True Grit – A Personal Story

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

True Grit – A Personal Story

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Idabelle came from a small farm just outside of Norman, OK, and was the oldest of five children.  At age 14 her father died in a wood stove fire and circumstances demanded that she assume the leadership position in the family. She ran the farm, bailed the hay…you name it, she could do it.

Idabelle loved her father, but had a rather contentious relationship with her mother, and at age 17 decided it was time to leave.  She boarded a train in 1912 and headed to Chicago with her 8th grade education and Oklahoma farm wisdom.

Upon arrival, Idabelle decided that she wanted to become a lawyer, so she applied and was accepted to Law School.  For reasons which are currently unclear, she did not complete her studies and next moved to Detroit, another Midwestern boom town. There, Idabelle worked as a clerk for a prominent lawyer. Because of her training, and the fact that he was a drunk, she tried most of his cases in court, winning many.

Later, she met Ralph and they married. Ralph was a gregarious insurance salesman who had climbed the ladder to middle management. Together they studied the insurance agency business and eventually started one of their own in Flint, Michigan.

There seemed to be nothing that Idabelle could not do. Give her a scrap of fabric and her sewing machine and a beautiful outfit would appear…. She even took up bowling at the age of 65 after Ralph died, just to get herself out of the house. After joining a bowling league, she soon had a room filled with trophies, commonly bowling over 200.  A few years later,  her arthritis was so severe she could no longer bowl with her right hand.  Her solution? Start bowling with her left hand! And she soon started to dominate the league once again.

Idabelle was short, barely five feet tall, soft spoken and humble. When she laughed it was from the belly, and never at you, just with you. She had this look…this twinkle in her eye that said…”I believe in you”.   She was my grandmother, and in my young world, she walked on water and could make it too. She shared her strengths with my mother who could have easily run GM with one hand tied behind her back. But instead, she (in spite of a Masters Degree in Early Childhood Education) chose to raise her three children instead. Two of us became dentists and my sister, became the CFO of the Indianapolis Zoo.

To me that was a truly liberated woman looked like… powerful, confident, in control, but never needing to show it. From them I learned that I was loved, but also that I was nothing special. And that the only way I was going to get ahead in life was to try twice as hard and to never give up.

Avrom King liked to call this aspect of character “grit. And grit is made not born. It is often born out of failure and the confidence which arises through overcoming it time and time again. It is also emerges from a strongly clarified self-concept facilitated by exceptional parenting. And it makes life easier,  as it eliminates a lot of bad choices right out of the gate.  “No, that simply does not work for me”…those kinds of choices.

Not that long ago, grit was everywhere, but  I did not realize it until I started to tell others about my amazing grandmother.And when I did,  people would say…”Wow!  That’s pretty amazing!  Now, let me tell you what mine did!”

Our culture has gotten off-track to a very significant degree…And by choice. But with just a little bit more grit, the corner can still be turned and the sun will shine again. And in spite of it being unfashionable to take chances, work hard, and assume responsibility for our decisions and actions, it is still the surest way to the top.

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My Story (and I’m Stick’in to It)

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By Paul A. Henny, DDS

By Perhaps your experience in dentistry has been similar to mine. After several years of practice, things simply were not working out as planned. I had entered dentistry under the assumption that I would be received as a respected professional. Based on this, I thought that most people would value my services. I also assumed that the public viewed dentistry as being associated with health, but my assumptions were soon proven wrong on many occasions.

This led to a lot of soul-searching, even wondering if I should continue in the practice of dentistry (a very dark moment for the son of a dentist). But after much reading, and reflection, I began to better understand who I was, where I was, and what I wanted for myself. I came to realize that my ‘problem’ with dentistry had a lot more to do with me than with the profession of dentistry itself.

I did not feel that what I wanted was particularly radical or unreasonable. I envisioned practicing in a fashion that was congruent with my dental school training, a practice centered on promoting and advancing dental health. At the time, the idea seemed simple and straight forward, but after listening to Peter Dawson for a couple of days in 1994, I realized that I did not yet possess the skills or understanding to do so. Stunned by the clarity of this “reality check,” I thought, “This is going to take a while,” and I was right.

