It’s all about Trust

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

It’s all about Trust

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When we meet a new patient for the very first time, what matters the most?

1. Showing we are skilled, experienced, and capable?

2. Showing we are trustworthy and likable?

Most of us, due to our heavy left-brain oriented education and training (and therefore left brain bias), assume expertise, experience, and competence matter most to patients. And this is simply because WE value them highly and to a large degree wear our knowledge like ribbons and badges of honor.

After all (our thinking goes), if patients are going to trust us, they first need to know that we have the skills to properly address their needs – right?

This line of of logic feels comfortable to us. It also supports our ego, and it makes us feel more safe and less vulnerable when we quickly claim the superior social status “expert” role in a relationship.

But in spite of our feeling more comfortable in approaching people this way, it is problematic on a behavioral level -particularly when we want a person to make an expensive, time consuming, and often emotionally threatening decision.

This is because how others INITIALLY judge us has very little to do with whether or not we seem by them  to be skilled or competent. Instead, most strangers to us (and typicallly within the first 7 seconds) subconsciously ask themselves only one question upon meeting us:

“Can I trust this person?”

So, a sense of trustworthiness (meaning warmth and likability at this point) trumps credentials and even experience IN THE VERY BEGINNING of a relationship. This holds true because from a brain evolution perspective, our lower brain’s functional needs must be met before the higher brain functions can kick in (where the finer aspects of discernment occur).

But our natural likability can quickly lose its impact in a dental office environment, especially when there’s no substance behind the initially warm and seemingly safe surface. And THAT is when our care, skill, and judgement comes in to play. Once we have allowed our patients to ASSUME we are trustworthy, then we must PROVE it.

We must EARN their trust.

It is sometimes helpful to think of trust as a two-sided coin, with ‘Trust’ on one side, and ‘Distrust’ on the other. And that when we are talking about trust, we are really talking about how our patients manage their vulnerability.

So, on the ‘Trust’ side of the coin, the person is subconsciously saying to themselves, “I will trust my safety, and maybe even my heath to the actions and thinking of this person, something about it feels ok to me.”

On the other hand, when a person is functioning on the ‘distrust’ side, they are saying to themselves, “Something is not right here, and I am not sure what it is, but I am not going to allow this person to get  too close to me emotionally or physically.”

Now, you can see that our credentials on the wall and even our staff’s gushing descriptions of our abilities will mean next to nothing to a new person in our practice until we have demonstrated that we are able to build and maintain great helping (from their perspective) relationships with them, and they feel safe.

So how do we do this? How can we consistently project likability and trustworthiness with new patients? By properly using the Co-discovery process on an emotional level.

And what is the most important thing to “co-discover” in the beginning?

How they FEEL about what they remember, what they know, and what are learning.

(Notice that I did not say “that they have a 5mm pocket in the disto-facial of #30.)

We emotionally co-discover how others feel by listening more and talking less.

We emotionally co-discover by asking open-ended / non-leading questions.

We emotionally co-discover by maintaining eye contact and observing how they are responding. Relief? Surprise? Guilt? Shame? Fear? Despair?

And we then support them, and make them feel  emotionaly safe by stopping to acknowledge and explore what they are feeling and why. And then when we do speak, we don’t offer advice until we are asked.

Often times, what people seek the most is feeling understood.

Remember that.

Listening, observing, and exploring in this fashion, along with the delaying of advice-giving until the most emotionally appropriate time, shows that we sincerely care about them as a person, via DEMONSTRATING DEFERENCE, and by honoring THEIR SENSE OF AGENCY with regard to being able to make good decisions.

Consequently, this approach strategically avoids the creation of a co-dependent relationships. And this is because when we offer advice prematurely, we make the conversation about us, our knowledge, or our capacity to rescue and cure, while inadvertently diminishing the patient’s sense of autonomy.

Napolian famously said, “If I had enough ribbon, I could conquer the world”. And by that he meant, if he could fool his soldiers into thinking that they were great by giving them medals and ribbons, he could manipulate them into doing almost anything he wanted them to do.

