On Trust

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

On Trust

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Trust in another person is commonly defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truthfulness, capability, and so forth of another. And from there, “Good relationships must be built on trust.”

But truthfully, when we talk about trust, we are talking about vulnerability, and we are talking about how much vulnerability we will allow into our lives at a particular moment or with a certain person or organization.

The more a patient trusts us, the more they are allowing themselves to be potentially hurt- they have made a risk/benefit analysis with their right brain and have perhaps decided to throw the dice. Conversely, when patients do not trust us very much, they allow for minimal vulnerability- and that could be on the physical, emotional, financial, or all three levels.

So, when a patient says, “no” to allowing us to take x-rays, or to a proper restoration, or some another appropriate procedure, they are often saying, “I don’t trust you yet,” and we often take this instinct of self-preservation personally, and then project our feelings onto it…all damaging and unproductive.

A better approach would be to empathetically explore why, and search for some common ground in shared goals and values toward health.

So, “No” often means “Not yet,” as in, “You have not yet convinced me that I should allow myself to be that vulnerable around you.”

And then juxtaposed to our patient’s level of trust -is our’s. Can WE trust their decision-making ability enough to invest a lot of our time, energy, and money into helping them fully learn about their situation, and fully understand their choices, as well as allow them the time and space to decide for themselves what is in their best interest and when?

So, it is “all about trust” – isn’t it? Trust is an emotionally-driven dance which will either bring us closer together or father apart over time.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC ©2018

Visions & Re-Visions

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According to Markus Zusak, he had to rewrite his book 150-200 times until he was happy with it. And he began by imagining the end of the story, then the beginning, then the chapter headings – then the writing…over and over again.

In the end, Markus had a NYT Best-seller, with 8 million copies sold, and a movie deal for ‘The Book Thief’.

One might be tempted to view Markus Zusak as an overnight success, but knowing what I have just told you allows you to understand that’s not the truth. The visibility of his success perhaps appeared to be overnight, but the success took him years to create.

So too is the case with relationship-based / health-centered dentistry -no overnight successes there either. The creation of the practice takes years, starting much like Zusak’s book – beginning with the end in mind.

From there, each aspect is assembled from finding and forming the right Care Team, to developing them, and to finding better and better ways to connect with patients – to truly hearing them…to understanding their struggles…to sensing their desire to feel better about themselves.

And along the way- mistakes, misunderstandings, and outright failures prompting rewrites, re-thinking, and re-doing.

This is the true nature of success – a pathway through failure and upward toward better understanding.

It has been said that the main difference between a vision and a dream is the work involved. The later requires none, the former’s work never ends. A true vision is a principle-centered thought capsule aching to be validated by reality. It has an inherent truth built into it which must be realized. And as with Zusak, if it takes 200 revisions to make it happen – then it takes 200 revisions – so be it.

The simple secret to success is in the willingness to be flexible and to accommodate new understandings combined with a sheer force of will and perseverance that only a few are willing to make.

Paul A Henny DDS

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Your Practice’s Brand is a Feeling

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Your practice is a direct reflection of who you are, what you believe in, and what you can do for others. And the way the public perceives your practice is your practice “brand.”

You create your practice brand, consciously or haphazardly, with everything you do. In marketing circles, it is commonly said that “a “brand is an implied promise”, but successful branding in dentistry is a strategically created expectation in the mind of the target client.

Your patients chose you for a reason, they expected something – and what they expected was a feeling.

Some chose you because they live near your office, but they expected to feel that your location would be a convenient fit into their busy lives. Someone else may have chosen you because you go to their church and they expected to feel that you are principle-centered. Another person may have heard you are gentle, and therefore expected to feel comfort while under your care. And yet others may have chosen you because you are in their insurance network, expecting to feel financially secure if they ever needed dental work.

But how many people have chosen you for the quality of your work, the level of your expertise, or for the value of the relationship you consciously create with each person? In other words, how many people chose you because they expect to feel that they are in the hands of a masterful practitioner who truly cares who they are and what is in THEIR best interest? If you intend to develop a fine relationship-based esthetic restorative practice, AND have those whom you serve truly appreciate what you are doing on their behalf, then you must create a practice brand in the minds of your community which will lead them to expect to feel that way.

