It’s All About Growth

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

It’s All About Growth

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If I were to select one word which is most closely associated with a successful Relationship-based, Health-centered practice, it would be the word growth.

What kind of growth?

Personal Growth.

Interpersonal Growth.

Care Team Member Growth.

Effectiveness and affectiveness of team growth.

Patient growth – in knowledge and sophistication of their attitudes and commitments toward dentistry.

And of course -practice growth.

Notice please than I did not mention a word about teeth or techniques. I didn’t mention a word about technology, or what you must physically own to achieve growth. And that is because growth is not a material thing, it is a spiritual thing.

Growth can be promoted, or it can be impaired by the way we think, and consequently the things that we do and say day-in and day-out.

And what we do repeatedly is driven by what we believe…what we believe about ourselves, what we believe about others, and what we believe about the purpose of dentistry.

In other words, dentistry is driven by our philosophy…our world view…our perspective of things, and therefore what it all means to us.

Avrom King said that it all boils down to these three questions:

1. Who am I?

2. Why am I here?

3 What is it that I am trying to achieve?

All three are philosophical questions. And all three lead us to answers which directly influence almost everything else.

If we do not understand who we are on a values and beliefs level – what Mac McDonald recently referred to as “the deep structures of ourselves” – we cannot predictably lead ourself in any desired direction. And as a result of that, we can not predictably lead others in a desired direction either.

So, you can see that in a world where our personal perspective is one of little personal agency, it is easy to assume that we have minimal value. And in a world of minimal personal value, everything starts to look scarce, and everything starts to look scary, so we are tempted to take short cuts; we are tempted to grab what we can for ourselves now.

If we believe the world is flat and that there is nothing that we can do about it, then we are likely to stay on shore, drown or feelings of disempowerment with a little too much wine and whining, and achieve little. And along the way we will attract toward us those who think and behave similarly – because like attracts like- King’s law in action.

We tend over time to create a practice in the exact image of what we believe. And it could be a version of heaven or hell that we create. And all of that happens because we chose to grow – or not.

How much growth is happening in your practice? Can you see the green shoots of enthusiasm and creative change all around you – the evidence of constant renewal? Or do you see an ossified structure struggling to maintain the status quo – and within it people who are down, frustrated, and thinking that they have no other choices?

Who are you?

Why are you here?

What is it that you are trying to achieve?

Philosophy Matters.

And that is why L.D. Pankey and Bob Barkley constantly talked about it.

Paul A, Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Its All About Growth

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If I were to select one word which is most closely associated with a successful relationship-based, Health-centered practice, it would be the word growth. What kind of growth?

Personal Growth.

Interpersonal Growth.

Care Team Member Growth.

Effectiveness and affectiveness of team growth.

Patient growth – in knowledge and sophistication of their attitudes and commitments toward dentistry.

And of course -practice growth.

Notice please than I did not mention a word about teeth or techniques. I didn’t mention a word about technology or what you must physically own to achieve growth. And that is because growth is not a material thing, it is a spiritual thing.

Growth can be promoted or it can be impaired by the way we think, and consequently the things that we do and say day-in and day-out.

And what we do repeatedly is driven by what we believe…what we believe about ourselves, what we believe about others and what we believe about the  purpose of dentistry.

In other words, dentistry is driven by our philosophy…our world view…our perspective of things, and therefore what it all means to us.

Avrom King said that it all boils down to these three questions:

1. Who am I?

2. Why am I here?

3 What is it that I am trying to achieve?

All three philosophical questions. All three lead us to answers which directly influence almost everything else.

If we do not understand who we are on a values, priories, and beliefs level – what Mac McDonanald recently referred to as “the deep structures of ourselves – we can not possibly lead ourself in any desired  direction predictably . And as a result, we can not lead predictably others anywhere either.

So, you can then easily see that in a world where our personal perspective is one in that we believe we have little personal agency, It is easy for us to assume we have minimal value. And in a world of minimal value, everything looks scarce, and everything starts to look scary.

If we believe the world is flat and that there is nothing that we can do about it, then we are likely to stay on shore, drown or feelings of disempowerment with a little too much wine and whining, and achieve little.

And we will attract toward us those who think and behave similarly – because like attracts like.

So you can easily see how one can create a practice in the exact image of what we believe. And it could be a version heaven or hell that we create.

And it all happened because we chose to grow – or not.

How much growth is happening in your practice? Can you see the green shoots of enthusiasm and creative change all around you – evidence of constant renewal? Or do you see an ossified structure struggling to maintain the status quo?

Who are you?

