happens because so much of the feedback received from patients comes in the form of rejection; rejection of treatment plans, rejection of philosophy, or even rejection of them as a person, “you know I really hate dentists…”

Friedrich Nietzsche once said that if you want to completely demoralize someone, you don’t do it by punishing them for what they did wrong, you repeatedly punish them for attempting to do the right thing.

So, think about that for a minute. Consider how your capacity to communicate effectively with others and your ability to facilitate better choice-making on their part, influences everything else – including how you perceive yourself in this world.

And that has everything to do with self-regard and nothing to do with self-esteem.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

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Activation Energy

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There is a concept in chemistry which directly applies to the functioning of a relationship-based / health-centered practice, and it is called “activation energy”.

Here is how it works:

In chemistry, activation energy is the minimum amount of energy that must be available for a chemical reaction to occur.

In behavioral dentistry, the activation energy is the energy required to convert a patient from being co-dependent into becoming a collaborating partner in their own health.

When we strike a match, we add the energy of friction and heat to cause the phosphorus and potassium chlorate to ignite a small piece of wood.

When we invest the energy of time, listening, understanding, and truly helping, we start to build trust within a virtual stranger. And trust lowers the threshold required to ignite a “yes” toward proper and complete dentistry. So, trust becomes the catalyst- an element present which lowers the level of activation energy – required to start the relationship toward collaboration.

In this interpersonal reaction equation, trust is key, but this relational catalyst requires much more than being nice, competent, or even masterful at dentistry.

As dentists, it becomes all too easy to forget the amount of courage it requires from our patients to lay their head back in our chairs and -and from their perspective- allow us to permanently disfigure their teeth.

Just think about that for a moment.

Really think about it…because it reveals why so many people can’t say “yes”, because they can’t see the value behind the disfigurement. They can’t see the disfigurement as a constructive and creative process. From their perspective…Why break the only set of 28 or so eggs they have, when they have never even had an omelet?

Dentistry has advanced itself to a mind-boggling level of sophistication since my graduation in 1984, but you know what? Patients don’t know that 99.9% of the time. And worse…much worse really…they have no capacity to see how that fact is important to them.

Bob Barkley told us that we must find a way to make dentistry significant relative to the patient’s LIFE – not just their mouth- otherwise we simply have a transaction…a transaction that any other dentist can provide, and a transaction which will be influenced inordinately and primarily by price.

To succeed in relationship-based dentistry, we must move well past a primary discussion of financial price, because how does that cost relate to the cost of the loss of their teeth later in life due to poor decision-making? And conversely, how can that initial cost relate to the value of them having a beautiful smile for the rest of their life?

Figuring out this inter-personal calculus, is where the activation energy game is played. And it’s something you can consistently succeed at if you make a commitment to understand the interpersonal dynamics more completely.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, @2018

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Never Surrender

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Sometimes trying to create the practice of your dreams feels like you are pushing on a string. And with the rapid depersonalization and corporatization of dentistry, it is understandable how someone can feel that way.

But all great practices find opportunities to grow and evolve, even when the environment around them is challenging.

Recently I discussed the importance of understanding our patient’s perspective towards dentistry, and why it is so critical to take the time to help them to develop a deeper understanding of the value of fine dentistry in their lives.

Today, let’s talk about perseverance, as there has never been a health-centered / relationship-based practice which was built overnight. This type of practice only emerges over time through the execution of a clear vision, a well executed purpose, and perseverance.

Scott Peck published one of my favorite books in 1978, titled The Road Less Traveled. It is a description of the attributes that make for a fulfilling life based largely on Peck’s experiences as a psychiatrist and a person.

When Scott Peck first took his manuscript to Random house it was rejected as they felt the prospective reading audience was too small. Simon and Schuster, equally skeptical, agreed to invest $7,500 and print only 5,000 hardback copies.

Initial projections turned out to be correct, as no significant amount of money was made on the first publishing, so Peck hit the lecture circuit to try and boost sales.

It was only after Peck’s persistence and personal belief in the value of the book that a paperback version was published two years later, AND ONLY THEN did the book slowly climb to eventually become a best seller in 1984.

A similar success trajectory is seen with relationship-based practices, as they are built as much around feelings and values as they are around technical dentistry.

Health-centered / relationship-based practices must be conceived, birthed, properly executed, promoted, and relentlessly fine-tuned as the market e(de?)volves.

And there-in lies the secret to becoming an “overnight success” – a values-driven, clear-headed focus on the right things at the right time, and never surrendering.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

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The Central Concept Behind Co-Discovery

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Bob Barkley taught us that when learning involves a change in self-organization – a change in a person’s beliefs about themselves, it can be quite threatening to their self-concept, and therefore the acceptance of the validity of that new information will often be resisted. And we see this often with a person who enters our office thinking “I am doing just fine,” and who then learns differently…who then learns that they are actually in a state of significant decline, or a state of disrepair or damage. And in response to this new information, rather than accept it, they fault us for trying to sell them solutions to problems they do not yet perceive to be significant.