So I put my shoulder down, and began to study at the Dawson Center, Pankey Institute and with Frank Spear. I involved my staff, and together we began to implement significant changes. The most essential of these was the integration of a proper complete examination process. I learned how to carefully check the health of my patients’ teeth, periodontium, TMJ’s, muscle system, and their inter-relatedness by assessing the functional occlusion. To enhance this process, I mounted study models on semi-adjustable articulators, started taking photographs, designated time to review the diagnostic information, developed diagnostic wax-ups, and crafted treatment recommendations. I felt certain that my efforts would lead to a practice full of people who valued what I had to offer, but it really didn’t happen that way.

Many patients showed no interest in learning about how to improve their dental health. Some didn’t even want to see what their mouth looked like. Others sat quietly as I carefully explained my findings and the logic behind my elegant solution to their complex problems. A few accepted my philosophy and plan, but many more left, never to be seen again.

I began to wonder if I was practicing in the wrong place. Were people in my town particularly disinterested in optimal dental health, or was there something wrong with the way I was doing things? Having committed myself to a significant amount of debt to set up the office, the former was something I could not easily change (this later turned out to be a blessing), but the later was something that kept eating away at me. How could it be that some dentists had practices brimming with patients, while I struggled to find individuals who were even remotely interested in the best that dentistry had to offer? It felt depressed.

It was not until I became a student of the late Bob Barkley that my “new” practice finally started to take form. This happened rather serendipitously after reading an article about Bob written by Avrom King. Soon I became a voracious reader of all things Barkley and King, as well as the lifelong works of L. D. Pankey, Harold Worth, Lynn Carlisle, Carl Rogers, and Scott Peck. Through their wisdom and insight, I gained a better sense of world of dentistry – as my patients’ saw it. I soon realized that most people had a significant “emotional heritage” connected to their memories of not-so-optimal dental experiences. Finally taking the time to listen, I learned that they had stories to tell; stories full of skepticism, pain, distrust, and fear. And even though these same people had great needs and great desires for better dental health, most had no concept of how to pursue it.

Closing the gap between the initial preconceptions of my patients and what was truly possible became my passion. Barkley said, “Build your relationships first – then your dentistry.” This simple but infinitely valuable piece of wisdom became the central focus of my practice. And like Barkley and Pankey before me, I became a student of how to build successful working relationships with patients. Naturally and concurrently, I abandoned trying to convince virtual strangers of what was wrong with them and what they needed to do about it and I committed myself to exploring solutions to their non-urgent needs after our relationship had matured a bit more.

These changes had both an immediate and profound impact on my practice. Patients began to drop their façades, and began to share with me how they felt, what they feared, and what they really wanted. For the first time, I found that I was communicating effectively on a consistent basis. I listened intently and helped my patients to understand that “what was” did not have to dictate, “what will be.” Moreover, through open, honest, relationships we learned more about each other, the possibilities, and their choices. The outcome of this “people-centered” process was better dentistry, dramatically increased productivity, a fulfilled care team, happier / healthier patients, and of course one very satisfied dentist.

Today, I practice comprehensive esthetic restorative dentistry four days a week in a low volume, high quality setting. Virtually without exception, every patient who enters my practice today knows who we are, what we do, is eager to learn more about it, and over time – enthusiastically proceeds toward what they want for themselves. And that is something I have found is good for everyone.

Paul A. Henny, DDS practices esthetic & restorative dentistry in Roanoke, Virginia. He is CEO of Mark 4 Associates, a dental practice development consultancy for comprehensive restorative dentists. He is Publisher and Managing Editor of Co-discovery.org, a non-profit e-forum for health-centered restorative dentists and is a visiting consulting faculty member of the Pankey Institute. Contact Paul by email at paul@Mark4Associates.com or by calling 540 314-6657.

 

Paul A. Henny,DDS

Welcome To CoDiscovery.com!

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The practice of dentistry is changing. This of course is nothing new, as the profession has continued to evolve since its inception. But one significant difference exists today; we have a broad range of choices with regard to how we can practice, and that range of choice is now greater than ever before.