But it didn’t work out that way for Napoleon.

And nor will it for you if you want to built trust and facilitate better decision-making.

Put away the ribbons,

Put away the medals of honor and distinction.

Put away your need to be recognized as an expert.

And just listen and learn.

That’s Co-discovery at its very core.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

 

Emotional Connection is Key

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COMMUNICATION

Emotion makes a person take action now. When they hear a message honestly and sincerely delivered they tend to become emotionally involved. Listening with empathy gives the person psychological support. Next to physical survival, the greatest need is to be understood, to be affirmed, and to be appreciated.

Logic enables the person to justify the purchase later. When they see radiographs, diagnostic models, and video camera images, they are more likely to respond logically. People sometimes say “no” when they don’t know enough information to say “yes.”
​► Some people will not tell you the true objection.
​► Some people do not know the true objection.
​► These people are operating at the feeling level. Something just doesn’t feel ​​​right.
​► Some people are embarrassed to admit they do not have enough money to ​​​buy.
​► Some people do not understand the problem or the solution and their “pride” ​​​says “I’ m not interested.”

Many people don’t own their disease because it doesn’t hurt. We need to clearly define the goal of health and longevity and get the patient’s agreement and commitment to the goal. It is important for the patient to own their part in the cause of the disease in order for them to take ownership in the treatment. The worse thing we do for patients with perio-disease is clean their teeth without first involving them in the treatment solution. If all we do is scale and root plane their teeth, we take ownership of solving their problem.

Mrs. Jones, I want to help you save your teeth.
1st – You must be able to thoroughly clean the bacterial plaque from every area of ​your teeth daily. Our professional relationship is dependent upon you ​accepting responsibility…
Because – If I take the responsibility of cleaning your teeth, I save your teeth for only ​one day. If I teach you to clean your teeth daily, you can save your teeth for a ​lifetime. Your ability to obtain and maintain health in the 1st phase of ​treatment will determine what is possible to do in the 2nd phase.
2nd – Our initial goal is maximum health and stability with your home care.
3rd – Thorough scaling, root planing, perio-surgery, if required.
4th When your gingival health is stable, we can begin the restorative procedures as ​needed.

Bill Lockard, D.D.S. – Visiting Faculty – The Pankey Institute

The Codiscovery Interview

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ICO-DISCOVERY INTERVIEW

This interview process facilitates the learning for both the patient and the doctor. It is a process to clarify the patient’s values, wants, and concerns, determine his/her emotional maturity and readiness to accept responsibility and make informed choices for oral health.

We must spend enough time to listen and learn their values, fears, anxieties, expectations and perceived need. People must know that we have listened to them and understand what they want, because people will buy what they need from people they trust and who understand what they want. Understanding their socio-economic and intellectual levels, personal values, appreciation of dentistry and behavior style helps me to know how I can help them make informed choices for a preferred future of oral health.

​►”In our time today, I believe it is important for us to know each other so we can ​​decide how we can work together to help with your oral health.”
​►”What would be important for me to know about you?” (pause)
​►”What is the most important thing I can do for you?”
​►”What is your long-term plan for your dental care?”
​►”What do you know about the conditions present in your mouth?”
​►”How do you feel about the way your teeth look? Color and shape.”
​►”What are your expectations for your experience in our office?”

​>Understand their values and how what we have to offer fits their values.
​>Everyone wants quality work, but don’t really know what that means. They​ ​​judge quality by relationships and lack of discomfort.
​>Values clarification in dentistry is a process where patients become aware of ​​​their personal values of health and how dental care fits into their value ​​​system.
​>Co-discovering values is a relationship building practice that occurs over time ​​​at the patient’s pace. We must provide enough time for developing ​​​relationships.
​>Choose any service – clinical or behavioral – how can you enhance the value ​​​to the patient?

Bill Lockard, D.D.S. – Visiting Faculty – The Pankey Institute

A Co-Discovery Method to Consider

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COMMUNICATING QUALITY TO OUR PATIENTS

Robert L. Cunningham, D.D.S.

