CoDiscovery is Visoneering.

Build your relationships first….then your dentistry. ~ Bob Barkley

CoDiscovery is Visoneering.

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The vast majority of problems we face each day are small in scale, and have little impact on us long term. The grass needs to be mowed…Jenny needs to be picked up after ballet practice…there is a ten minute back-up on our route to work, and we are already delayed because we left the house late.

Many of these problems are familiar to us, along with how to best address them. So much so that we create routines around them which become rather thoughtless…we go through the motions. And as long as we successfully resolve the problems, we don’t think much more about them.

On a neuroscience level, problem-resolution of this type is largely managed by the left hemisphere of our brain as well as our cerebellum – where thoughtless, repetitive behaviors are stored and executed.

And thoughtless is the key word here.

When new patients come to us with a problem…a broken tooth…sensitivity…a filling which has come out…and these problems have been managed in a reductionistic fashion in the past…”We can fix that for you”…”Silver fillings expand and make teeth weak”…”You need to replace that with an implant”… the patient often surrenders to the authority figure…”You’re the Doctor”…and makes a rather routinized, thoughtless decision to defer to the expert, do what their insurance “covers”, or do whatever they need to do so they can forget about the problem and move on to addressing the ten other issues on their mind.

This is how most dental decision are made. They are made based on convenience, immediate necessity, or cost. Much less frequently, are decisions made around the complex value we call “health”.

Yes, health is a value as well as a state of being. And it’s relative, as one person’s idea of health is another person’s idea of being out of shape, or on the verge of a disaster. The smoker who has not yet been diagnosed with cancer, often considers themselves healthy. The person with periodontal disease who still has teeth in their mouth, thinks they are doing just fine.

How do we help our patients make better decisions…decisions which are centered around true health…a “higher” value…instead of around “lower” values such as convenience, expedience, or cost?

That is only possible through a facilitated relationship designed for people to learn more, assign new meanings to what they are learning, create new beliefs about what is possible -or likely- and establish the motivation within themselves to do something about it.

In other words, behavior change occurs through a relationship which supports values clarification, prioritization, and execution.

And that takes time.

That takes patience.

That takes clarity of purpose.

That takes a commitment to help patients develop a new perspective and vision about their likely and preferred future.

Bob Barkley called this type of process ”Codiscovery,” where he strategically, moved patients out of their left hemisphere way of thinking over to their right hemisphere, – the place where visions, meaning, and creative problem-solving happen.

In this way, Bob transitioned HIMSELF from being just a problem-solver, and “Mr. fix-it,” into what he liked to call “a success planner,” who would then help others gaze off into the distant future, and then encourage them to use that vision as a source of motivation to make changes in their beliefs…to make changes in their behavior …to make changes in their health…and to make changes in their life.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

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How shame kills positive change.

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Many of our patients come to us feeling inadequate, feeling less-than, feeling like they should have done more, feeling like they are in an un-recoverable situation, and therefore feeling ashamed.

Shame represents the most powerful of our negative emotions. So much so in fact, that it can shape our entire life and our daily behavior. Shame is so painful to experience that most of us will avoid it at all cost, and as a result, we will fail to learn that our shame is almost always based on a distorted perspective, and it therefore does not represent reality.

Most patients come to us with an expectation of being judged, and of therefore feeling flawed and inadequate. These feelings often trigger shame, and shame shuts down their ability to learn and make better decisions – values-based decisions, instead of fear-based decisions.

Shame is driven by memories, which are linked to powerful feelings – feelings which are quite painful. Most of these memories are held in the left hemisphere of the brain, and are stored there out of context, recalled, and then linked to new experiences. In other words, our new experiences trigger old feelings based on old memories. And these are unproductive feelings -feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. Feelings which imply that the same negative things are going to happen over and over again, so why even try to change anything? Why not just surrender? What not just “have them all taken out”?

This is how the brain works, because the brain’s primary job is not to make us happy, rather it is to protect us so that we can live for another day. So, you can see here that often times the brain’s attempt to help us -hurts us, particularly when we need to be making significant, more health-centered course corrections in our life.

Helping others make complex decisions with regard to dentistry, therefore requires us to first and foremost move people past their current level of understanding and perception, and toward a vision of something new and better. And on a neuroscience level, this means moving them out of their left hemisphere where all of the negative emotions and memories are stored, and which are holding them back.

Bob Barkley designed CoDiscovery to do just that – to move people away from “deductive thinking,” to “inductive thinking.” And inductive thinking happens in the right hemisphere, and is narrative-driven…more specifically self-narrative driven.

What’s an inductive self-narrative? Today, we commonly call that a “vision.“ Bob liked to call it ”future focusing,” a term he learned from Ben Singer.

