Are you Altuistic?

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Are you Altuistic?

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There is a common cultural misconception about the meaning of altruism; not that there is a problem with it per se, but more with regard to where altruism comes from. Most definitions state that altruism represents “selfless” devotion or concern for the well being of others. But can anything really be totally “selfless”?

I would argue not.

Altruism is actually an outcome of boundary development, and boundary development is an outcome of values clarification. And values clarification can lead to a missional lifestyle. So when a missional lifestyle also happens to be focused on helping others – with or without any obvious personal gain – we are really talking about someone who demonstrates personal integrity; we are talking about someone who “walks the talk”. And that represents a lot more than selfless behavior – it represents a fusion of true self with mission – a philosophically based Purpose.

Conversely, in the absence of a well-developed boundary due to murky values or shifting socially-influenced priorities, the helping of others may be driven by an attempt to serve ourselves…possibly even a neurotic attempt to feel better about ourselves…a superficial kabuki theatre hidden behind our personal insecurity.

This is WHY Values clarification, and WHY spending time clarifying our mission…is so central in the creation of a truly patient-centered practice, where the sincere agenda is to help others grow and become more of what they are capable of becoming physically, emotionally, and even spiritually (how we feel about ourselves directly influences our spiritual life).

The end of the year is a traditional time to look backwards and forwards, and this should be done with our team as well. What were our behaviors patterns? Were they in alignment with our mission? Hence, did our Care Team and therefore practice, routinely demonstrate integrity?

And was our behavior, and will our behavior be truly altruistic?

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

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Philosophy Matters.

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In dentistry, philosophy matters. In fact, it matters in every single practice whether we are consciously aware of it -or not. Bob Barkley knew this, and after first hearing this paradigm-shifting truth from L. D Pankey, he sought assistance.

Nate Kohn, Jr., PhD, was an educational psychologist (who also held a degree in Theology). Nate had been working with dentists for years at the time Bob met him. And Nate, an avid believer in the recently published work of Carl Rodgers PhD on person-centered therapy, helped Bob clarify his person-centered practice philosophy as well as successfully implement it.

From there, Bob shared what he had learned with the world.

Unfortunately, Nate unexpectedly died in 1970, and this forced Bob to continue on his philosophical journey without him. (Bob connected with Avrom King, a Social Psychologist, at about that time, and Avrom worked with Bob via letter and phone calls for an average of five hours a week on Philosophy and application up until Bob’s passing). Bob stated, “I cannot overstate the value of Nate’s psychological guidance during this most critical phase of my life…Nate’s death made it necessary for me to read extensively in order to find references for some of our concepts.”

In other words, the crisis forced by Nate’s death caused Bob to dig down still deeper and grow even more in his understanding of the need for a clarified practice philosophy.

In his book, Successful Preventive Dental Practice, Bob sites the following quote regarding a major problem which still exists within dentistry today, that “outside-in” solutions are commonly employed to resolve “inside-out” issues…issues directly associated with philosophy.

“Life is such that we frequently can ‘get on’, or even ‘get ahead’ , without much reflection, sliding along in paths already well worn by others. This is not to say, that in doing so we may not learn many things along the way. We can continually add new patterns of belief and increase our ability to deal with future situations without understanding the import of what we added.

This process, tends to smother our sensitivity to incongruence; hence, when life occasionally forces us out of well-worn paths, we are overwhelmed by confusion and frustration. We suddenly discover that what we possess is a conglomeration of patterns, not an integral structure. What appears to be knowledge, turns out to be mere information. What seemed to be basic organizing beliefs – a philosophy of life – turns out to be a ‘modus operandi’, a way of working, learned largely through thoughtless imitation, informal conditioning, or by simple trial and error.”*

What is your practice philosophy, and how do you apply it?

* Excerpted from Reflective Thinking: The Method of Education. Hullfish, Gordon, & Smith, 1961

Paul A Henny DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

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