Helping our patients/clients to value fine dentistry has everything to do with how we are with the patient during their initial (and continuing care) visits to our office. A close, ongoing examination of how we structure and pace the New Patient/Co-diagnosis Experience is vital to our success in forming a trust bond with our patients. What we do after the initial visits will wither enhance or detract from that image.

Patients enter our practice in basically three ways: 1. With a dental emergency or “urgency”; 2. Through a visit with the hygienist; and 3. When requesting an examination.

It is our stated objective that the vast majority (about 80-90%) of our patients enter the practice through the Co-diagnosis process.

THE “EMERGENCY” NEW PATIENT

Use the regular health history. Have the patient sign the consent for treatment and the toothache questionnaire.

Treatment Coordinator or chairside assistant conducts patient into the consultation room and reviews the health history and toothache form with the patient, taking time to listen to their fears and concerns.

The interviewer excuses them and gives the doctor a synopsis of their emergency and the patient’s personality style.

The doctor and the assistant decide if it is necessary for the doctor to interview the patient or have the assistant go ahead with the necessary x-rays.
The patient is seated in a treatment room. If the doctor has not yet met the patient, he is introduced by the assistant and takes a few minutes to establish rapport, review the history and diagnostic information.

A diagnosis is made and the patient’s options are quickly and precisely explained to the patient. The doctor or assistant discusses appropriate fees.
Palliative relief is provided to the patient. The patient’s comfort is foremost. Appropriate anesthetic and/or analgesic are administered slowly and painlessly.

Future needs are quickly discussed in general terms. The assistant helps the patient make and appointment with the appropriate doctor or specialist. The patient is strongly encouraged to appoint for a comprehensive exam.

THE HYGIENE NEW PATIENT

Patients are encouraged not to enter the practice in this manner. It puts the focus on the old adage that, “I only want my teeth cleaned and checked.” It does not allow our practice to be represented as favorably and comprehensively as we would like. The job of the person taking the incoming call is to tactfully and assertively communicate this to the patient. If the patient still insists, they are appointed to see the hygienist only.

The process is as follows:

Welcome package is sent. If time does not permit the package to reach the patient prior to the appointment, they are asked to come in at least ten minutes prior to the scheduled appointment.
The hygienist interviews the patient in the consultation room and takes about five minutes to review the health history and establish rapport.
The doctor is introduced to the patient in the consultation room after being de-briefed by the hygienist. Using the notes made on the health history and Personal Patient Profile form, he focuses mainly on the medical portion of the form and explains briefly what the IPT (Initial Periodontal Therapy) appointment entails.

The doctor conducts the patient into the hygiene room, where blood pressure, bacterial slide and complete periodontal charting is performed by the hygienist. The slide is viewed by the patient and the results are discussed by the hygienist. AAP periodontal typing is done with an emphasis on the number and depth of pockets, bleeding points, and recession. If a prophylaxis can be completed at that appointment, the treatment is completed. If the patient needs periodontal therapy, the doctor is brought in at that point to make the diagnosis. (See materials on Periodontal Team Management from JP Consultants.)

After the doctor leaves the room, fees are discussed, financial arrangements are negotiated, and appointments are made in the computer in the hygiene room.

The patient is encouraged by the hygienist and assistant to reappoint for Co-diagnosis with the doctor.

Care, comfort, concern and professionalism are the main concepts to be communicated.

THE NEW PATIENT EXPERIENCE/CO-DIAGNOSIS

(85% OF New Patients)

Appointment #1

Telephone information is taken and recorded on the “Personal Patient Profile. A convenient appointment is contracted with the patient. Welcome package is sent. Get patient’s permission to send a health history. (If they are hesitant to fill it our at home, we will interview them and fill out the form for the patient.)

When the patient arrives on the day of the appointment, they are acknowledged by name and told that the treatment coordinator will be right with them. Be sure to notice where they sit and notify the T.C. Offer hospitality – coffee, tea, water and/or a magazine.