Why are you here?

What is it that you are trying to achieve?

Philosophy Matters.

And that is why L.D. Pankey and Bob Barkley constantly talked about it.

Paul A, Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

 

How to Hire the Right People – Bill Lockhard Jr DDS

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Hire The Right People

Realize that hiring the Right person is more
important that training the Wrong person. Take the time, even if it takes a few
weeks, to go in depth with the person. Get to know the things they don’t write
in their resume. Character and Competence of each member of the team are the
essential ingredients of trustworthiness and win/win agreements. Character because you can’t separate
who you are from what you do. Competence
because you need to be committed to continuous improvement in technical,
conceptual, and interdependent skills. Determine if the person’s habit
patterns, motivations, values, and lifestyle fit well with the culture of your
organization. It is important to have shared values, philosophy and a
commitment to excellence and integrity….plus a compatible behavioral style.

Telephone screening by receptionist – voice quality, vocabulary, attitude, experience,
positions held and reason for changing job. If acceptable invited for office
interview.
.Second interview by team – candidate is
introduced to doctor and spends ½ day in office observing and goes to lunch with
team members. If acceptable, invited for interview with doctor on another day
after doctor discusses with team concerning their opinion.
Third interview with doctor – this is a relaxed co-discovery interview not an
interrogation.
Questions:

v Why did you select this career and what would you
like to have that you don’t have now? What areas did you enjoy and what
compliments and what complaints did you experience?

v Tell me more about why you are changing jobs. What
was your biggest disappointment and biggest achievement in your career so far?

v What changes did you initiate? What are 3 of your
strengths, what areas would you like to grow/develop?

v How would you describe success?

v What do you really value and believe in?

v What are you willing to do to achieve success? What
are you not willing to do?

v Please describe your former management style; what
qualities important?

v What are your personal goals, what are your
professional goals?

v If hired, how long would you expect to perform at
this job?

Doctor discusses the philosophy, vision and purpose
of the practice.

Doctor describes management style and employee
traits we are looking for.

Fourth interview by Clinical Psychologist – if acceptable to doctor, candidate completes a
behavioral and psychological profile and mailed to Psychologist to clarify
compatibility with team members.
Decision to hire by team and doctor – the final decision rests mostly with the team
members. When the team makes the choice, they will be committed to help the new
member to be successful. M.
William Lockard, Jr. DDS

Our Beliefs Shape our Perceptions

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I am not a big follower of Tony Robbins. He is a little too much circus for me – a little too much drama for the sake of emotional appeal. But recently, I bumped into a Robbins quote which was spot on, “Its not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.”

As humans we are by design mentally lazy. We are preprogrammed to try and recognize patterns of behavior around us so that we can quickly categorize situations and therefore respond more efficiently – particularly when we perceive what is happening to be a threat to us on some level.

A large part of this mental strategy is mediated through stories that we tell ourselves. And they are commonly stories about what others think of us, why others do certain things, or what others REALLY meant when they said this, or did that.

Often times we craft these stories to help justify our agendas or to protect our self-esteem, “Mrs, Jones obviously does not care about her mouth, this is the second time she has canceled this big appointment… Today’s planned production is ruined! Now what am I going to do?”

These self-stories are an example of what Sigmund Freud called “projection”. They allow us to quickly attach meaning to what we are experiencing. Research shows that we like stories that make sense to us. We like stories which fulfill a recognizable pattern. And now the neuroscience even tells us that we get a hit of dopamine every time we recognize a familiar pattern – we are chemically rewarded, and this all has a lot to do with the way brain function evolved over time.

This is why we make up stories to explain bad or undesirable things which happen to us, even when we don’t really know the cause. These stories then prompt us to make adjustments, and to develop strategies where we to try and out-think others.

But there is a problem. People do not behave rationally much of the time; people are not rational beings who then feel, they are feeling beings who then think.

In truth, people are predictably unpredictable, so good luck with your counter strategies as they may just lead you to telling more stories, and creating more and more elaborate solutions, which then lead to more unpredictable outcomes, “Why don’t we send him a reminder text to at 5:00 AM?”

The most predictable pathway to more predictable behavior is through relationships – meaningful, helpful ones that is – from THEIR point of view. If a person FEELS that you sincerely care about them, If they FEEL that you sincerely have their best interests at heart, if they FEEL that your truly hear them, and that you understand their fear and you are willing protect them from harm -then you have a game, then you have influenced someone with principle-centered personal empowerment. And then you get to do “the big case”, because the person will be doing it for themselves and while feeling somewhat safe about it all.