So, the game if you will, is to move people past their shame, past their distorted perceptions, past their incomplete version of reality and into a mindset which envisions something better – something they can co-create, something which is congruent with their values-driven self-narrative, and based on reality.

How to do that is exactly what we will be talking about at the next BBSC meeting in DC.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

One and done?

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Short-term profits have rapidly become the new coin of the realm in dentistry. And increasingly it’s a transaction in the form of implants.

Almost weekly know, I am meeting face-to-face with a person who wants implants and knows nothing about them, had some placed in a quick and unplanned fashion, and/or has some failing implants.

Marketing.

Tooth-in-a-day.

Smile-in-a-day.

What a great concept…

except when it’s not.

Except when it may be harmful in the long run because the person’s occlusion, bruxism, or smoking habit is so self-destructive that the implant(s) will never survive it.

Everyone it seems, is now an expert on implants or wants to be, but only a few have the analysis, technical and communication skills to perform the procedure well, and fully inform and prepare the patient for what they are actually getting into.

One and done?

Not likely.

But that is what is implied over and over to a person in crisis, has a trusting nature, and just wants to get on with their life.

Implants are being placed in people’s mouths with poor hygiene and with no habit or intention of keeping the maintenance visits.

Implants are being placed before any occlusal analysis, or true informed consent.

But look at our production numbers! Now we can go on a Caribbean cruise together and learn more about stem cells!

Reductionism in implant dentistry’s now mainstream and Carl Misch has to be rolling over in his grave.

Seth Godin says:

“There’s always a shortcut, a rule to be bent, a way to make some more money now at the expense of the people around us.”

My oral surgeon is no longer touching implants placed by other people, and my periodontist is growing weary of bailing other people out of their bad decisions, as it’s consuming too much of his time and distracting him from being productive.

All of this is leading us towards people having greater and greater frustration toward dentists and dentistry, and the wrong direction in too many cases.

Fortunately, if you have the trust and relationship building skills, you can help some of these people out -at least the ones who can afford the revision, the dramatic change in course, and a different treatment philosophy. The rest -the ones who couldn’t really afford the implant(s) in the first place, but were talked into it…they’re screwed.

And angry.

And might be sitting in your chair on Monday.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

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Whose life will you change today?

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I just learned that one of the greatest influencers of my life passed away yesterday. His name is Bob Sweazy. Perhaps you too have had a person like this unexpectedly enter your life – and change it forever.

I met Bob when I was just a few years out of dental school. At that point he was fifty, while I was thirty. He had already been “retired” for ten years after becoming a millionaire by the age of 40. Boredom soon set in, so he decided to “do something else,” because it was completely impossible for Bob to sit at home and read, and review his past victories.

Bob was born on a small sharecropper’s farm in Perryville, Ky. Little did he know that he would eventually become my lifelong inspiration and my hero.

Bob spent one year at the University of Kentucky before leaving due to financial hardship and an employment opportunity to work at a new hotel chain called ‘Holiday Inn.’

The job- doorman. Bob had this smile and energetic interest in virtually every person he met. He always looked for the positive and the potential in people. And as a result, he worked his way to the top of a corporation which owned 30 Holiday Inns up and down the east coast.

This job required Bob to travel frequently all over the country by private jet to do business with high powered bankers and other wealthy and influential people. Being a small town boy, with no exposure to how to function in such circles, Bob taught himself how to do it. He learned how to properly address and connect with people of power. He learned how to function at a table with white linens, four forks, and four wine glasses. He learned how to walk into a room full of multimillionaires and take control of it, not by trying to impress everyone, but through his love.

When I met Bob, he had recently opened a ultra-fine tabletop and accessories store in Lexington, Kentucky. It was called The Galleria, where he took all of his knowledge, experience, and love for people and created a store which in many ways was more attractive and service-oriented than Tiffany’s in Manhattan. By doing so, all of the ‘horse-people’ flocked there, as they had farms in greater Lexington as well as New York and Florida.

At the Galleria, the gifts were so elaborately wrapped that people would bring presents they had bought at other stores, and would pay Bob’s staff to properly wrap them. You can only image what they looked like.

Bob and I became close friends, spending many, many hours together talking about life, business, and people. And the one take-away that I can share with you is that you have to learn how to look for the best in others as well as how to cultivate it.

Our friendship eventually led to our opening a store together – The Galleria Kitchen Shop. Bob gave me full reign, so we went to the great markets in NYC and Atlanta to merchandise the store. I designed it, and managed it simultaneously while also running my fledgling dental practice upstairs. And it was a huge success- enough so that I almost quit dentistry.

Then this thing called the internet came along…the ultimate disruptor. And people started to look but not buy. Rather, they would learn from us why a Henkel knife was the way to go, or All Clad, or whatever, and then they would but it at Williams Sonoma on-line.