2. Treatment Coordinator/Assistant Role.
A. Introduced by the front desk. T.C. explains her role.

B. Patient is asked if they would like to see the office. TOUR OF OFFICE. Stress our emphasis on their care and comfort, especially sterilization and infection control.

C. Interview in a private, preferably non-clinical place. After a few minutes of social chit-chat, start the interview by reviewing the health history, dental history and the questions on the Personal Patient Profile. It is not necessary to ask all of the questions on the Profile, just enough to get an understanding of the patient’s issues and establish rapport. Record a healthy history synopsis on the front of the “Examination Record”. Highlight or underline any particularly important information.

D. Key Questions :
Be sure to ask the “expectations” question at the bottom of the Profile. Record the answer word-for-word.

Ask them, “Would it be helpful if I share with you a little about us and what we are trying to achieve in our practice?” This is a good opportunity to share the written “Practice Philosophy” and give them a copy.
In a spirit of self-disclosure and deep personal sharing, let them know that we are in the health business, not the tooth business, Share your own feelings abut your experiences in health care and how our practice might be similar or different. Write down their response.

If the patient has any cosmetic concerns, give them a copy of our “Personal Smile Analysis” and ask them to complete it and bring it with them on their next visit.

Review with the patient the value of full mouth x-rays, study models, and photographs by using a set of generic records. Let them know that the patient and the doctor will determine which records are appropriate for them.

Review the medical and dental histories and make notes on the form for the doctor. Excuse yourself and debrief the doctor about the patient’s history and personality style. Emphasis is placed on the patient’s pace and priority. The doctor is taken into the consultation room and introduced to the patient. The T.C. stays with the doctor and patient only as long it takes for the doctor and patient to establish an initial rapport, then she excuses herself.

Doctor’s role:
A. Social graces – i.e. a conversation based on starting to establish a trust bond relationship between the doctor and the patient. Focus on who referred then, who you may know in common, family, sense of humor. Listen intently!

B. Summarize – Health histories and interview forms (Personal Patient Profile and Personal Smile analysis). Use eye contact, feedback, acceptance, and anchoring. Remember the axiom, “God gave you two eyes, two ears, and one mouth. Learn to use them in that proportion.” C. Contract – Decide with the patient’s approval which diagnostic data will be used to do a complete diagnosis and establish a treatment plan. For comprehensive restorative cases full mouth periapical x-rays, mounted study models, and photographs will be necessary before appointment #2. It may be appropriate to make a separate “Records Appointment” to get the necessary data.

D. Screening exam – The purpose of the screening exam is to determine which diagnostic records are necessary and to get a get a general impression of the state of the patient’s mouth. Be sure to emphasize to the patient that this is not a comprehensive exam. Let them know that during their next visit you will have all of the diagnostic data and complete the exam and do a consultation if that is appropriate. If possible it is beneficial for the patient to have an initial visit with the hygiene department (I.P.T.) prior to the diagnostic appointment, so that pocket charting, bleeding points and AAP periodontal typing will be available at the Co-Diagnosis 2 appointment.

Appointment #2

1. Treatment Coordinator/Assistant role.
A. The patient is met in the reception room, greeted, and conducted into

exam room.

B. Re-establish rapport with the patient. Ask them if any other questions or considerations came up for them since their last visit. Answer the questions you feel confident in and defer the others to the doctor.

C. If the patient has completed a “Personal Smile Analysis”, review their answers and mark areas of concern for the doctor. The doctor is notified that the patient is ready and the doctor is privately debriefed on the attitude, issues and concerns of the patient.

2. Doctor’s role.
A. Doctor takes a few minutes to “reconnect” with the patient, first socially then picking up from the last visit as the Treatment Coordinator relays a summary of her conversation with the patient.

B. The doctor focuses on any questions or concerns of the patient and is careful to write down anything that needs to be addressed after the examination. It is helpful to revisit their answers on the “Personal Patient Profile” and “Personal Smile Analysis.”