So think about it … No, FEEL about it. Try to feel about it the way they feel about it,  and then tell them what you are doing, “Mrs. Jones, I am sensing that something is wrong, is there anything that I can help you with? Are there some unaddressed concerns that you have regarding what we have discussed? I really don’t want you to feel like we are pushing you toward doing something that does not yet make sense to you. We are really just trying to help.”

And hopefully you are.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

 

 

 

 

 

How to Move Past Old Beliefs

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2018 will represent the beginning of my thirty-fourth year of practice, and it represents a lot of time and experiences as well. Over this time, I have had opportunities to both be student and teacher. And it all began with being brought up within a certain system – a dental school learning system which had a certain philosophy and approach toward the transfer of knowledge and testing of competency. My initial experiences occurred at the University of Michigan just like my father and my uncle – his brother – before him.

Each dental school comes up with its own system of education – but to a large degree most are quite similar. So as a community, most of us have had similar experiences with slightly different highs and lows. Our similar educational experiences has much to do with the creation and maintenance of our professional culture – a shared set of thinking patterns as well as assumptions, and feelings about the work that we do and the way things are trending for us on a personal level.

These experiences and feelings are sometimes paradoxical, as some learnings are still valid while others have become counterproductive or significantly outdated. So the challenge soon becomes continuously trying to figure out the current best way to do things – and the best way to think about things. Because if we fail to do this -and often- we can easily become a slave to our old beliefs without even realizing it.

So how do we best approach this challenge? Adopting a concept from Zen Buddhism known as ‘shoshin’, which means “beginners mind” is helpful. Shoshin refers to letting go of our preconceptions and focusing on the creation of an attitude of openness when studying a subject.

Shoshin is helpful because there is a danger which can acccompany expertise, as becoming an expert in a given area can easily lead us to mental laziness and cognitive bias; it can block us from considering information which disagrees with what has worked well for us in the past… it can rather insidiously undermine our ability to grow and adapt to the rapidly changing knowledge, technology, and marketplace which surrounds us.

The concept of shoshin is best when used with our entire Care Team through the creation of a learning organization – represented by a practice culture which encourages innovative thinking, respecting and supporting one another and strategically collaborating to create new outcomes, test out application of new knowledge, and forge new directions.

Three leadeship strategies which will support shoshin in your practice are:

1. Let go of your need to be the primary source of knowledge about everything in the practice. Micromanagment kills creative innovation. Instead, encourage each team member to become a recognized entrepreneurial expert in the areas of their strongest knowledge and interest. Find ways to funnel resources to them in a timely fashion to suppprt their learning and growth. And find ways to empower them, encourage them, and to get out of their way.

2. Let go of your need to come out on top of every discussion (this applies to working with patients as well). If you are having a conversation and someone makes a statement that you disagree with, try releasing the urge to correct them. Instead approach the topic from a place of curiosity, “Isn’t that intesting – can you share more with me about why you feel this way?” Such an approach opens up the opportunity for us to learn something new, and it may even cause them to learn something new as they explain an issue that they may have previously approached too dogmatically in the past.

3. Assume you are an ignorant person  – because you truly are about many things- and particularly about how others feel, about how others come to make certain priorities in their lives, and about what motivates them. The key here is to recognize this truth, remain humble, and therefore discipline ourselves to listen carefully for meaning when others are speaking.

If you approach running your practice with a beginner’s mind, you will not only learn more quickly, but you will make fewer inaccurate assumptions, and therefore make fewer mistakes. And you will also find that your relationships with others will deepen and become more and more effective over time.

Shoshin is a great great leadership mindset, as Bob Dylan tried to teach us as well, “ah – but I was so much older than, I’m younger than that now”.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

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Dentistry’s Co-dependent Relationship with Insurance

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Some great questions were recently posed by Kevin Daugherty DDS in relation to my “The Tail that Wags the Dog” commentary here on Codiscovery.com:

Q: Is it my imagination or does organized dentistry promote the dental insurance industry? Why is that? What happens to dental insurance if all dentists stop accepting assignment of benefits? Do they not lose control over dentists profit margins?

A: Dentistry as a whole has been in a co-dependent relationship with the dental insurance industry almost since day one. And the same can now be said for some dental schools and educational programs as well.

What at first appeared to be a win-win-win has -in my view- turned into a win-lose-lose, with the final “lose” disguised as a “win” due to the use of intentionally deceitful language, clever marketing, and shady review practices.