When people come to you with a sense of clarity regarding what they want, who you are, and what you can do, the chance of your meeting or exceeding their expectations is high. This because there is a fundamental match between their expectations and your capabilities from the outset.

But when people come to you with expectations outside the scope of your primary purpose or capabilities, then there is a high risk of confusion, disappointment, and in many cases – conflict. Conflict is the seed of discontentment, and when expectations are routinely violated – confusion abounds. When confusion abounds – conflicts multiply. And when conflicts multiply – everyone in the relationship becomes unhappy.

Unhappy people are prone to make poor choices and thus experience more negative feelings. And this is where many patients, practitioners and staff are stuck…in a “doom loop” of negative feelings about each other. Practitioners who are frequently in this negative place rarely succeed at developing their practice to the next level regardless of their clinical prowess.

If you have a high level of skill and strive to provide more sophisticated and complex esthetic and restorative services, it is unlikely that you will do so by simply waiting for it to randomly happen. Practices filled with patients who seek fine, complete restorative services have first created positive value in the minds of their target audience – they have “branded” themselves with a reputation for consistently providing high quality restorative care and people have organically moved toward it.

Practice branding should therefore be a process by which you are carefully managing how your practice is perceived. In essence, you are strategically influencing how others think of your practice by carefully cultivating your reputation. And this is achieved by effectively communicating to others how you can help them, what you believe in, and how you do things.

When practice branding is accomplished in a fashion which is organic and unobtrusive – it causes others to think that they’ve developed their perception of your practice all by themselves. And then once properly created, a practice brand is powerful and compelling. It becomes your “proxy self” by giving certain people specific reasons to choose your practice even when you are not around. And of equal importance, it gives reasons for others NOT to choose your practice – thus avoiding conflicts created by incompatible expectations.

In this way, an effective practice brand becomes a “self-screening tool,” as it allows prospective patients to decide much earlier in a relationship – often times before they even enter into one -whether or not a particular dentist and practice is the best resource to address their perceived needs and desires.

Your practice brand also helps to keep your practice and capabilities top-of-mind, by gently reminding them of your unique value. This in turn, makes you a contender to potentially provide more of the kind of dentistry you want to be doing, and the quality of dentistry that makes you feel good about what you are doing.

And when you and your care team feel good about yourselves, you are much more likely to grow personally and professionally. Thus, a positive practice brand facilitates growth in yourself, your team, and your patients.

And here by saying “patient growth”, I am not referring to a simple measurement of increased volume, but rather to a measurement of the increase in the value new patients place in your ability to help them achieve their health objectives and appearance objectives.

Lastly, the process of practice branding must be authentic and fit with your overall practice development strategy: a principle-centered evolution catalyzed by internal and external activities. Thus, one can’t “fake it to make it.” Practice branding is what Avrom King called an “inside – out” process, and therefore must be an authentic expression of who truly are to be optimally effective.

The final outcome of a well-executed practice branding process is that when prospective patients contacts your office, the same tone, image, philosophy and approach is EXPERIENCED which was EXPECTED.

Consequently, when the person finally arrives, they feel good about themselves and the choices they are making. Hence, Personal Branding is about managing how others feel about themselves when they are in direct or indirect contact with your practice.

How do your patients / clients FEEL about your practice? Is it what you want them to feel and think about you? And if not- why not? And if yes, how can you amplify those feelings so that more like-minded people can find you and your services in the future?

Branding. You are already living with it, why not properly manage it?

Paul A Henny, DDS

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Motivation is an inside job.

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Carl Rogers, PhD was a leader in the Humanistic Psychology movement of the 1950’s and 1960’s. These concepts evolved into what he called “Person-centered Therapy,” which reflected Rogers’ belief that most people had the most appropriate solutions to their problems already residing with themselves, but were either unaware of their existence, or that the solutions were not fully developed enough yet to be useful to the person.

As a consequence of his mindset towards people, Rogers felt his role needed to be that of a facilitator of self-discovery and self-change, rather than to try and convince others to change in a fashion that HE felt was in their best interest.

The power behind this facilitated self-discovery concept was immediately recognized by Bob Barkley and Nate Kohn, Jr. PhD in the early 1960’s. And over years of experimentation, Barkley and Kohn created what is known today as “Codiscovery,” and the “Three Phase Adult Education” process.