On the other hand, new learnings which are not threatening to a person’s self-perception are much more easily perceived and assimilated, particularly when external threats are at a minimum. In other words, when the person feels safe and truly accepted for who they are, and what they are learning is not being used as a hotbox sales opportunity, but rather and opportunity for them to potentially take care of themselves better.

This represents the core concept behind co-discovery, the strategic revealing of new information to another person in such a way that the information is insightfully self-instructive, and therefore growth-enhancing. (And by growth here I mean growth towards a higher level of self-sustainable health)

Hence, growth is a choice which in this case, is facilitated by the dentist and team through the way they strategically manage the learning process and therefore how the patient FEELS about it.

And the success of this process always comes down to how well we know the patient on an emotional and on a values level – something we simply can’t do well during a rushed exam in the hygiene room. Hence, the co-discovery process is not just about teeth, or occlusion, or airway, or whatever, rather it’s about relevance-to them currently as well as going forward.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Fear & Faith

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Commitment is at the very core of every genuinely helping relationship. And health-centered / relationship-based practices are all about helping, so without commitment, very little helping can happen.

As we have all experienced, commitment is variable and never assured when we meet a person for the first time. This is because commitment involves risk on both emotional and financial levels.

For some, this risk is too high and they pull back. For others, they view the risk as a worthy trade for something they value highly – greater health, functioning, or an improved appearance. And finally, others proceed with caution because the dentist is an authority figure and they do not know what else to do.

Because we are completely immersed in our practice environment day after day, it becomes easy for us to lose sight of how much risk we are expecting our patients to assume, and consequently it becomes easy for us to have a distorted perception of how our patients perceive what we suggest as well as our processes.

A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to observe a FB thread where the topic was crowns. None of the participants were dental professionals, so the conversation was purely among average people expressing their average perceptions of dentistry.

A: “I am going to the dentist today because he said I need a crown”

B: “All you will be left with is a stub.”

A: I probably won’t be able to chew for a while, unless I can talk him into repairing the tooth – if possible.”

C: “I had a cap done and the plastic one they put on at first kept falling off. I spent two weeks going back and forth to the dentist, and now the permanent one looks like a big glob and feels weird to my tongue.”

A: “I am planning on being on a liquid diet for a while …checking the liqueur cabinet now -lol.”

D: “I had a tooth filling drilled out and a crown prepared yesterday. The dentist had a tiny camera and took a picture of it before the prep stuff was in. My gosh, there is not much of the real tooth left!”

A: (later) ” I have a pretty big stump. I thought it would be smaller.”

When I read this, my first thoughts were, “fear and faith”. The individual was clearly fearful and was strictly functioning faithfully on a recommendation – and not on any depth of personal knowledge or understanding of his situation. It was also illuminating that everyone used amputation terms instead of rehabilitative or restorative terms. And somehow, the health-centered purpose behind receiving a crown was completely missing as well.

Consider the meaning of this conversation as it is likely taking place thousands if not tens of thousands of times today across the country. Work to become more aware of dentistry from your patient’s perspective, otherwise you may be doing dentistry “to people” instead of “with” them. And you may also be operating on minimal informed consent and therefore doing dentistry “to people” who have no capacity to value how you are attempting to help them.

No wonder many seek out the lowest price, to them an amputation is an amputation.

Paul A Henny, DDS

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Who Was Bob Barkley?

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  1. Today represents the 88th birthday celebration of Robert F. Barkley, born August 23, 1930. Bob grew up in the small downstate farming community of Ipava, Illinois – population 600. He later entered and graduated from Northwestern University Dental School in downtown Chicago.

After some deliberation and a two year commitment to the Air Force serving in the Phillipines, Bob set up practice in Macomb, Illinois with his wife Phyllis and their growing family. He described Macomb as being “the largest town between Ipava and the Mississippi River”; it was also home to Western Illinois University, where Bob completed his pre-dental studies.

So, it was there that a Bob established his family practice, and like most newly minted graduates, Bob thought he was practicing a superior brand of dentistry relative to his peers.

Within a fairly short period of time however, Bob noticed that much of his dentistry was failing. He concluded that his techniques and materials were the cause, so he set about to learn more about cast gold restorations. As a result, he included more of this approach in his treatment plans and was fairly sure that this new strategy would work. “I assured myself that better quality repairs were the answer”, he said.

While this change helped increase Bob’s income, it came with an unanticipated side effect – many patients were turned off because they believed that Bob’s dental solutions were too elaborate and too expensive. And many patients left the practice as a result.