In spite of this, most dentists fail to make any clear choice regarding their professional future. They roll with the current trends and market pressures. They copy what their peers are doing. They sign-on to what a consultant (who has known them for a day and one-half) recommends.  They also follow the dictates of outsiders who have significant influence in their world – the insurance industry and the dental manufacturers.

But for a few, following the flock is not the preferred path.

Some yearn for a better way, and they recognize that much of the professional information promoted today has big money behind it and hidden agendas that have little to do with advancing the health of patients.

They find that all of these things add up to trends which create more and more distance in their relationships with others. They see and sense that dentistry has become more and more about generating maximal revenues through fixing teeth in increasingly elaborate and expensve ways. Simultaineously, significantly less time and energy  is spent on truly helping others obtain and maintain stable long-term health.

Yes… the patients might look better at the end of treatment… perhaps a brighter, straighter smile….but what is the dental health of that same patient five years later? 

Many see more and more of their peers breaching professional doctor – patient relationships.They see patients being manipulated for personal gain by slick promoters of dentistry's latest wares…And fewer and fewer dentists behaving like true professionals… holding out for what is in the best long-term interest of their patients…. the quick gathering-up low-hanging fruit while less-profitable issues are ignored. They see a massive corporatizaton movement in dentistry with multi-state practices owned by distant shareholders who have profit as their sole purpose.

Although helpful in padding the balance sheet, this short-term gain strategy leaves many with a hollow feeling at the end of each work day. And many go home knowing they are practicing in a way inconsistent with why they chose dentistry for a career. They know deep down that this is not the way to build a successful, sustainable, health-oriented practice. That this is not the path to personal fulfillment either.

Most dentists work very hard for a living.

Some make more income than others. And the amount made seems to have little to do with how capable they are clinically. Many feel like they are failing to connect with patients in any meaningful way. And as a result, few patients appear interested in what they have to offer. Most patients in fact, seem happy to "just get by" as long as there is no discomfort, or they are only interested in proceding with what their insurance plan will cover.

But these dentists have drawn the wrong conclusion.

Most people do want to take care of themselves. And most people do want to keep their natural teeth for their entire lifetime as well as have an attractive smile along the way. And most people do want to find a dentist they respect, trust, and who can help them achieve their dental health goals. They simply just don't know how to get there from here, as their previous experiences with dentistry have often been unsuccessful.

CoDiscovery.com…

has been created to help those interested in learning more about patient-centered / goal-oriented / health-centered dentistry. Codiscovery.com is a unique resource designed to help those who have studied at the Pankey Institute, Dawson Center, under Frank Spear, John Kois, and with many others to fully integrate what they have learned in a "Win-Win" fashion. To help them create a practice model where they are providing the best and finest services to patients who want the same…and who deeply appreciate it.

If it has been done, then it must be possible.

CoDiscovery.com is also a forum where those who have been successful in transitioning their practices to patient-centered / health-centered models can share what they have learned with those who desire to do the same. Our intention is to advance solid, proven concepts and techniques which will help facilitate the journey of others toward their preferred future.

It is our hope that you will find the information timely, relevant, and useful. We welcome your feedback. In fact, we need your input to be successful. As a result, we will regularly share what we are learning together as well. And this in turn will help others to help others. A legacy of caring, compassionate, health-centered care will then be created to share with the next generation of health care providers.

I invite you to join us regularly to Co-Discover, learn, develop, and to share for the betterment of our profession… and I hope to hear from you soon!

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Publisher & Managing Editor

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Hi Paul,

I have finally taken the time to read the articles on this site, and I am really enjoying it. What a great forum for sharing the wisdom we have been privileged to gain from those who came before us. Hearing that wisdom expressed in the language of today is so important.

Well done, my friend. 

Mary

 Mary Osborne

1564 Alki Ave SW #303

Seattle, WA  98116

206-937-5851

www.MaryOsborne.com

 

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Dear Paul,

 

Thank you so much for the invite. I am somewhat isolated here in the BC wilderness and have not been to Pankey for a while because I finished the program! Not that my development has ground to a halt. I am still as excited about dentistry as I was when I started practicing after graduation. I will most definitely put a few thoughts on paper in the next while.