C. Helpful questions and discussions that may be used at this time:
How do you feel so far?
Is there anything that you need to know about us or our philosophy that we haven’t discussed.
You may share with them – this is what I would want if I were a patient: 1). Gentleness, and 2). A dentist who will help me need him less.
The differences between emergency, urgency, short term, medium, and long term treatment planning. Quality and timing.
Do you want to keep your teeth for a lifetime?

D. Exam sequencing.
1. The T.C./assistant charts missing teeth and existing restorations from the models and x-rays.

2. On the back of the Examination Record two lists have to be made: 1). Diagnostic Issues. This is a 1, 2, 3, etc. list of major issues to be dealt with in their treatment plan. Examples of commonly used issues are missing teeth, malocclusion and shifting, periodontal condition, caries present, failing restorations, bruxism, oral hygiene, pathology, etc.

2). Diagnostic Options. These are treatment plan options in general terms with no fees attached. These options are usually broken down to mandibular and maxillary segments.

3. Comprehensive oral exam. Including tooth diagnosis, occlusal analysis, oral pathology exam, periodontal exam (If not previously done by the hygienist.) and completion of the entire checklist on the front of the Examination Record.
4. At this point the doctor conducts the patient and T.C. into the Consultation Room, where all of the diagnostic data is assembled on the counter to be discussed by the doctor and the patient. The T.C. usually stays in the room in the background as the doctor summarizes his findings and co-creates the treatment plan with the patient. The conversation may be specific with a patient who thoroughly understands their options and is able to make a decision then. This is particularly true of simple to moderately complex treatment plans.

At this point a very important decision needs to be made. Depending upon the patient’s receptivity, pace (fast or slow) and priority (relationships or things), the doctor must sense whether to continue the process or to reappoint for a separate consultation appointment. Sometimes hygiene appointments, particularly a series of periodontal root planings should be scheduled as a first phase of treatment before major restorative fees are discussed. This is because results of the root planing may alter treatment plan, and having the patient in for a series of appointments with the nurturing atmosphere of our team will made them feel more comfortable with who we are.

Appointment #3

1. The Doctor’s Role. (In a non-clinical setting.)
Ask the following questions and record the answers:

How have you enjoyed your experience with us?
Have you decided how you want to see your teeth in 10 years?
How may we help you with your plan?
The doctor listens, responds, gets agreement on the patient’s plan of action, finalizes the treatment plan and quotes the fee, if appropriate at that time. The doctor asks the T.C. to discuss financial arrangements and make appropriate appointments. Doctor exits.

2. Treatment Coordinator/Assistant’s Role.
Asks patient if there is anything that needs clarification at this time. Answers concerns.

Whatever treatment has been agreed upon, the T.C. discusses financial arrangements, completes and has the patient sign a “Treatment Estimate”, makes the next appointment and collects the down payment. The T.C. is responsible that all financial arrangements made by her be signed and dated by the patient.

When the patient leaves, before going on to another task, the T.C. puts the patient’s case in the computer for tracking. If the treatment is to be phased, multiple cases are used. The doctor is presented with an updated tracking report every Monday morning. The status of pending treatment is discussed and follow-up measures are assigned.

It is important that all patients be kept in the periodontal recare system so that pending treatment may also be tracked and the video used in hygiene to revisit their need for restorative.

THE ENTIRE OFFICE IS COMMITTED MAINTAINING AN ONGOING, PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH THE PATIENT.

Co-discovery & Co-diagnosis – What’s the Difference?

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Bob Barkley is largely credited for bringing two terms into our profession’s lexicon: “Co-discovery” and “Co-diagnosis”.

And as a consequence, both terms are commonly seen in articles, books, and presentations focused on patient-centered care as well as during programs which teach comprehensive treatment planning and case acceptance.

Rarely however, do we see distinctions made between Co-discovery and Co-diagnosis, when in-fact these terms represent two distinctly different phases of a new patient process which have different objectives.

Today, let’s clarify the distinctions.