Commonly not discussed however, is that Carl Rogers (and Bob Barkley) knew it was impossible to have a developmental / therapeutic relationship with a person who does not want to commit themselves to the personal work necessary to change. They recognized it was nearly impossible to convince someone else to change for the better, because the desire to improve, hence the motivation to follow through with complex, time consuming decisions requiring personal sacrifice could only come from inside a person, and not through any type of persuasion.

Beyond simple and rather impulsive decisions, it is impossible to “motivate” another person toward sustained effort, action, and personal sacrifice. This motivational force ONLY comes from within, although it can be developed or revealed through facilitation.

So, in a nutshell, that is what Bob did, he developed greater self-understanding, clarity around a preferred future, and then by doing so, he facilitated the internal motivation necessary for the person to follow through.

But Bob only did this with people who were indicating to him in one way or another that THEY wanted to change, and therefore THEY wanted things to change in their life… the patterns…the outcomes relative to dentistry …their feelings about themselves, and so forth.

THE DESIRE TO CHANGE THEREFORE REPRESENTS A PRECONDITION TO PROGRESS TOWARD CHANGE. Hence, when there is no desire to change on the part of the patient, you have a person (at least at that moment) seeking comfort, perhaps seeking sympathy, or even a person seeking affirmation that their self-neglect is an ok thing for them to be doing.

How we choose to address and manage these situations is a personal and philosophical question to be answered, but it is important to acknowledge that we cannot give health to others – we can only judiciously render advice and treatment, which may or may not help a person move in the direction of greater health, as health is a choice – their choice.

Bob knew this, do you?

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Read more on www.Codiscovery.com

Moving away from Mediocristan

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-Heartland dental currently employs around 1200 dentists, and plans to expand to 4000 with future locations already selected.

-Aspen Dental is collaborating with Walgreens to place offices in their buildings.

-25% of all practices are contracted with a DSO including 15% of all dentists.

-80% of all dentists are projected to be working under a DSO contract in the next 15-20 years.

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of light, it was the season of darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair.”

So opens Charles Dickens’ ‘Tale of Two Cities.’

One could read into current market trends that the end of individually owned private practices in dentistry is near. And you would be 80% correct and 20% incorrect.

Such projections aren’t new. Avrom King famously talked about this 40 years ago. He said that the market would differentiate into three tiers: Closed Panel, Retail, and Relationship-based / health-centered.

The “middle” of the market will be dominated by corporations seeking ROI for their investors. The bottom tier (Tier 1) will be various direct and indirect versions of government financed treatment.

The top tier, Tier 3, will be the only place that money-centric agendas do not rule the day. And consequently, will primarily be the only place where health is truly facilitated and promoted. The other two tiers will be focused on the efficiencies of treatment delivery.

And there is a difference between treatment delivery and facilitating health – believe me.

To this point, Bob Barkley said, “It is impossible to create health with burs, prophy cups, or surgical instruments.”

Heath in dentistry emerges only through self-responsibly and commitment. Yes, treatment is sometimes part of the equation, but treatment alone can not sustain health in most patients.

Oh, but there is money to be made with burs, prophy cups, and surgical instruments! And lots of it as the corporates better learn how to efficiently convert dental health care professionals into day laborers, and become more and more emotionally disconnected from their patients.

Nassim Taleb, author of ‘The Black Swan’ described middle market places like Tier 2 as ”Mediocristan,” where the size of the faculty is average, the quality average and highly repeatable, and the operators – average, because they are easily replaced, like cogs in a giant wheel.

But “average” care delivered in an average facility, by an average person does not serve the “average” patient well – IF the goal is the promotion of health.

So, what is your goal? What is your purpose? How will you thrive in the future if Mediocristan is not where you want to live?

“Only a totally new health-centered philosophy of dentistry at all levels of society can avert a collision with mediocrity on a world-wide basis.”

Robert F. Barkley, DDS

Paul A Henny, DDS

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Truly meaningful relationships matter

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When the art and science of dentistry is reduced down to primarily being about “production” and code mining, its spiritual dimension is easily lost. Spend a few minutes on some dental social media sites, and you will quickly see this truth in black and white.

Dr. Pankey warned about this problem. The key to becoming a truly successful dentist isn’t just about mastering the technical, and making a lot of money. Such narrow pursuits are ultimately hollow, and do not represent enough to carry you through life as a fully developed and fulfilled person. And they do not represent enough to carry you through life’s inevitable tragedies and periods of suffering.