 

Cheers

 

Rudy Wassenaar, DMD,MAGD,DICOI

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Dear Dr. Henny,

I just finished reading your e-mail. I am shocked and excited to read you articulate what I have been feeling for years! I have been practicing since 1984 and have finally developed some hard earned confidence in providing dental healthcare to our patients. I am excited to think that you have a forum that will help us learn what the is the right care and the best care and how to get it to the patient.

Please let me know I can help

Best Regards,

Daniel S. Geare, DMD

Bellevue, Wa.

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Wow! Can I count on continued emails? This edition deals with every aspect of what I am going through personally and professionally. Oh, wait a second – aren't they the same thing? I look forward to having something to contribute soon.

Glenn j. Chiarello,D.D.S

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This is a very noble aspiration! I feel honored to be invited. I am the only pankey-trained dentist here in the Philippines. For years, I have taken the long, difficult and oh-so-winding road towards that ultimate goal of achieving the so-called optimal oral health for and with my patients.I have been very faithful to the Pankey Philosophy for all of these years since I came back from my life and training in the US but that is not to say that life's been a bed of roses. I had to and still am educating my countrymen here, one patient at a time in my dental chair. My country is a thirld world where Dental health is an elective that is far from any list of any priority whatsoever.Some days are long and arduous when I would love to touch base with someone  who lives the same philosophy in the practice of dentistry- – – if only to renew my faith or be validated for it.

Please keep me posted. More power to you!

Agnes B. Claros, D.M.D.

dentalspamanila@yahoo.com

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On Personal Branding Article:

This is right on target.  You need to gain feedback on how you are percieved by others and then create a development plan for your personal brand.

Dan Schawbel,

www.personalbrandingmag.com

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Paul, Congratulations on your codiscovery launch. More voices like codiscovery.com are needed to spread the word on health-centered/relationship-based dentistry

Best,

Lynn Carlisle, DDS Editor and Publisher of In a Spirit of Caring

www.spiritofcaring.com

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Congratulations Paul. Nice job. Keep up the good work.

Sandy Roth

www.prosynergy.com

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Paul, This is great. Congratulations and thanks for your contributions to Relationship-Based, behavioral dental caring.

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Rain Barrels To Avert Summer Patient Drought

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Many of you will remember a couple of years ago, there was summer drought in the Southeast. Locally, our city’s main water reservoir almost went dry and heavy water restrictions were set in place. One of those restrictions was a prohibition on watering outdoor plants with tap water. Since gardening and landscaping is a major hobby for many, this prohibition was quite distressing. A resourceful few set out rain barrels as a counter measure and managed the situation quite successfully. 

If your practice is anything like mine, you experience a measurable drop-off in the amount of new patient calls about this time of year. This can result in a schedule that looks rather moth-eaten as well as flat production numbers.

As everyone is aware, this annual “drought” is commonly due to the summer season. Moms and dads are heading to the beach or are busy shuttling little Johnnie and Mary off to socceer camp and the like.  In short, fewer people are around and/or they are more focused on other things than dentistry.

Such is life … This annual trend although frustrating, doesn’t have to lead to a drop in your monthly production or profitability. One strategy that I have used quite successfully to avert a mid-summer “drought” is to market and promote my practice strongly in the second quarter. Currently we are using some informative radio spots, participation in a spring health fair and a cooperatively sponsored seminar with a local plastic surgeon to do this. This strategy typically yields plans for more esthetic & restorative work than I can handle at the time. It also allows us to begin Phase I care with a new group of people who will be ready for Phase II around mid-summer, just when I need the increased activity.

This strategy, like using a rain barrel during a drought, allows us to counter balance the natural slow-down in new patient traffic which occurs over the summer.  It creates an internal flow of patients who are ready for restorative care at just the right time to meet my practice’s financial needs.

Give this strategy a try in the spring. It should improve your numbers as well as allow you to sleep more comfortably during those hot summer nights!

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