“Co-discovery” can simply and accurately be described as “learning with”. And Bob Barkley was extremely intentional about HOW he structured his new patient experience so that optimal “learning with” occurred each time.

Learning with what?

Bob intentionally created a new and unique experience for BOTH the new patient and himself, in which they -in real time – learned about not only what was wrong in a patient’s mouth, but also what was right…about what was healthy and what was pathological…about what was subjectively attractive and what was not…about what was functional and dysfunctional… and about what was trending toward becoming a problem.

But of equal importance, Bob and the patient were simultaneously learning about HOW THE PATIENT FELT ABOUT WHAT THEY WERE LEARNING AND WHAT IT MEANT TO THEM.

That’s Co-discovery… objective, subjective, AND emotional learning which happens in a safe, non-threatening, caring, constructive, and infinitely useful fashion.

Co-diagnosis on the other hand, is what happens AFTER co-discovery. It is the informed conversation focused around what the findings mean and what the implications are on the physical, functional, and emotional levels as well as what the patient wants to do about it -and when.

Bob Barkley was so committed to this process that he stated in his new patient brochure, “While it is important that a dentist diagnose your mouth, it is far more important that YOU diagnose it. The extent to which you understand your mouth determines your ability to plan for your future.”

Notice here that Bob is intentionally NOT taking ownership of the patient’s condition, or choices. In fact, he states his deeply held belief that patients can make better choices for themselves if WE give them a chance.*

So in the end, Co-discovery and Co-diagnosis are actually about fostering ownership, self-responsibility, and therefore facilitating the creation of healthy and effective emotional boundaries with our patients.

And Co-discovery and Co-diagnosis were the critical steps #1 and #2 in predictably making that happen.

Pretty impressive for 1972, wouldn’t you say?

Paul A Henny, DDS

* Bob Barkley also stated in his book Successful Preventive Dental Practices, “No greater risk of failure can be run than that of attempting to use traditional patient management procedures in a health oriented restorative practice. Examining and treating a patient’s mouth without prior attitudinal development is an error of omission for which the dentist pays handsomely with time, energy, stress, and money.”

CoDiscovery – Facilitated Self-Confrontation

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It is customary for dentists and team members to want -and to work at establishing- conflict-free “friendships” with patients. Unfortunately in many cases this can lead to a rather superficial, intimacy-avoidant mutual-exchange-of-favors, a “we will provide you with services without making you emotionally uncomfortable, while you give us your money in exchange” arrangement.

But if we truly care about our patient’s well-being AND we have a health-centered mission, this simply can not be the case, as too many patients will linger in a state of instability or decline if their needs are not confronted.

To strategically confront another regarding their important health care needs is to exercise leadership -and often positional- power. Exercising this power is nothing less than an attempt to influence the course of events in another person’s life. And to do so without a moral and truly helping mindset is unethical, unprofessional, and a violation of trust.

When in a situation where we want to positively influence another person, it is important to keep in mind that there are several ways that this can be accomplished beyond the use of direct confrontation or criticism*, which often create the opposite of the desired outcome -rejection- as the patient often is unable to conceptualize the value or relevance of what has been proposed.

Four of the most useful methods of positive influence in dentistry are:

1. Humble inquiry
2. Suggestion
3. Story-telling
4. Creation of experience.

In top level patient-centered practices, the first three forms of influence are often combined to create the fourth, “creation of experience” – which is what Bob Barkley’s co-discovery is all about.

More specifically, Co-discovery is about the CREATION OF AN OPTIMAL LEARNING EXPERIENCE which is in essence a gentle form of self-confrontation. This happens as Co-discovery shifts the Care Team member out of the authoritarian “expert” role and into a role of a facilitator and co-therapist WITH the patient.

This approach defuses the natural tendency toward defensiveness by empowering the patient and moves them toward ownership and better decision-making. It also tends to self-motivate them to change the status quo in the direction of improved health, functioning, and esthetics.

Integration of a highly effective co-discovery method is essential to the success of a patient and health-centered practice and particularly for those practitioners who do not have a steady flow of well-referred prospective restorative patients.