The primary carrier in the country- run by dentists- was supposed to be a non-profit collaboration created solely for the benefit of patients. Now, it has clearly evolved into a government-like organization that has self-preservation and self-reward as its primary purpose, although it is still shrouded in patient-centered language which deceives most of the public.

This has all created a largely false economy in dentistry, where the primary source of income is streaming from third parties. So the game evolved into: How do we get more out of the third parties? And of course, the third parties responded with counter-tactics.

So yes, we are locked into a relationship like a sober wife married to an alcoholic husband who buys them booze to keep them happy and off our back while rationalizing it all as being normal because everyone around us is doing it as well.

We dentists hold the key to our own freedom. But it requires learning how to function in the marketplace without crutches – without addictions…learning how to connect with our patients more deeply and significantly, so that their insurance plan coverage largely becomes irrelevant…and learning how to professionally promote ourselves so that people who are in alignment with our Purpose know about us and move toward us – in spite of all the dysfunction in the marketplace.

That is what I am trying to point out here. The path to freedom is never easily fought, but freedom is the only pathway to having a truly patient-centered practice and for many, a deeply fulfilling career.

Paul Henny DDS

Your Future with Dental Insurance

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Dental insurance has clearly been the “tail that wags the dog” in most practices, and that of course, is nothing new. Dentists since the 1970’s have long tolerated the dysfunctional relationships with insurance carriers rs, relationships which more closely resemble divorce court negiations than healthy collaborations for the benefit of patients (and by that I mean the prove-your-innocent-of-over-treatment process dentists must go through to seek rapidly diminishing third party payments).

But we may be reaching an even lower tipping point soon; we may soon see the proverbial tail wagging the relationship between dentists and insurance companies in an even worse direction.

To wit, some of you noticed that CVS recently shared its intention to PURCHASE Aetna. This represents a new type of vertical integration in the health care industry- a move likely to involve the-infolding of medical practices into the CVS corporation as well.

Not to be outdone, UnitedHealth Group, America’s largest health insurer announced yesterday that it plans to buy DaVita Medical Group and its nearly 300 doctor’s clinics across the country for $4.9 billion dollars.

More close to home, in late 2016, Delta Dental of Massachusetts sent dental providers new contracts and notified them that Delta would be transitioning all business to a for-profit corporation DSM Massachusetts Insurance Company, Inc.. This followed its intention to convert most of its policies over to PPO plans because the company’s growth was too stagnant to support its overhead even as a non-profit (one needs only to look at executive compensation levels to see where much of the overhead problems lie).

It does not take much of an imagination to see the direction toward which dentistry is turning. It is mostly shaping up to be a war between massive corporations for profits, with patients and providers as the vehicles through which those profits will be realized.

Consequently, it is indeed time to re-assess relationships with insurance carriers, as they neither have our long-term best interest in mind nor do they they guide our practices in a direction which is healthy for those associated with them.

Relationship-based / Health-centered dentistry which functions outside the negative influence of dental insurance is an alternative direction for your future. If it is your true desire to remain a professional -keeping the best interests of your patients ahead of profits -then the dog should be wagging the tail, and not the other way around.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Caretaking & Co-Dependency

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Co-dependency is represented by a group of behaviors which can either cause -or lead us into- unhealthy relationships with others. And the level of co-dependency present varies from one patient to the next. To better visualize this issue, imagine dependency existing on a behavioral continuum, with minimal dependency represented on the right side under the word “Caregiving” and maximal dependency on the left side under the word “Care-taking”:

Care-taking <———-> Caregiving
Dependent -Co-dependent -Interdependent

When we are mostly Caretaking, we are in a some form of a dependency relationship. When we are mostly in Caregiving mode, we are functioning mostly out of an INTERdependent relationship, where responsibilities and ownership are much more co-equal.

In reality, we can both Caretake and Caregive at the same time, with one behavior being more dominant than the other depending on the area of a relationship. And historically, we are somewhat used-to, if not expectant of –  a dependency relationship with a highly educated doctor. But the internet and other broad cultural changes has shifted that expectation in the mind of much of the public. And in its place is now a reservation of trust and skepticism (which paradoxically promotes more dependency in spite of the intention to avoid it).

Our goal as health-centered dentists should be to reduce Caretaking behavior as much as possible, as dependency in many cases it is a learned behavior which can be changed via a truly helping relationship.

So how can we tell how each particular relationship is trending? Hints:

-Caretaking (dependency) tends to be stressful, where Caregiving tends to be energizing.

-Caretaking (dependency) violates interpersonal boundaries, where Caregiving tends to respect them.

-Caretaking (dependency) tends to attract needy people who do not value collaborative relationships very highly.