Over time, we could see the writing on the wall. And both stores were closed at that location. Bob moved the Galleria two times to have moderate but waining success. Eventually he closed it entirely, and I went on after being inspired by my exposure to Avrom King’s writing and Bob Barkley- infused with the person-centered approaches I had learned from Bob Sweazy, to practice the way I do today.

Bob next went into selling real estate via all of his social connections, with the top firm in Lexington. He worked -because he love being with and helping others -up until last year, and turning 80.

I share this with you because I feel the need to point out that we all have the opportunity to be the Bob Sweazy in somebody else’s life.

We can all make a difference.

Life is not about money, or status, or impressing others with what we have.

It’s about giving.

It’s about believing in others.

It’s about loving.

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Paul A. Henny, DDS

On birthing new beliefs

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We all have a deep longing and need for meaningful interpersonal connection. And we all have a need to feel acknowledged, valued, and yes – loved.

We all want to feel significant, seen, heard, and understood. We all would like to know that we are not suffering alone, and that what we are experiencing and suffering-through is not entirely unique…that others have “been there,” and they have not only survived, but thrived as a result of it.

All of these feelings, needs, and desires are within us, however, in our fast-paced, high-stress, and impersonal culture, we easily forget. It has become too easy for us to assume that we are more autonomous than we really truly are…that our functional independence represents a higher virtue than interdependence.

But such feelings are just an illusion – and do not represent the truth. Rather, they represent a rationalization, and a distortion of reality fabricated by our mind to help us get through yet another lonely, disconnected day.

When we intentionally allow the time and create the space to connect with our patients on a deeper interpersonal level, we not only become more effective, but we also are honoring our true nature…we are acting more “authentically.” We are acknowledging that we are inseparable from others – that we all share our humanity, along with similar fears, concerns, doubts, and hopes.

Yet, the deconstructionist nature of our insurance-centric profession wants to pull us in the exact opposite direction. It constantly wants to draw our attention to the tooth and not the person…to the problem, and not how the person feels about it, much-the-less what they aspire towards.

Yesterday, I spent about an hour in conversation and examination…back and forth, establishing facts, relevance, feelings, and personal meaning, as well as the start of a vision. This particular person was a 70 year old realtor with significant occlusal breakdown and concurrent loss of vertical dimension. She had two implants placed recently by an oral surgeon who never looked at her occlusion holistically, and who told her she was “ready” to have them restored. And indeed, they could be restored, but their chance of survival is limited due to the very unfavorable forces created by her destroyed anterior guidance.

“I have never had this kind of conversation with a dentist before,” she said. “I had no idea all of this was going on, and how things were trending. My previous dentists (there were two who were co-treating her since she spends part of her year in California) told me I had a few problems which needed to be addressed, but I have never had the opportunity to understand things in this way, I am so glad you took the time to share this with me.”

This is a perfect example of the brilliance of Bob Barkley’s work. When this person had previously been told that “she had some problems,” and was handed a list of what “needed to be done,” -she shut down, as she had no capacity to understand the new information in any kind of relevant context. Instead, a fear-based barrier went up because she felt like she was functioning as an isolated individual, alone, inadequate, unarmed, and flawed.

This represents a natural response in our current culture of mistrust, as well as a growing problem within our production-centric (instead of people-centric) profession. And this is why the data show that case acceptance rates for comprehensive dentistry hovers at best around the 30% mark for most dentists.

Relevance is everything.

Meaning is everything.

Creative problem solving (“success planning” as Bob Barkley used to call it) is everything.

CoDiscovery is a brilliantly designed way to connect with people, gently lift up their level of awareness, as it allows them to explore the relevance of what they are learning. “When awareness meets relevance, we have the birth of a new belief through a change in attitude toward a problem,” Barkley said.

So, we are all need to be in the ‘new belief development business’ if we want to be successful at facilitating heath in others. And that is only possible by knowing our patients on a much deeper and significant level.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

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PS: That hour with my patient yesterday was pure enjoyment for me, as I watched the light bulbs turn on.

Avoid Dualism

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Dualism- the cleaving into two from that which is truly one- colors our beliefs regarding health and illness. Consequently, we in the Western world attempt to understand the body as if it were in total isolation of the mind… we want to describe human beings – healthy or otherwise- as though they are functioning in isolation from the environment in which they have developed, are living, working, playing, loving and dying. These are the built-in and hidden biases of our Western medical orthodoxy, an orthodoxy which most of us heathcare providers absorbed during our training, and then carried with us into practice.

Gabor Maté, MD

The above is a quote which strikes at the very heart of Bob Barkley’s work…that the ‘dualism’ inadvertently learned in dental school, is ineffective if the goal is to create a practice full of successful, healthy and happy patients.