Paul A Henny, DDS

* It is important to note that many patients experience a “review of findings” or “case presentation” as an uncomfortable and critical confrontation regarding how they have been taking care of their mouth. And this often generates a natural defensive posture which short-circuits learning and shuts down creative problem-solving.

Commitment is Key

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There are two distinctly different ways patients will say “yes” to treatment. Some say “yes” because the dentist has positional authority, which they subsequently honor. In this case, the patient COMPLIES without significantly understanding what is going to happen or why the treatment has been proposed.

On the other hand, others make much more deeply informed choices through facilitated choice-making. These decisions are based upon their values, goals, and vision for themselves going forward. These decisions represent COMMITMENT.

Achieving commitment is an essential step when providing complex restorative, esthetic, and/or expensive treatment. (Commitment is less critical when proposing less expensive primary or emergency treatment).

Problems arise when patients COMPLY but do not fully COMMIT, particularly when some aspect of the treatment process goes off-course. Perhaps the treatment process was much more uncomfortable or inconvenient than anticipated, or the outcome was not what they expected …the implant failed…the crown was never comfortable to chew on…the new fillings were always sensitive…the root canal always odd…the front teeth never looked completely natural.

This potentially creates resentment, or a level of disappointment which may or may not be expressed. In some cases, the patient leaves the practice as a result. And in the worst case scenario, the patient pursues legal advice.

Co-discovery, pioneered by Bob Barkley, helps patients to more consistently and predictably move toward commitment. Complying is not necessarily collaborating, and often does not involve the patient taking ownership of their problems – a critical boundary issue.

Commitment is different – it is collaborative. It places ownership in the right place ( a shared – interdependent relationship ). Commitment is the goal, and being patient and waiting for it to emerge via facilitation is key.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, ©2017

Read more at www.codiscovery.com

Experiential Learning is Key

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We all have goals in our lives, and so do our patients. These goals may include learning a new technique, losing weight, saving money, or attaining a healthy attractive smile.

And it is easy to assume that the gap between where we are now, and where we want to be in the future, is caused by a lack of knowledge. It is also easy to assume that the same issue exists with our patients…that they just need to be informed more…that they “need to be educated” more.

But the reality is that knowledge alone rarely influences or drives behavior. In fact, new information may actually undercut progress toward change.

How so?

It all comes down to our personal and cultural bias toward ‘cognitivism’ – the belief that left brain objective facts and truths cause people to learn and therefore change.

But it simply does not work that way.

Learning something new and being exposed to new information are two VERY different things. Carl Rogers brilliantly explored this topic in his landmark book, ‘Freedom to Learn’, a book about the importance of experiential learning.

In many cases, the constant exposure to new information can be a clever way for us to avoid taking action. We studiously watch the news every night, but do nothing with the knowledge. We take course after course, but on Monday mornings, the routines and rituals resume. We even see patients bounce from one “second opinion” to another, seemingly stalemated.

In situations like these, we and our patients often claim that we are preparing or researching for the best answer, but such thinking is often just a rationalization to ourselves that we are moving forward when in actuality we are going nowhere, coddled in our bubble of the latest and greatest information steaming from the world’s greatest thinkers.

Acquiring knowledge and failing to apply it has become a multimillion dollar info-tainment industry in dentistry. And the fun locations, great socializing and food can all be expensed!

But what happens at the end of the day? A record number of CE credits to brag about? Another notch on the belt for studying under the latest guru?

Carl Rogers taught us that the highest levels of significant learning must include personal involvement at both the affective and cognitive levels, be self-initiated and so pervasive that it changes attitudes, behavior, and in some cases, even the personality of the learner.

New behavior emerges out of new beliefs, which are anchored in our values, and which create new meanings which then shape our habits.

It is our habits – not our knowledge which shape our lives. And it is habits -not knowledge- which shape the lives of our patients as well.

Paul A Henny, DDS

Thought Experiments LLC, © 2016

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