Creating a habit of connecting with your patients in a deeply meaningful way, helps you to form up the emotional antibodies which can carry you through the eventual not-so-good times…the times when all the money and material things in the world can’t solve your problem. The times when only love, support, and reciprocated understanding can begin to heal your wounds.

Never forget this. Chasing after the next new and shiny object may not be the the best solution for your situation today, as the best solution may very well be sitting right there in front of you.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Read more at www.codiscovery.com — with L.D. Pankey.

Help your patients think

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Why do rational models such as those used in economics, and classical decision-making theory routinely fail to accurately predict patient behavior? The answer to this question lies within the emerging field of neuroeconomics, which is the confluence of psychology, economics, and neuroscience.

Classic Decision Theory (CDT), is represented by a person making decisions which involve choices regarding a course of action among a fixed set of alternatives with a specific goal in mind. 

The three components of a decision in this model are:

1. Options or courses of action available 

2. Beliefs and expectancies associated with those options 

3. Previous experiences (memories) which are then used to project an expected outcome associated with each option.

According to this theory, people make decisions based on their desire to maximize gains and minimize losses. This represents a rational and logical left cerebral cortex objective type of functioning.

But anyone who has practiced dentistry for a day knows that this model fails to explain many of the decisions people make, particularly when they are complex and influence long-term health. In other words, simple decisions like: “Should I get this filling replaced because it’s broken?” or “Should I let them help me get this tooth to stop hurting?” are rather predictable. But what is much less predictable, is whether or not a person will want us to equilibrate their occlusion and restoratively reestablish proper function and esthetics.  

Or is it really that unpredictable?

It turns out that a person’s beliefs and experiences drive their decision-making. And these represent memories with specific meanings to each person.  So, if we fail to take the time to understand what a person’s beliefs are and what they mean to them, then surely as the sun rises in the morning, their decisions will appear unpredictable to us.

On the other hand, if we know our patients well on both a personal and emotional level, (including their belief system and other thought structures), then the game changes; their likely decisions become quite predictable. 

And then if we add another layer to this by prompting the question to ourselves: “Am I ok with the decision they are likely to make, and is it in their long-term interest?” then the game changes yet again, because we are querying ourselves about the fundamental purpose of our practice.

If we don’t like the way a person’s thinking is influencing their decision-making, then we need to “get them to think differently,” as Bob Barkley used to say. And by this he did not mean manipulation, rather he meant, creating an optimal learning environment in which a person could safely re-evaluate their current beliefs and thought structures so they could see if they are still serving them well.

The re-assessment of beliefs, modification of them, or outright replacement of them represents a right hemisphere process and a brain function known as ‘inductive thinking.’ For this purpose, Bob and Nate Kohn, Jr. designed a very intentional and specific way to facilitate it. They called it Co-discovery, and those who understand how and why it works will find that it can change the way they practice dentistry forever.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Who Tells Your Story?

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Lin-Manuel Miranda concludes his iconic musical ‘Hamilton’ with a piece titled, “Who Lives, Who Dies, Who Tells Your Story.” The song causes the audience to reflect on why certain people in history are remembered, while others are forgotten. It draws them in, and includes them in the drama and to discover personal meaning through the experience.

One of my favorite quotes from Peter Drucker is, “The aim of marketing is to know and understand the customer so well the product or service fits him and sells itself… The aim of marketing is to make selling superfluous”.

When I first read this quote, is was a true “a-ha” moment for me; it completely shifted my paradigm about marketing while simultaneously connecting it to L. D. Pankey.

And then the light went came on: L.D. Pankey was one of the greatest marketers in the history of all dentistry. Ditto Pete Dawson. Ditto Frank Spear, and others who never ran a single ad or hired a “image consultant”.

They simply were who the were, and they clearly communicated it -in person. And always consistently and in a fashion that many others eventually wanted to hear what they had to think- and after that-  to see what they could do.

in other words, they were very good at telling their own story, and through that narrative others learned, grew and repeated it in their own ways. Dentists, patients, community leaders, and others did this over and over because they, as Drucker said, “knew their audience” and therefore made “selling superfluous”.

So, that needs to be our goal as well, if we are to thrive in this rapidly-changing marketplace. Our story must be told by ourselves, by our Care Team, by our patients, and by those who have heard about it second hand.