Persistent in his new strategy, Bob soon developed a reputation as a “gold man”. While this is not a negative description in dental circles, the citizenry of Macomb developed a decidedly negative tone when they described Bob using using it. Bob, in their eyes, had gone “big time” and had left their perceived simpler needs behind.

About that time, Bob attended a lecture by Dr. Clyde Schuyler. Dr. Schuyler told Bob that he needed to learn more about a broader range of clinical dentistry, and that Bob already knew, “how to sell more things than he knew how to do”. Dr. Schuyler’s words stuck and set Bob on a path of learning even more about the clinical options for his patients. From that point on, the more Bob learned, the more he saw in each patient’s mouth – but this time, he knew what to offer and how to improve their care on an even higher technical level. This new-found confidence and knowledge lead Bob to develop even more elaborate treatment plans, resulting in even higher total case fees. In his mind, this new strategy would lead to an even more successful practice, but it didn’t turn out that way at all.

While Bob’s recommendations were sound, his patients could not understand the value behind what he was suggesting. Was there really that much wrong? Was there really that much to do? It soon became apparent that there was a flaw in this new strategy as well. Here was Bob, a highly trained dentist with a full set of skills and treatments which could clearly benefit his patients, yet few people seemed interested.

Bob was forced, yet again, to dig deeper for solutions.

It was at this point, that Bob focused on the conflict between how he felt dentistry should be practiced, and the way the people of his community seemed to want him to practice. He summed it up by commenting “…it seemed that a decision had to be made whether to work for the classes or the masses. Reluctantly, I chose the former. I would offer what I knew was best for the patient and let the chips fall where they might.”

And fall they did.

Some patients left his practice disgruntled, and others just left confused. Even some childhood friends refused to associate with him. During this time of turmoil, a high school classmate (one of his favorite cheerleaders at that time) came to his office seeking help for her debilitated mouth. Four children had been birthed since high school, and she was convinced that between her family heritage of “soft teeth” and the well-known “drawing out of calcium” from the teeth during pregnancy, that her dental future was dim. As a result, Bob was cautious due to being fully aware of his failure to sell proper dentistry to many others before her. He tried a new strategy, and recommended that she improve her hygiene habits as well as address some of her basic needs in the most affordable way. He thought that surrendering to a more pragmatic approach would win the day – after all, he did not want to compromise his long-standing relationship with her. So, appointment was set, but the scheduled appointment time came and went – she failed to show up.

What could have possibly happened?

Bob recalled that he nearly cried when he saw her again – this time in public- and not in his practice. She had, in his words, “committed dental suicide” in another office, and was now wearing full dentures.

This event was so emotionally troubling to Bob, that it became a catalytic moment and changed his life forever. It set the stage for creative solutions Bob would develop and later share with tens of thousands of dentists around the world.

It was at that point Bob committed himself to “making prevention pay off”. He wanted to be certain that – especially for those who could not afford extensive care – a preventative strategy would be both more successful and less expensive than extracting teeth and inserting dentures (surrender).

Bob also committed himself to becoming a student of an even wider range of both scientific and behavioralistic concepts. From Dr. Sumter Arnim he learned how to successfully treat and manage dental caries and periodontal disease. From Dr. L. D. Pankey he learned restorative methods and the need to create a principle-centered philosophy, as well as the inter-relationship between behavioral and clinical dentistry. And through Dr. Nathan Kohn, a PhD an Educational Psychologist, Bob deepened his understanding of interpersonal communication, the requirements for behavior change, and how people learn.

Bob Barkley’s most recognized legacy is based on his creation and development of what is commonly known today as “Preventive Dentistry” – a concept that rarely existed outside of academia at the time. In tandem with this, Bob toured the country teaching a five-day learning and skill development program which dentists could use In their practices. This approach was often augmented with phase-contrast microscopes, and bacterial samples taken from the patient’s mouth and used to help the patients better understand their disease process as well as what they could do about it.

Bob Barkley’s most overlooked legacy is related to his development with Nate Kohn of what is known today as “co-diagnosis” or “codiscovery”. These were concepts that Bob pioneered and taught extensively as well. (Anyone who has had a chance to see videos of Bob working with patients can testify to his masterful ability to engage people and lead them though a facilitated learning process). The co-diagnostic process became the linchpin of his practice success, as it allowed people the opportunity to value proper dentistry and consistently request it.

As you can see, Bob’s influence on dentistry was both broad and deep considering his premature passing at the age of 46 in 1977. His death in a chartered airplane crash brought a tragic end to a highly influential career. Fortunately, Bob’s influence lives on through the work of many others who continue to be amazed at the progressive nature of his thinking.

The purpose of the Bob Barkley Study Club and Codiscovery.com is to keep this wonderful legacy alive, as well as build upon these timeless concepts for a better future for dentistry.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Publishing Editor Codiscovery.com

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