Authenticity matters

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Bob Barkley frequently told us that most dentists leave dental school with a bizarre psychological combination of superiority and paranoia. The superiority complex comes from the educational process as well as from being inadvertently sheltered from the experience of seeing their own clinical dentistry fail. The paranoia evolves out of the distorted world view a dentist acquires in dental school due to their freedom from the economic, staffing, leadership, and the other psychological stressors of private practice.

Dentistry can be very frustrating, as well as financially and emotionally threatening to dentists. When we add to this the truth that many patients experience dentistry in similar ways, then you can easily see how a ‘perfect storm’ can develop.

At times, the ‘perfect storm’ requires an adaptive response, and different dentists will develop different coping strategies while attempting to manage it. Some experience the pain associated with these frustrations, and check it at the door. Some retreat into self-protective cacoons full of rationalizations and blaming, while others leave the profession entirely. Others bury their pain in substance abuse or tragically take their own lives during periods of deep dispair.

Finding the balance between the pain of growth and the pleasure of accomplishment through a growing self-regard is key. And that was why L.D. Pankey led a small revolution in dentistry.

Living with the constant anxiety the practice of dentistry can produce, is to be constantly followed around by a little voice in our head. And that little voice knows all about our weaknesses, it knows all about our mistakes, and it knows just how to play with our insecurities and how to masterfully mobilize ourself against ourself.

One of the most common adaptations we make is to become a chronic people-pleaser because we need to make payroll. We need to service the debt. We need to make financial adjustments due to the new baby at home.

We smile and try to look our best at all times by putting on the facade that everything is just fine. We say, “I am doing great, how are you?” twenty times a day, while we think, “If I can just get through today, tomorrow might be better.”

We pretend that we know more than we know, while acting more successful than we really are. We build up these walls, and then we very cleverly learn how to function behind them.

But intuitive team members and patients know something is amiss, because they can see it in our eyes and face, they can hear it in our tone of voice, and observe it in our inability to sit and truly listen to them.

At some point we need to find a way back to ourselves because our patients need it, our team members need it, and we need it, along with our spouses, children and communities.

Developing a truly Relaionship-based / Health-centered practice is the best way to square the circle between who we are and what we repeatedly do. And that feels good, because it promotes our growth as well as the growth of others.

And truly serving others with our whole heart is the place where happiness and fulfillment is found – even in this frustrating and imperfect world.

Aristotle said so.

L.D. Pankey said so.

Bob Barkley said so.

Each of us has more wisdom inside of us than we can possibly know. And the trick to gaining access to that wisdom lies in our to ability quiet that anxious, disempowering voice in our heads, while pushing though our current challenges and toward our more authentic selves.

Paul A. Henny, DDS


CBD Dialogue Part 3

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Part 3:

The endocannabinoid system (ECS), upon which CBD, or cannabidiol, influences, was discovered in the early 1990’s. Since that time, we have learned that the ECS helps regulate neurotransmission, inflammatory cycling within cells, pain signaling to the brain, insulin sensitivity, bone metabolism, and limbic system functioning, just to name a few.

Consequently, CBD formulations are currently being used to manage anxiety, depression, stress, PTSD, Autism, Parkinson’s Disease, Alzheimer’s Disease, IBS, Chrohn’s Disease, fibromyalgia, insomnia, glaucoma, macular degeneration, osteoporosis, and diabetes.

In the realm of dentistry, CBD is commonly and successfully used to manage anxiety, promote post-surgical healing, pain management, muscle relaxation, and for reducing inflammatory responses.

The ECS has neuroreceptors throughout the body which function via neurochemicals our body produces on demand called endocannabinoids. These receptor sites are also influenced by phytocannabinoids – plant based analogues found in unusually high concentration in hemp/cannabis.

ECS receptors (CB1, CB2, and CB3) are found throughout the body, and this is why CBD – a phytocannabinoid- positivity influences brain function including memory, mood, pain perception, cognition, emotions, motor function, and habits.

Outside the nervous system, ECS receptors are found in the intestinal tract, liver, heart, immune system, skin, and other organs. Consequently, the ECS regulates a wide range of physiological effects, with the goal of maintaining homeostasis and healing.

Additionally, endocannabinoids produced by the body, and phytocannabinoids such as CBD, positively influence other neuroreceptors in the body such as TRPV1 sites responsible for managing chronic pain, 5-HT3 sites which manage our vomiting response, and GABA sites responsible for sedation, muscle relaxation, anti-convulsant activity, and anti-anxiety effects on the body.

As you can easily see, the impact of the ECS, and therefore CBD, is broad and represents a relatively new area of research.

In my next segment we will explore how to choose CBD products, and how to use and prescribe them to potentially help yourself, your family, your friends, and your patients.

Paul A. Henny, DDS

To read parts 1 & 2 of this series, please visit CoDiscovery.com

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