-Caregiving tends to attract more health-oriented  people who are more willing to listen, learn, grow, and change IF they perceive what they are learning is in their best interest.

-Caretakers tend to start fixing problems (or selling the need for immediate fixing) when problems arise which tends to create or maintain dependency. On the other hand, Caregivers tend to respectfully wait to be asked for help while facilitating awareness of the need for it, and thus encourage self-responsibility, growth, and ownership where appropriate.

With this in mind, consider the patients you would rather avoid, and I’ll bet you are in a Caretaking relationship with them. Conversely, consider the patient’s you most enjoy being around, and I’ll bet you are in a caregiving, co-equal, and mutually respectful relationship with them.

Clearly, there will always be patients with whom we will always be in a dependency/caretaking relationship due to their physical or mental disability, but we do have a choice regarding the others; we do have a choice regarding whether or not we we will maintain our co-dependency relationship with them.

The toughest question to ask ourselves: Do we maintain too many co-dependency relationships because they benefit us financially, or emotionally? If the candid answer is “yes”, then it may be ourselves refusing to grow and develop; it may be ourselves lacking in the courage to challenge the status quo and move forward toward greater health.

Paul A Henny DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Positioning & Branding

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Most progressive thinking, Health-centered dentists are comfortable with the idea that they must promote their practice in one form or another to maintain growth and success in today’s marketplace.

I prefer to call all strategies associated with practice promotion “market development” strategies, as they should represent a key component of a long-term strategic plan. In other words, any marketing initiatives which are unrelated to a strategic vision and an associated strategic plan, represent nothing more than advertising, and advertising -in my view- has no place in dentistry due to its self-serving focus.

Market development strategies can be broadly broken down into two areas:

1. Positioning – Starting with a Positioning Statement, which represents a precise articulation of WHAT it is you have to offer, TO WHOM it is ideally suited, WHY it is specifically relevant to them, and HOW it is uniquely different from other choices prospective patients have available to them.

Positioning Statements are clear, simple, fact-driven, and contain no fluff…no spin, and they serve as the key connection between a practice’s capabilities and the way it is perceived by the community. This means that positioning is key to everything you do once your Practice Philosophy has been clarified, and therefore it should lie at the center of every decision you make from website design to brochures, to any other internal or external marketing efforts.

2. Branding: Branding is associated with how your practice projects its Philosophy, and therefore “position”, on an emotional level. And this emotional appeal can be conveyed through words, tone of voice, colors, smells, design, imagery, and the feelings that these things -when put together in a strategic fashion- create.

For the truly relationship-centered practice, both positioning and branding initiatives MUST represent an authentic expression of who you and your team are. This is because both positioning and branding create expectations…emotional expectations which when violated, will immediately turn down a patient’s trust and turn up their cynicism – making your future communications much more challenging.

So, your clarified Philosophy helps to define your Positioning Strategy, and your Positioning Strategy helps define your Branding Strategy, and none of these things are useful unless they sincerely come from your heart and genuinely reflect who you are, what you believe in, and how you believe you can help others.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Are you Altuistic?

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There is a common cultural misconception about the meaning of altruism; not that there is a problem with it per se, but more with regard to where altruism comes from. Most definitions state that altruism represents “selfless” devotion or concern for the well being of others. But can anything really be totally “selfless”?

I would argue not.

Altruism is actually an outcome of boundary development, and boundary development is an outcome of values clarification. And values clarification can lead to a missional lifestyle. So when a missional lifestyle also happens to be focused on helping others – with or without any obvious personal gain – we are really talking about someone who demonstrates personal integrity; we are talking about someone who “walks the talk”. And that represents a lot more than selfless behavior – it represents a fusion of true self with mission – a philosophically based Purpose.

Conversely, in the absence of a well-developed boundary due to murky values or shifting socially-influenced priorities, the helping of others may be driven by an attempt to serve ourselves…possibly even a neurotic attempt to feel better about ourselves…a superficial kabuki theatre hidden behind our personal insecurity.

This is WHY Values clarification, and WHY spending time clarifying our mission…is so central in the creation of a truly patient-centered practice, where the sincere agenda is to help others grow and become more of what they are capable of becoming physically, emotionally, and even spiritually (how we feel about ourselves directly influences our spiritual life).

The end of the year is a traditional time to look backwards and forwards, and this should be done with our team as well. What were our behaviors patterns? Were they in alignment with our mission? Hence, did our Care Team and therefore practice, routinely demonstrate integrity?

And was our behavior, and will our behavior be truly altruistic?

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

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