How will this be done? By first clarifying our philosophy and Vision to the level that it is “in our tissues” as L.D. used to say. And then, by breaking down barriers to honest authentic communication, by being patient, and by caring enough to wait for the teacher to appear for each and every person.

So, ‘Who tells your Story’ is ultimately up to us.

Are you ready?

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more on www.codiscovery.com

 

What is your purpose?

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Peter Senge, author of The Fifth Discipline famously said, “People don’t resist change, they resist being changed.” And that idea represents the central truth behind Bob Barkley’s Co-discovery method.

Minor changes to what we believe, called “assimilations” by Jean Piaget PhD, are easy for us to make because they are low risk. Paradigm-shifting major changes, he called “accommodations” are a different matter, as they require a major reorganization of our thought structures, and hence how we see and operate in the world…thus high risk and requiring a much higher level of trust.

When we have a new patient who approaches us with a broken tooth, and who is completely unaware that a significant loss of vertical dimension due to bruxism is the driver behind their problem (or a sleep-related / airway-driven problem), WE are confronted with a problem as well. We must decide if we should simply repair the tooth and let the patient proceed on down their slippery slope, or should we attempt to facilitate an “accomodation.” Are we going to make an attempt to get this person to see their situation differently, and therefore reorganize their belief system relative to their problem and its long-term implications -or not? Are we going to “live and let live,” or are we going to try and positively influence this person in such a way that it facilitates their making better decisions for themselves going forward?

Because people resist change, “telling” rarely leads to a significant adaptation to their existing belief system. Hence, co-discovery with its emphasis on self-learning and personal relevance is the key to change in these complex learning situations. It is the pathway around a person’s inherent desire to maintain the status quo.

This of course takes both time, and a belief in the inherent value of the Codiscovery process. And that is a cultural thing – a culturally-driven choice based on our Purpose. So, what we see as the Purpose of our practice drives our thinking and our systems. And our thinking and our systems influence how others respond to us. And how others respond to us influences their health – and ours.

What is your Purpose, and does your practice culture and it’s systems support it well, or not?

Paul A, Henny, DDS

Read more at Codiscovery.com

So, what is a “Fact”?

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Consider the possibility that a lot of the things you think of as being true today, will in time be disproved or significantly modified. Now consider that your perception of the truth is really just a personal mental construction, based on your limited knowledge and experiences which were then influenced by your biases and motivated by many of your subconscious agendas.

Both of these considerations are commonly held truths within the psychological community today – that some “facts” and some “truths” are really just evolving concepts instead of unchanging and fixed reference points of knowledge. Much of this thinking is based on the landmark work of Swiss Psychologist Jean Piaget (1896-1980), who studied how children assimilate knowledge, develop “knowledge structures”, and how those knowledge structures can change over time. Piaget called minor changes to these structures “assimilations”and major changes – paradigm shifts really – as “accommodations.”

And we all do this constantly over our entire lifetime.

So, that means our patients do it too.

Most of our patients come to us with very little understanding of what dentistry is about and what it can do for them. On top of that, they have fears and biases. And then on top of that, they have external influencers like spouses, parents, insurance companies, and television ads implying to them that if they have all of their teeth extracted and “new teeth” put in the very same day, they will be happier and look better – forever.

Considering all of this, we have a complicated job on our hands IF we want to truly practice patient-centered dentistry. And this of course, isn’t new news either, as it was exactly what L.D. Pankey meant when he said, “Know yourself” and “Know your patient.”

If our true goal is to treat the whole person – meaning effects AND causes, then we have to better understand how our patients think AND why. Because it is how they think which drives their decisions and behavior, and their decisions and behavior drive their health status and attitude towards it.

Jean Piaget taught us that the only real “facts” are associated with how people learn – because it is a primal process and is built into our very biology and physiology.

So, are you paying attention to what your patients know, how they know it, how they feel about what they know, and even whether or not what they know is helpful or hurtful to them over time?

You should be, because it is the only way to practice truly health-centered dentistry, and better understanding all of that will never happen during a ten minute new patient exam in your hygiene room, it will only happen through Codiscovery.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2018

Read more on www.codiscovery.com

(Piaget’s theory of cognitive development is a comprehensive theory about the nature and development of human intelligence, and is invaluable to anyone who is interested in facilitating growth and change in others)

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